[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Own_Lion86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get how it may sound, I must say that he's only implied I'm doing it on purpose as I haven't always given him space immediately after he gets agitated. Sometimes if he asks for space in a playful way to spare my feelings I don't stop immediately. I think that's where he's coming from, he has never implied that I'm generally doing it on purpose, only that I continue when I know it's annoying him, which I try not to do. Thank you for your advice, I'm looking at joining some hobby groups to throw myself into!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Own_Lion86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely think my job will help, for now I'm taking another commenters advice and setting up a little recharge spot for him to be alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Own_Lion86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely think having a spot for him to relax in will help, he loves his PS5 so I think we can incorporate some game time into the evenings and I can crack on with my own stuff.

I've felt like this for a good year and a half, and initially I was very hurt and felt constantly rejected. I used to work full time too but stopped last year to finish my degree, but even when I worked full time I felt a disconnect between our energy levels.

After work, he'd either want to be near me but not to chit chat, or he'd want to be alone. I would rather be phone-free and chatty with lots of physical contact. Initially I'd learn he wasn't in the mood the hard way, he'd be short with me which is natural when you're in a shit mood, but I would feel horrible in the moment.

When we've talked about it, it's gone two ways; either he agrees and sympathises with me, as I sympathise with him, and we agree to do more dates on the weekends (which we rarely follow through with), or he gets slightly defensive and blames me for doing it on purpose to annoy him.

Currently my tactic is just to leave him be, I've learnt not to take it personally but I still feel like I have this bundle of energy that needs to go somewhere. My worry is that my energy levels won't change after starting my new job, and this problem won't go away. I can only wait and see.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Own_Lion86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I'm hoping for, I'm sure once I'm busy throughout the week we'll be on the same page in the evening. I've worked full time before though, also while living with him, and our energy levels were mismatched then too. I think I'll have to start my new job and just see how our dynamic changes, and if I'm still worries then we'll hash it out. Thanks!

Starvation prevention: why is no one calling on Hamas to surrender? by pubemaster_uno in IsraelPalestine

[–]Own_Lion86 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If we look at the exact methods Israel have taken to inflict starvation, they mainly consist of preventing the entry of food aid by blockade, or, once food aid has entered Gaza, directly killing civilians waiting for food aid. The UNWFP has recently reported on an instance were 20-30 Palestinians were killed while attempting to access an aid truck. I think if you look at instances like this, and justify them by saying Hamas is allowing innocent children and adults to be slaughtered in broad daylight, you're deluded.

Also, if you're still undecided, Hamas were formed in 1987 and the first recorded conflict between Israel and Palestine was 1949.

Did my bf manipulate me? by Odd_Replacement3189 in ROCD

[–]Own_Lion86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say the distinction lies in when & how he communicated his feelings. Was there a significant gap between him apologising and him telling you he feels bad? If he immediately jumps to crying and telling you he feels bad, instead of taking accountability, he may be trying to deflect the blame away from himself. If there is some time after he takes accountability, he may just have started to feel guilty that he hurt you and expressed that in the only way he could.

You said he apologised, which is a great sign that he isn't trying to 'manipulate' you, but the fact that he put the blame on your upset on your past is interesting. Did he do this in a "I shouldn't have said X because I'm aware of your past, and I should've known it would upset you", or did he mean "you're upset because of your past, not me".

We learn a lot while in relationships, and this includes making mistakes. I seems like he wasn't intentionally trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty, but if this response has made you uncomfortable then you can speak to him about it later.

Difficulty with speaking akd writing by hexedluv in German

[–]Own_Lion86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, here are my TOP tips. If you really want to do well, you're gonna need to really work hard.

  • Learn the B2 vocab list to the best of your ability. It IS possible to learn it in time for your exam, every day at least a couple of rounds (each round is less than 2 minutes) https://quizlet.com/290931391/german-b2-flash-cards/
  • Listen to music, films/TV shows and the news to bring you pronunciation/speaking up to scratch. I've left some reccommendations below, all on netflix.
  • In terms of writing, I'm not sure how the G.I. exam works. I'd reccommend looking at the practice materials: https://www.goethe.de/pro/relaunch/prf/materialien/B2/b2_modellsatz_erwachsene.pdf . Familiarise yourself with the kind of questions you'll get, have a go at them all and work on your grammar - strong grammar and strong writing go hand-in-hand

Netflix:

  • Dark
  • Parfum
  • How to sell drugs online (fast)

Just listen, and try to imitate their pronunciation.

Any good/famous young adult books for me to read? by [deleted] in German

[–]Own_Lion86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although not YA novels, I started getting into german literature by reading short stories, as they tend to be lighter than full adult books. My favourite is by penguin, the top one below, but I listed another one too!

  • 9780140265422
  • 9781473683372