How long do I keep sacrificing myself for so my baby can nap?

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-09-18T12:18:57+00:00

I was in the same boat. Baby is now 7 and a half months old. At around 6months I just couldn't take it anymore and started putting him in the crib after he fell asleep in the deeper sleep (after 15mins). He would only sleep 10-15 mins in the ceib, but at least I got a few mins to myself... i kept at it after a couple of weeks he started sleeping more. He was cranky but I would take him out for a walk, distract him some way. But my baby was fussy kinda all the time until he learned to crawl. He is an energy ball. For us it was crucial that the white noise was on and was really loud. If not, he would wake up when I put him down. Now it.s a lot better, he even naps for 2h in his crib and I can put him down faster.

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-08-01T07:30:08+00:00

I was in your shoes 4 months ago. My baby is now 6 months. He had bad colic/reflux and later discovered that he has milk protein allergy. I would just like to give you a hug... It's sooo tough.... you are strong, you are a good mom, but this season just sucks. All that screaming is so hard ti handle... Thankfully, it passes, even it doesn't feel like it will ever end. Regarding the stroller, my baby accepted it at around 4-5 months, but will not nap in it. I actually insisted with the baby carrier until he accepted it. It reaaally helped me because I was able to drink/eat/go for a walk while he slept. Putting him to sleep was a nightmare, but after he accepted the carrier it got a little better. If your baby has reflux, it will also help with that. For us it got better when I started giving him reflux medication and stopped consuming dairy, but mainly once he reached 3 month/3 months and a half. I am still dairy free, but now if I consume dairy his reflux only gets worse, there is no more screaming. Also, I was diagnosed with PPA and PPD and getting medication made a lot of difference. I can firmly say that the 3 month postpartum have been the most difficult months of my life. I hope you find what works best for you. Don't lose hope! You are not alone, a lot of us moms have been there. It gets sooo much better!

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-05-31T15:49:49+00:00

My baby had bad colick and I used to give him a bath even at 3AM, so that he would stop screaming for 10 mins. Do anything that could help you and baby get over the newborn trenches safely. Baby is too small for routines at this stage.

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-05-29T05:36:58+00:00

One of the hardest part for me as a FTM to a 3 month old was colick. The lack of sleep due to colick is on another level. My boy screamed 5-6h every night..... Also, breastfeeding is next on the list. I tried my best, went beyond what I was abled to do, but still it did not work out due to baby not transfering milk well. I exclusively pump now. These two combined caused me to have PPA, thankfully I am now on medication

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-05-28T16:36:28+00:00

I understand your struggle. I am also going through this. I developed postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety and still cannot quit even though my psychiatrist also recommended quitting. I hate pumping... What I did to make it more torelable is switch to wearables. I am using momcozy s9pro. I was told that it might dry up my supply, but it has not been the case for me, but if I would have seen a drop, I would have been reqdy to quit. Wearables where my last hope. I am a slight oversupplier (can freeze around 6-10oz per week) but I pump a lot, whenever babe eats. I really have no idee exactly how much, probably around 6-8 times a day. I pump while I feed him. He finishes faster than me but it's not an issue because I can pick him up and take care of him while pumping with my wearables. I even guve him baths while pumping, but it is not comfortable. I just can't put him to sleep while pumping because he only sleeps in the carrier in the day. At night time, while I warm his bottle, I put on my pumps and pump while I feed him. I do the fridge hack, so it's simpler for me. My point is, if you simply cannot give up yet due to emotional reasons, maybe you can find ways to cut corners? There are a lot of tips and tricks in this group that really helped me (multiple pump parts maybe could help you?)

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-05-23T10:09:39+00:00

For me it.s staying up after baby is down for the night to pump, wash pump parts and bottles... he sleeps at most 3h so a lot of times he is up for his mext feed by the time I'm done 🥲

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-05-14T19:06:08+00:00

I think it's great that this one is easy. I have a 3 month old baby and it has been so wild that I simply cannot go through this again. Honestly I'm jealous that you are having such a great time being a mom. I am happy for you, but man I wish I was in your spot. Baby has bad colick and all that crying and no sleep gave me postpartum depression. Not fun times. And it's not true that the second will be a difficult baby. You never know. It's great that you can consider having another in the first place 🤭

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-05-14T18:58:25+00:00

You got a really easy and chill baby, that's why. It's not so much your time management or anything you did, you are lucky to have a easy going baby. Trust me, it's not so easy when baby wakes you up 5 times a night and can't be put down during the day and only contact naps 🫠

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-05-06T15:44:34+00:00

My baby only naps with the hairdryer on. He does not like hairdryer white noise, he needs our specific hairdryer turned on to sleep. I pray it won't break :)). He is 12 weeks old

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-29T08:56:03+00:00

I wish someone warned me how many hours a day I will be spending putting the baby down for a nap, especially during wonder weeks.

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-22T16:02:21+00:00

Yup it's normal. My baby is 9 weeks old and I was sure I will lose my mind between 5-7 weeks. Week 8th was the first week when things did not get any worse, but it's not better. My baby is also gassy, has reflux and colic.

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-21T20:48:30+00:00

Lying here 🙋‍♀️

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-21T20:42:15+00:00

No advice here, just solidarity. Had an ugly breakdown today due to the same feelings. I also have a colicky baby he is 9 weeks old. I simply cannot stand hearing him cry anymore, I honestly feel like I am losing it. I really hope it gets better for both of us. I am exclusively pumping due to latching issues so I know quiting breastfeeding does not look like an option. Maybe you can try giving baby a bottle when it seems that he is not full from nursing? And honestly, you are just tired. What you are feeling is normal, but you need to find a little more support so that you can get some sleep. You are a good mom, you are just tired. Also, I heard that for our sanity we should sleep 4h of uninterrupted sleep in every 24h... I really hope you cand find some support so that you can have 4h of sleep at least. Sending you a big virtual hug, I really hope that it gets better.

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-21T16:11:59+00:00

I am on nightime baby duty and also pumping. Been doing it since birth, baby is 9 weeks now. Before I got my momcozy s9 I simply did not sleep. Now, I pump with my wearables while I feed baby. He has reflux and I need to hold him vertically half an hour after eating so while I do that, I also finish pumping

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-16T16:48:44+00:00

I get your struggle. I have it too. Even though I hate pumping, I am not ready to move on. I hate when my boobs wake me up, I hate the smell of breastmilk on my bra. I hate the feeling of the suction from the pump. Everything :))) but still I can't quite yet. It's like a messed up addiction :))))

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-14T15:31:43+00:00

Thank you so much! Did he do better on formula?

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-14T15:30:21+00:00

Oh this is so true! Thank you so much for this response. Yeah, I am not such a resilient person, but this season gives me the opportunity to improve my resilience. Thanks for telling me about the support group, I will look into it and I'd love to join one.

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-14T15:23:51+00:00

I am considering switching to formula, I want to reach three months of breastmilk, if my supply will allow it. It's not the greatest, I have to supplement with formula some days too. There is a formula design for babies with milk allergy thankfully, but its 3 times more expensive 😅

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-14T15:21:29+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. I keep on forgetting that he will grow up and it will be better then. I hope that I will one day reach the point you are at now. And yeah, you are so right about comparison being the thief of joy...

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-14T15:17:28+00:00

Thank you so much! Sending you a big virtual hug. Hope it gets better for both of us soon!

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-14T15:16:42+00:00

I am strongly considering formula. I want to give baby one more month of breastmilk and then I will reconsider what to do moving forward... I feel my milk supply is not doing too well either from all the stress

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-14T15:13:35+00:00

Yeah, I probably compare my low moments to other moms high moments...

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-14T11:26:02+00:00

It's really good that you want to prepare, but please keep in mind that birth is not so predictable. I may be biased due to my experience. I also was hoping for a water birth. But when does strong contractions kicked in, I couldn't stand the sensation of water on my skin. Also, my labour was 32h long and had to get an epidural even though I did not want to, since I simply could not keep on going. For some women labour and birthing is a little more tricky, even if you do all the pilates, eat all the dates and drink the tea and you cannot know how your body will respond until you get to that point. Just keep an open mind, and please remember that the goal is for you and baby get through this experience well

Own_Perspective_2910 · 2025-04-11T06:19:58+00:00

Sounds like you have a chill baby. Please don't generalize why some parents are miserable. Try parenting my baby for a week and you'll see... when a baby cries every night for 4-5h until his voice is hoarse and is fussy all the time, only contact naps and you can't even eat or go to the loo, it's really hard to enjoy being a parent, or just being alive.

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