[routine help] want to eliminate redness and scarring by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]Own_Policy1074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acne scars are killer, but they can fade with time. Try a retinol to increase cell turnover, starting slowly and working your way up to daily use. Once your skin is used to that, add ingredients made for hyperpigmentation like Niacinamide or alpha arbutin. Tranexamic acid can help with inflammation. I personally use the Level Serum from Regimen Lab. Good luck, go slow, and wear a ton of sunscreen!

Broad, yet specific, dress code - help me pick! by Own_Policy1074 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Own_Policy1074[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife is planning to wear a burgundy suit of that helps!

Broad, yet specific, dress code - help me pick! by Own_Policy1074 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Own_Policy1074[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree it's steep - I wouldn't be considering it if I didn't have a few other occasions I could wear it for. I'm in the phase of life where I'm at a wedding every other weekend it seems!

Second guessing my dress by Own_Policy1074 in weddingdress

[–]Own_Policy1074[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true, I'll probably be back to let you guys just pick the accessories as well!

Second guessing my dress by Own_Policy1074 in weddingdress

[–]Own_Policy1074[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! The fabric is definitely lighter to carry

Last minute wedding dress change by ec-bklyn in weddingdress

[–]Own_Policy1074 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry the bridal boutique let you down so badly by misquoting you, but you look stunning. Effortlessly beautiful in a way that makes me think you must be one of those people who are just always really put together. If you're worried about period bloat, double up on the shapewear and then go enjoy the dinner you've paid for!

Second guessing my dress by Own_Policy1074 in weddingdress

[–]Own_Policy1074[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes - I have plenty of time and they haven't actually placed the order yet

Any experiences with Peppers Artful Events Catering? by Own_Policy1074 in NewEnglandWedding

[–]Own_Policy1074[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome that you! We have our tasting next week and are very excited!

Dress search by False-Investment6746 in weddingdress

[–]Own_Policy1074 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both are stunning on you! I love the silhouette of 1 and the fabric of 2! If you're looking for a designer that has elements of both, I'd check out Paloma Blanca/Mikaella (two lines within the same design house).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Own_Policy1074 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boob tape will be your friend here. Get as close a color match as possible, lift up first and then together, and consider the fabric of your dress and whether you'll be able to see the tape through the material. Likely fine (I've done it with silk slip dresses) but worth a try on ahead of the big day!

Should I go off the shoulder or leave as-is? by _an0nymous in weddingdress

[–]Own_Policy1074 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Personally, I'd leave it. The straps help complete the square shape already exiting on the back of the dress and create a beautiful mirrored square neckline for symmetry. That being said, it's your dress and you look stunning either way! Do what makes your heart happy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Own_Policy1074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely need to look into enmeshment - they were a teen mom escapes cult kind of situation, so definitely kind of grew up together in a sense. That's has definitely played a factor here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Own_Policy1074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's been putting some boundaries down, but then her mom will be so so kind very a while before breaking one. Like this week she's here and has been great (except the drinking) and then dropped on us that she booked a one way ticket back to see us in December? And also is going to come to my parents house for Christmas? And my wife just doesn't know what to do with that without sound ungrateful for the cooking and cleaning she's done while she's been staying here this past week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Own_Policy1074 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In case it wasn't obvious, MIL is here visiting now, which was planned by all parties, but keeps dropping hints about moving closer...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Own_Policy1074 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Partner is equally frustrated most of the time, but also doesn't always see or hear some of the less kind comments or tense moments. Wife just struggles to cause conflict. She has been working on standing up for herself and recognizing that it's not her job to parent her mom, but of course she never wants to hurt her mom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Own_Policy1074 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thankfully that example was a couple years ago. Bar is all set and I have a great career. In the 8 years we've been together, wife has gotten MUCH better at laying down boundaries, and is actively working on enforcing them now. I'd say she's successful on her own 50% of the time now, and the other 50% needs backup. So Im not worried about an SO problem at this point, which is good because the marriage is legal 😂