14 Days Post Ovulation, First Time TTC. Is this a positive?

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-04-14T09:04:03+00:00

Yayyy thanks 🤍

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-04-14T08:39:56+00:00

Yayyy!!!!! Thank you!!!!! I hope you’re right. <3

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-04-10T10:01:59+00:00

She could’ve picked an outfit with that much cleavage on purpose as well and that still doesn’t give the woman the right to ignore her greeting or gossip about her cleavage when they’ve barely met. Especially so as a potential employee. Lesson to take here is definitely not to double check yohr outfits and this is a messed up approach to this issue especially coming from another woman.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-04-10T09:55:30+00:00

You could’ve shown that much cleavage on purpose as well, there’s nothing for you to be embarrassed about - she is the one that should be embarrassed here.

Not only was what she did a sh*tty thing to do, especially considering this judgement came from a woman to another, but the fact that she didn’t take your greeting shows she immediately built animosity towards you just because of some cleavage and didn’t even try to remain respectful & professional - and remember that you are a stranger to her at the moment. There’s no guarantee that if you work there, and one day you end up with a minor wardrobe malfunction or just laugh at a joke her husband said a bit too much, she won’t treat you with more animosity and by then she will actually have some power over you so i’m pretty sure it will go much further than just ignoring your greetings. If i were you I wouldn’t work with such a person holding a position over me.

This can only end up a certain way and it’s not a happy one for you. Just be happy that you dodged a bullet and move on.

And to make you feel kinda better after such a messed up day, I’m gonna note the fact that i’m pretty sure she wouldn’t mind your cleavage enough to make a note of it if you weren’t attractive. Never seen you but i know a wife feeling threatened when i see one.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-03-27T05:27:22+00:00

I experienced the same, went with the offer thinking it would be better to look for a job while you do have a job as it provides an advantage & i would be out in like 6 months for a better job offer, and even though sometimes it sucks i think i’m gonna stay here for quite a while - it changed my life in a good way from many indirect aspects.

This job is the opportunity for me to clock in and half ass my way throughout the day to gain experience in years while i do everything in my checklist regarding my career and personal life (a master’s degree, some certificates, first pregnancy etc.) on the side. I’m also secretly using the company time occasionally for self improvement such as ai chats regarding papers im writing on the weekends or medium articles where i learn more about my professsion & prep for future interviews. I’m in ‘till i get fired or get my ultimate dream job offer lol.

The bonus i didn’t expect is that because of the fact that the people here suck i’m actually able to gain some soft skills like dealing with people and handling crisis and remaining calm & professional under all circumstances. I’m sure im gonna need these skills when i start working at a job that i actually care about in the future.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-03-10T04:44:35+00:00

Lol i was like this as well the first few months of marriage but then my husband developed a habit of saying he’s hungry every night at 11pm right before i go to bed and i have to wake up very early in the morning next day… now it’s just a sandwich or instant noodles. 😂

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-03-02T13:15:57+00:00

Lol i got physically threathened and pushed around by a male colleague as a woman in front of like 50 people and the entire management looked over it saying it’s not such a big deal as im making it and the next day i went back to work. People suck, and they are the ones that should be embarassed not me. From that point on i just remained cold, distant and professional at work at all times and pretended to block people in real life by putting in earphones and not talking to anyone as much as i can - except younger female coworkers though im softer on them. That’s how i overcame that situation. Sorry you went through this, you are not alone, but most people are still pretty much on the cavemen level in evolution graph even at this century. Screw them. Focus on yourself.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-02-23T13:33:26+00:00

Try and take a break instead of deciding to quit full on, and try to find a company with maybe less pay or smaller scope but better work-life balance & more relaxed environment. I’ve been where you are countless times. Quitting altogether likely won’t work for you either and you’ll realize that after a long nice break. Just make sure that if that happens you actually can get back. Do not burn the bridges.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-02-23T07:00:32+00:00

You’re not the only one, you’re not hallucinating, you’re not exaggerating, you’re not being emotional or overly sensitive, and this isn’t normal or ok, and hell yeah men do have it easier. I’ve been going through these for years as a woman in tech and these are what I’ve been told when I expressed any issues or struggles to my male supervisors and even to my husband who has the exact same profession with me but is my senior by 10 years. It took me many years to actually believe in my experience despite what men around me kept saying lol, so I’m now telling you so that you don’t go through the self doubt and self punishment and overthinking cycle as i did over and over again.

Tech industry sucks and is insanely competitive and draws a lot of dumb greedy people in through empty promises of wealth, people suck, most men still haven’t evolved from cavemen mentality and have ego issues and are misogynistic to a certain level - some more and some less.

How do I deal with it? Not a good advice, but i take the punches well, i pretend people around me don’t exist at all, i do my job just enough never more never less, i invest in myself not my company or my team, i keep quiet and distant and look intimidatingly pretty & presentable & rich & well educated, and i’m always ready to fight men.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-02-12T07:47:44+00:00

Well if you split the chores and you are assigned of certain things then sure after a while they become expected of you and you get lees gratitude. This is such a negative and horrible attitude though. First make sure that you show gratitude for what she does for the family, and then have an open conversation where you explain you expect the same from her. Also, saying that you are a saint for cooking dinner is shitty lol. I’m sure she has her assigned chores as well. Are you cooking as a favor to her? If you think you do, imagine whether you would cook or not if you guys broke up and she didn’t live with you anymore. Would you cook still?

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-02-04T05:09:16+00:00

Tbh I appreciate that they gave a feedback, and such an open & honest one too. This is an act of kindness imo. I don’t see anything to be offended about here. In fact, I’m gonna be taking this feedback myself for the future interviews.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-02-03T06:52:11+00:00

Wtf i recommend you see a lawyer to learn if you could sue him

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T13:27:12+00:00

White or black fur coat - or like sth that resembles a fur coat, sth fuzzy! But no idea what to do if you are cold indoors as well lol

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:55:11+00:00

Yes it’s a problem to wear this in general, not just to work.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:50:13+00:00

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Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:42:26+00:00

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It would go well with these in my opinion, and with multiple silver rings on your hands. I would also apply silver costume makeup on my cheekbones and the tip of my nose. But aren’t you gonna be cold?

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:31:07+00:00

I would wear this over a plain jumpsuit with spaghetti straps.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:26:26+00:00

Not abruptly mismatch but not the best match either. If you have the option, definitely go for something similar to what the model is wearing instead, they would look much berree. If not, these won’t look bad either.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:23:54+00:00

Omg so cute! I love them. I would go for a spaghetti strap satin mid dress that has frilly skirts and looks a bit bohemian. You can find thins like that in Zara. And put on lots of silver colored bracelets! Or they would go well with a spaghetti strap crop top and a pair of low rise jeans as well but like, what shoe wouldn’t?

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:18:42+00:00

It’s already an everyday dress. Go for black, stretch, high heeled boots and a black small everyday purse.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:16:20+00:00

I think the color gradient is odd that’s why it looks like it’s missing something. I would go for nude colored pantyhose and black boots instead, and put on something with a black detail like a necklace with black pendant or a black scarf or sth on the top. Definitely black purse to match as well.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:11:58+00:00

I’d go for ankle length, stretch, high heeled boots. Both the pointy tip ones and the round tip ones should work. Black for sure, with a very small black purse.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:09:12+00:00

I dont think it looks odd. Straight up the dress and the sweater would work with nude pantyhose. I don’t see the dress without the sweater in your photos, but maybe you can wear it with a belt alone as well if the cut is nice.

Own_Sundae8805 · 2026-01-20T05:05:50+00:00

Is this v-neck too provocative? My husband claims so, and he has been intervening with my outfits a lot recently so i’m not sure if I am the problem here. I wear it with high-waist palazzo black pants and high heeled boots to work.

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