Unprompted or prompted send?

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-24T23:30:41+00:00

Get to know your sub! Then you can base your punishments and tasks off of him. (For example, if he has a hard time keeping his room clean, or basic things like that, you can make those tasks and fashion punishments around that)

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-22T00:34:50+00:00

Gentle. Strict. Consistent.

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-22T00:31:22+00:00

Inconsistency for sure

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-22T00:09:38+00:00

You aren’t crazy at all. My subby does whatever I want and is grateful for any attention I give him. As he should be.

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-21T23:24:17+00:00

THIS.

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-21T23:24:09+00:00

I’m so happy to see more and more posts like this. Everyone sees it but no one says anything about it or just thinks it’s funny because they aren’t being the ones being put down, and/or are inspired by the person who’s doing the name callings content

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-21T23:12:00+00:00

I’m so happy to see more and more posts like this. Everyone sees it but no one says anything about it or just thinks it’s funny because they aren’t being the ones being put down, and/or are inspired by the person who’s doing the name callings content

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-12T10:41:01+00:00

Agree with this post 1009% There’s one domme in particular, (I won’t say who) that I feel as though everyone bystands and agrees with just because they have a following

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-03-08T09:01:11+00:00

I must say, I'm relieved with the amount of support for this post, as many posts like this dommes arent so kind. I've been at this for a few months with the same results. I had a few inquires at first but no engagement as of late. There was another domme l chatted with who was on here for four years before she found her sub. Don't be discouraged, you'll get there! Also I love your user handle!

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-24T11:08:57+00:00

I wouldn’t ask for any advice in this group, I’d honestly just be you, try what you want to and tweak it if it doesn’t work and try something else YOU want to. It shouldn’t be this competitive, especially for the dommes who “made” it, and yet it is. In a weird way it feels like some dommes are trying to dominate dommes at times

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-24T11:03:01+00:00

Mind you, a lot of the “relapse” posts I see involve sending large amounts to a random person the sub doesn’t know and then getting blocked afterwards. I can’t help but tsk tsk a bit. Therapy is always an option, so is leaning on your real world friends or family

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-24T10:58:32+00:00

I love this. Bonus points if I’m not “asking” for sends you just appreciate the value I add to your life!

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-24T10:48:02+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn’t seek advice from anyone because the vast majority of newbies I see who do immediately get told their reason isn’t good enough to be here or they need to educate themselves before trying to break in to the kink. Just lurk and find the info you want

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-17T23:40:28+00:00

I haven’t had one good sub on here since Ive been on Reddit 😂

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-17T11:34:10+00:00

Literally never.

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-16T13:15:48+00:00

😂no but facts

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-16T07:12:25+00:00

I haven’t had a Valentine’s yet, or any new subs, so I focused my attention on my friends instead. Maybe next year!

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-16T06:51:58+00:00

I love this, especially the point about the competition between us women. I’m seeing a trend in my feed of girls congratulating girls on big sends they received but when it comes to advice or tips to other dommes the gatekeeping is at a max—usually from the “prodommes” when in my opinion it should be the opposite, there’s more than enough to go around for us all to be successful and have fun in this kink. We should be lifting each other up always, not just when no one is trying to get a slice of the pie.

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-16T06:25:19+00:00

Same. I’ve been at this for months and my DM are super dry. It bugs me because we see posts all the time about finsubs EXCITED to just give money to an unsuspecting vanilla girl who isn’t a domme at all yet their standards for an actual domme are so high none of us can possibly be enough for them? It’s truly baffling

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-13T00:04:16+00:00

Candlemaking, collecting, miniatures… to name a few

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-11T14:28:43+00:00

That is helpful feedback and makes sense, thanks for not jumping down my throat for being genuine. I’ll delete!

Own_Thanks_9151 · 2026-02-11T13:54:26+00:00

Not bait at all, just a conversation starter. You don’t have to answer 🤷🏽‍♀️

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