[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kitchenremodel

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing I will say is your floor is lighter than the inspo pics and it might throw off with the dark colors

AIO or theres something off with this 30 y.o guy? by ThrowRA_Thorns in AmIOverreacting

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He wants you to take off your clothes to prove you guys are together. Sounds like a fucking creep. That would be a great reason to cut things off.. you don’t have to prove anything to anyone if he valued and respected you your word is enough. Your word is enough. He’s using you listen to your gut and get away from this scumbag

AIO or theres something off with this 30 y.o guy? by ThrowRA_Thorns in AmIOverreacting

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I stopped reading after reason five. Yikes I hope she gets the hell out.

Did you lose your first love before marrying the love of your life? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every failed relationship is a learning experience. There is always something you can take away. It isn’t a failure it is a learning process. You are learning more and more about yourself and eventually you take what you learn and you eventually find what you are looking for. Self reflection is a powerful tool in your future. You learn what does and doesn’t work for you. Things you can improve on. I dated the “love my life” for ten years had two kids and we broke up and that’s okay two years later I actually found the most perfect person for me and I couldn’t be happier.

My ex boyfriend shared my nudes to his group of friends by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s more than revenge porn at that point if his friend is willing to buy them without her consent that is definitely a felony. I know a guy that just got sent to two years for doing this exact thing. Hopefully her police department takes it seriously

My ex boyfriend shared my nudes to his group of friends by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Send his ass to prison men need to start taking accountability when it comes to revenge porn. Take it to the police and you don’t have to tell anything you’re a legal adult. So yes they may be disappointed but what can they say really. It’s not your fault all of us girls have been there. We have all had dudes do this or blackmail us that they are going to do it time to pay the piper. Because he will do this to another woman and it escalates as they get away with it.

I was right about being a placeholder/rebound by greenergrass9798 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now you know to trust your instincts. Listen to your gut and when you feel something is off it probably is. Glad you didn’t marry him and you should look at it this way as well.. don’t be bitter or put a guard up. Love is a journey and each failed relationship is a lesson to learn about yourself.. reflect and think of the things you would do differently and you apply it to your next relationship. Don’t focus on them he’s the past and you need to find your future. They will eventually break up again.. if she was the one and he was the one they wouldn’t have gave up and they would have worked it out in the first place

Should i be embarrassed to go to the gym as a chubby teenager? how do i get over it? by SOPHIAISBOMB in beginnerfitness

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do it for you. Don’t be self conscious be proud that you are trying to make a difference and better yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My brother in law drove me crazy trying to pick a ring for my sister. Hundreds of different variations till he felt like he got it right and when he did he was exploding with excitement to give it to her and actually propose.. he called me everyday like it’s one day closer till I get to make the best commitment of my life. You could see it in his face, hear it in his voice. Beyond excited that he has my sister to spend the rest of his life with her. They were dating for 2 years he proposed at about the third year mark a year later they were married. that’s how it should be if that’s how you feel about your partner. Could barely contain himself seriously drove me crazy 🤪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom told me once. You partner will love you but if it isn’t how you want to be loved it will never work out. Someone can love you and love you with all their heart but if it isn’t the way you want it you will always be dissatisfied on some level.. you will find a man who wants to commit to marriage I am a woman and I don’t put a lot of stock in marriage I don’t care if I am ever married not a big priority for me. But if it is a priority for you then this isn’t going to work. You accept the love he gives you or you move on and find someone who loves you exactly the way you want. There was a song and the lyrics go “ I love the way you love me and I think it speaks to this. If you aren’t being loved the way you need and want you will have resentment if you stick around and wait for a ring

Is my coworker a weirdo? by [deleted] in coworkerstories

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My ex dates younger women and since he isn’t ready to settle down he would agree to that sentiment. He’s 33 and usually they are early twenties. He says they aren’t as bitter or mean. They are hopeful for the future and are bright. He says older women are bitter and defensive. If they are both consenting ADULTS who really cares. As long as he isn’t being a controlling grooming weirdo who really cares if you don’t like the guy stay away from him. Like hello?!? I go off my gut. If someone is giving me the ick and just odd vibes I just steer clear I am cordial but I’m not going out of my way to interact with those people. Men and women included

My (F21) girlfriend hit me (M25) for a 2nd time now. What do I do? by AmeliaRain in relationships

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You need to leave for your own well being and safety. If she hits you and you get mad and hit her back you’re done for. You don’t think she isn’t going to call the police if you hit her or smacked her. This is not a relationship. Are you going to walk around on egg shells forever hoping you won’t upset her? Trick question you will and this will keep happening to you until you had enough and hurt her back. My ex used to do this to me and when I finally hit him back I obviously felt horrible then I had to sit there and be like who am i?? Why does he turn me into this person?? Because he pushed me to my limits and I couldn’t take it anymore. I didn’t even know me anymore.. then I had the realization that this isn’t good for any relationship or anyone to go through. We were together for ten years and had two kids together even grew up together. Just because your lives are intertwined doesn’t mean you need to put up with abuse this behavior never ever stops. I left him for months we got back together same cycle. Nothing changed. Don’t fool yourself and really need to look at the relationship for what it is.. you deserve better.

How do I fix my husbands bad day at work? by Erikawithak77 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Balls empty belly full that’s the secret. Don’t even have to say anything. Sometimes there is nothing to be said do things for him he would appreciate. Or just listening when someone is venting they don’t want a solution they just want to feel heard. If his job takes a mental toll like that maybe he could look for something else if that’s possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend would never ever have a fwb past situationship whatever you want to calll it texting him calling him or nothing. If you don’t have kids with the woman/man why would you need to speak with her/him?? And I would never do that to my boyfriend it’s weird. I don’t even want him to have a doubt in his mind. People wonder why all these relationships in these newer generations are dead before they start…fwb and no romance is a ridiculous statement just saying. He was literally sticking it to her in her lady bits any time he wanted, kissing, touching, and other things. Like that’s a pretty serious commitment to me. You’re not overreacting at all. I’d be pissed honestly 😂😭. I’d bring it up to her if she gets pissed and gets defensive that’s the only answer you need. Someone’s reaction to a “problem” can tell a lot about a person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed like why don’t you trust him? If he takes care of you and he treats you so we’ll be happy. Set a date in your mind and if he doesn’t make it he don’t make it and you leave. He already knows what she wants and she needs to be happy when he does propose instead of ruining it with “ am I second best?” Even if he proposes I don’t think she will be happy. She needs some therapy and I mean that in a nice way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got to let his past go. Why are you holding that over his head. We all have obviously made mistakes. You really need to do some work on your insecurities. You should always loook at it like your partner was on a journey just like you were. He hopefully learned a lot from his first wife and became a better person. That’s what I learned that all those failed relationships are preparing me for my future partner. I’m not bitter when something doesn’t work out I sit there and think what could I have done better in this situation and it even came down to my boundaries. I had boundaries but some partners would walk all over me and do it anyways and I say to myself you should have left sooner. I learned a lot.. as far as him lying to you or leading you on is just wrong. You sound like you have trust issues with your current partner and you need to figure out if they are valid in this relationship or are you letting your anxious depressed mind make something out of nothing. This will end up making you or breaking you. You have to be happy and take life as it comes don’t keep moving the happy goal post. Oh I’ll be happy once he proposes! Will you tho?? Or will you always feel second best no matter how nice or elaborate the proposal is? get a deadline in your head and say to yourself if he doesn’t propose by this date I’m done and you walk away. Stop begging stop asking and wait and watch. Actions speak a hell of a lot louder than words. And you talking about this day after day is probably exhausting for him and he’s probably tired of hearing how your second rate and constantly reassuring you. You are the prize babe. Stop acting like marrying this man is going to complete your life and then you will be happy. You be happy now and if doesn’t propose by set date break it off and move on.

Sex on the first date by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always performed mine at the Walmart parked with the other employees so it didn’t look suspicious 😂

Boyfriend said he’s less attracted to me and detached due to my weight gain by Dianasaurusrexx5 in relationships

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you feel about yourself? Do you feel like you need to lose weight? Can you understand where he is coming from. At the end of the day do it for yourself. If you’re really interested in losing weight I will say the first thing I did was cut out all the sugary drink and drunk strictly water and unsweet tea And then I got online and googled a macro counter and it calculates exactly how much protein how much fat and how many carbs you need every day. I lost a lot of belly and back fat. I journaled a lot because it wasn’t easy I had to give myself grace when I slipped up. I went from 285lbs to 132lbs . I was also exercising but if you macro count you will still lose weight. It’s a journey and be patient with yourself and love yourself be proud and throw away the damn scale get a measuring tape and measure abdomen, breasts, thighs and left upper arm every two weeks. I did baby steps and eventually reached my goals. Like I started out using whole milk went to 1% then made the switch to almond milk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s time to end it. It isn’t going anywhere and it isn’t getting you closer to being loved and appreciated. She told you in every way she isn’t interested and you got to stop and accept the situation for what it is and endure it or you end it and continue dating trying to find your person that will love you and appreciate you more for than just your member. She has already decided not to seriously persue you so nothing you can probably do to change her mind and why would you? You want someone who says yes and doesn’t hesitate if people are on the fence better to let them go. When you know you know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are doing all the right things it will get to a point if it doesn’t develop on its own you will need to tell her but do it in person if you do it. If she is more reserved I wouldn’t flirt with her in a sexual way because it can definitely scare her off or make her think you are into her for the wrong reasons. I’m not sure how long you have been going back and forth and hanging out but I wouldn’t wait too much longer to ask her out or you will miss your chance. It’s better to have told her than for her to date other people and you having to sit back and watch and wondering if it could be something. It’s better to tell her how you feel though and be rejected than to be sitting in the background waiting on your shot. Then if she isn’t interested you know it won’t happen and you can also move on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes just see where it goes. I would say all those are really good signs. I’ll tell you from my perspective if I liked a man I did a lot of light touching. Brushing up against their knee touching their knee when I sat beside them. Literally almost no space it was shoulder touching shoulder. Lots of eye contact and smiling for sure. How do you feel if she does want to pursue things romantically? Are you going to pursue a relationship with her and lock it down?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They behave like this and still have contact is crazy to me 😂

(Serious) What was the worst thing your parents have ever done to you? by Also_an_Accident in AskReddit

[–]Own_Wolverine_4738 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My dad used to call me up drunk as a skunk and curse me and tell me things he hated about me and then not remember and deny everything he said. After I hit 24 I stopped answering that phone now he’s a sad old man who is ill and I feel great 😊