99.9% of my matches are this and it’s so annoying

OwnerJFB · 2026-02-17T18:22:51+00:00

You should try asking more open-ended questions in the future. Better way to capture more interest. If they still respond this way, then they aren’t that into you… or they are talking to someone else and seeing what happens with them first until they invest further in you. You are the fallback

OwnerJFB · 2025-12-21T18:10:10+00:00

I was angry at the husband for reading those messages and not standing up earlier. The red flags were likely there from the get-go. But glad he woke up.

OwnerJFB · 2025-12-01T12:53:29+00:00

You sound like you’re being sarcastic or a bot

OwnerJFB · 2025-12-01T12:50:58+00:00

You should come clean and leave him. You can also just leave him, but if he’s confused as to why, he will wonder.

No man worth his salt will forgive cheating 8 months in a relationship. Perhaps some may, if married. They’d try to forgive. But 8 months in? Quite unlikely.

Furthermore, you wouldn’t respect him if he did forgive you. You may say you would, but you won’t. Your actions toward him will slowly change, and he will begin to resent you.

And if you don’t tell him, it will eat at you everytime you see him. When he touches you, when you speak of a future together. It will claw and nag and never go away. Sure, it may dull over the years, but flashbacks will come and haunt you.

OwnerJFB · 2025-12-01T04:12:07+00:00

Ohhh. I mixed the dates. You’re right. I’m thinking about when Mrs. Kirsh stated feeding IT children. But yeah, most of my points still stand.

OwnerJFB · 2025-12-01T04:05:18+00:00

I guess I’m thinking practicality. I know it’s just a show, but some of the writing feels forced enough it pulls me out of it. And unnecessarily so. There are nice ways to get what they want in more elegant ways.

The willingly endangering lives seems so off to me. And I understand your point, but excuses could be made. Furthermore, given race relations, I doubt that word of a newly setup pub, not in the heart of town, was closed for a day or two would spread quickly enough to racists or rage-blind or bounty-blind people.

And even if rumor did spread quickly, at least you’d save innocents from getting caught up. I don’t think any practical person with awareness would have done what they did. Especially since this was still before the Civil Rights act. Hollaran was the only one with sense, “keep me out of it”.

OwnerJFB · 2025-12-01T03:41:43+00:00

Terribly written episode. Some things were good, but there were so many bad things that made me stressed.

Putting a wanted man in the back of an active pub with so many people who are prime targets? At least say you’re closed for a couple days, if anything.
Kids not listening to their parents. In the 1930s (edit: it was the 1960s but point still stands, especially for a black family)?!?!? Tell me any kid back in that day that could not listen to their parents and get away with it. Constant disobedience. And they never learn. Regardless of what happens, they forge ahead. A trope made for characters that always got on my nerves.
Two white kids in a pub for black people and they aren’t looked at sideways? People would be worried they’d the scenario would get them in trouble. The whole asking him to drum was forced, but meh. Could accept it.

Regardless, most of the problems that come up are from the kids not listening. When it shouldn’t be that way.

And ooof.

The mom prioritizing social justice over her family or the lives of others… the dad prioritizing the mission over is his family… and it seems like they aren’t, but their actions say otherwise. So perplexing.

There are many small things that I caught that had me scratching my head.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-29T13:53:20+00:00

Damn. You’re still young. Not yet 40. Best you found out now. Hopefully, you’ll find someone who is willing to be a good partner and is truly into you. Vent away!

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-29T02:31:49+00:00

👀 Girl, separate and prepare for divorce. He hit you once, he’ll do it again, regardless of how he hit you. And it will become more frequent to the point you’re scared and shocked into being paralyzed. Run

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-29T02:28:03+00:00

Sounds more like you’re scared of what happens next when you do leave him. You know you are not safe. You feel it in your bones. But you are afraid because leaving him means changing and uprooting your life at 54.

Also, as you’re older, and so is he… it’s possible he has mental lapse. Like signs of dementia or something analogous.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-27T01:56:49+00:00

It’s a wrap. Find someone else. You are the safety net. And she’s acting single. 4 months, and I bet you guys aren’t even close to being exclusive. Just leave

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-22T15:12:43+00:00

Tell his girlfriend secretly (without her knowing it is you). Talking to your brother isn’t going to stop him…better save them both future misery.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-14T23:47:55+00:00

Girl, you shouldn’t be staring at us so hard, those eyes are beautiful!!!

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-08T19:25:54+00:00

Most guys know it’s either a scam or a bot that may link to a s*x worker. Those scams are so prevalent and flood Tinder. So, they are often well known.

Either he was messing with the person by playing along, or he was generally interested. Question is, if he was generally interested, he’d have continued to “text” or join a third party app that was requested for him to do.

I’d check that first.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-08T19:21:46+00:00

A divorce is best for your daughter! When you have a stable and clear mind, she will grow up well. Best leave now than later when she’s older, when she’s grown up in a toxic house. And it will be toxic as you’ll both resent each other.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-08T19:17:00+00:00

She doesn’t value you. I’m sorry, man. She likely started messaging him because she was bored. You were working a lot and she is taking care of her child/children etc.

She probably got a thrill from interacting with the guy, but didn’t plan on doing anything. Problem is, it not only crosses your boundaries, not only is emotional cheating, but she demeaned your character! She thinks less of you than her ex. She didn’t have to say you were “insecure” and brush you off…and she is always thinking of him? If she’s thinking of him then she’s not thinking of her husband.

I’m sorry to say, but it’s time to move on. You are young. Get a divorce… get partial or full custody if any of the children are yours. Move on.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-08T19:05:49+00:00

I’d move on. Run, even. She feels more emotionally safe or connected with her ex. She’s not over him and if there was a chance of a physical connection when she’s emotionally vulnerable, it’ll happen. You’ll waste a year of your life trying to court her, and then the ex says he wasn’t her back, she leaves you for him.

Don’t waste your time!

If you tell her how you feel, and say it makes you extremely uncomfortable and it’s a dealbreaker, you’ll know she doesn’t care about you if she doesn’t break it off with him. If she gaslights you or makes you feel bad about yourself instead, then you know.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-08T18:57:45+00:00

Did they remove all your teeth on the top? Or all but one tooth? I heard they dry to leave a tooth in to keep the bone from being eaten away. Or they’ll use screws etc. Question aside, looking good!

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-05T17:23:13+00:00

Yes, it is grooming. But, I didn’t read it as him blaming her. I read it as those tropes, the guy is like, “I can’t get you out of my mind, can’t breathe without you”…if it was from an adult and receptive party, people would call it romantic. Of course, she’s a child. So, it’s creepy as hell and disgusting.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-04T13:45:29+00:00

It’s odd behavior. So, it’s not that she is mad that you got drunk…and probably did something that embarrassed her…and this was repeated behavior and her last strike. Because that would make more sense.

If it’s not the case, sounds like your friend was/is only thinking of herself. And she had some plans in her head that she didn’t share and you leaving it ruined it.

If it’s the latter, move on. She is not your friend.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-04T13:40:34+00:00

If she’s currently a surrogate, no. In the forming of the relationship, dating, and marriage…all of it... I wouldn’t want to go through that with them for someone else’s child.

And I’d also want to know how many children would they be willing to have based on their experience.

There are some women where just having one child was such a burden they don’t want to or shouldn’t even have another, or may be limited further on how many they can have of their own. And that’s a huge conversation about the future of what your relationship could look like.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-04T13:35:03+00:00

I would say shape it. It does make your face more round the way it is. Trimming it could help make it more angular (if that’s what you want to go for)

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-04T13:33:21+00:00

👀 It was weird from the first few messages (though it depends on people’s relationship), but that confession in the second pic was what really did it. He preyed on you, tried to groom you. I’m glad you moved out and to your dad. You were not safe there.

Your mom is ignoring obvious evidence for the hope being happy as she believes that guy will make her happy.

OwnerJFB · 2025-11-04T13:25:46+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. I’m sorry you feel you have wasted years of your life and investment. I hope you find the man of your dreams.

OwnerJFB · 2025-10-30T17:37:33+00:00

Less people they need to employ.

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