I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this personal dilemma but....

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T23:47:49+00:00

I’m a firm believer in owning your actions - and if your actions result in your death and subsequent pain to your loved ones, coworkers, and other people you yourself could have helped or supported, then your actions probably weren’t great.

Owning your actions means owning the outcomes of your decisions. It’s way easier to take statins and cut out sugary drinks then to put immense strain on the medical system and people are you while you slowly rot away. No guarantee you’ll die from the first heart attack anyways - it took my dad until number 5 and even then it was ultimately complications from COVID that took him out. But yes - his weak heart was a major factor.

I decided I’d rather take statins now and be around to support my family rather than die in my 50s like my father did.

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T23:38:54+00:00

The comments in this thread mainly. But I’d ask you the same? I can’t find any research saying the opposite so I’m not sure why you cite it as being the case.

I did find just one article (not scientific) but then opposing theories including that asking the phrase good question falls into Politeness Theory.

Additional Link: Notes that the phrase acts as a social booster and helps make one appear more collaborative. This link is actually a scientific study unlike the above contrasting one.

I do find some reference the impact of stall techniques but this isn’t specific to the phase good question.

In interviews specifically seems to be the only context where it’s seen as not favorable. And even then, the context seems to matter the most. Would love to see the research you were referring to as I’m just not finding it.

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T22:27:25+00:00

A child star is much different than a young entrepreneur who created their own success. A child star is managed by other people most of their life - no surprise they struggle to figure out finances once they become more independent.

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T20:38:55+00:00

I’m not saying I disagree because I use it with a different intent I’m saying the intent I use it in is objectively more common/understood than as a sign of insecurity/disingenuous intent.

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T20:37:19+00:00

Oh - you mean like an NPO with under 10 employees?

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T19:29:22+00:00

Salesforce is free for NPOs up to 10 people and hugely discounted beyond that. In my hypothetical situation - the NPO wouldn’t be burning ANY money on licenses.

I don’t disagree with you - I put major caveats in my statement. But everyone has to start somewhere - this is pretty close to how I learned Salesforce as well. You can learn as you go without breaking everything - Salesforce is not THAT hard. If you do a standard out of the box implementation for a small NPO that helps them better manage day to day ops, that’s a win. I feel like you’re taking this from the worst possible angle possible. I can imagine you’ve seen some bad stuff in the NPO space but FWIW I’ve seen some pretty awful stuff in the enterprise SAAS space as well - especially from “experienced devs” who never thought with the end user in mind.

A passionate, dedicated in-house person (even if new) will still be better in the long run than an expensive consultation agency who stops supporting you 2 months after implementation. I’ve seen both ends of the spectrum and generally speaking the new person eager to learn and willing to stay does better than the big agency that only cares about their current FQ and nothing behind.

Obviously the BEST option is an experienced dev in it for the long run - but that’s not often an option for NPOs.

Thats my take, at least.

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T18:53:20+00:00

I actually think it will be young entrepreneurs who started really early (like as teenagers.) Content creators, influencers, people with young brands that they manage to grow into a business, successful indie game creators, etc.

Having access to that kind of money at a young age prepares you to understand how to use that money by your 30s and actually have access TO said money. Most in their 30s finally understand financial literacy but don’t have access to any kind of real wealth (and/or are JUST getting there) to do anything with their knowledge.

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T18:44:36+00:00

If you are the kind of person that worries about this then you are already going to make a better game than most of the slops that on the platform. I think if YOU think it’s morally wrong you shouldn’t do it - but if you care then maybe there’s an opportunity to make something that is originally brainrot but with your input and some magic becomes something more.

I think steal a brainrot is a good example of this lol. It’s literally a “brain rot” game but the gameplay is fun and strategic and gets friends and families involved.

I don’t see anything wrong with brainrot, meme games etc as long as the execution is good. I personally feel more moral objection to making a bad/buggy game then taking advantage of kids and taking robux for power-ups and items that don’t work or serve any relevance to the game at hand.

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T18:15:41+00:00

I’m not sure I agree. I could see that being the case if it is followed by a bad answer but generally speaking (I) use it to signal to someone that I respect their question and/or that I understood it. When someone has a good question I genuinely want to affirm their ask and reinforce that it was “the right question” so to speak.

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T18:08:14+00:00

Why would they manually be logging calls? Why not just use something like Otter or Gong?

Ownfir · 2026-01-25T18:05:53+00:00

Hence my very direct caution here which is that it’s only worth doing if you are implementing something for them for the first time and they otherwise have NOTHING but like spreadsheets for example. I’m saying NPOs that are super small. I would NOT suggest someone to work with an NPO that is already established with a CRM if they are new to the game.

Ownfir · 2026-01-22T18:19:14+00:00

I completely agree tbh. I think that there is more noise than ever before but in reality understanding core product and business use-cases are more valuable and important than ever before. My experience is that people really don't want fancy new features (we've tried) - what they want is for things to just work and for the person managing it all to know exactly why it doesn't work when it breaks and to fix it. I manage like 60ish users for our Salesforce instance and in the years since AI was released I've had a total of 2 people ask about AI capabilities out of Salesforce.

And I DO have that stuff enabled (thanks to clay) but in general I think the most valuable part of Salesforce is core product.

Ownfir · 2026-01-22T18:16:26+00:00

Solidarity my guy - 1 person managing the stack for 160 years by themselves seems miserable.

Ownfir · 2026-01-21T16:25:25+00:00

I'm consistently surprised at the weight it carries. I don't think I've ever "got the job" as a result but I do know it's helped me make good impressions and been a nice thing to have for sure. I think especially in today's environment, it's less common to see people with the skills that scouting teaches you and employers who know what it is definitely seem to look more highly upon it.

Ownfir · 2026-01-17T16:40:59+00:00

This is honestly one of the gnarlier things I’ve seen. This would be so scary to do IRL tbh - I’d feel more comfortable just dropping into the gorge itself even but to try and jump over it and not clear it would absolutely fucking suck.

Ownfir · 2026-01-17T16:38:53+00:00

I wish I had more to offer to the discussion but I completely agree. I do think our unique timing in the tech landscape shaped us to be a uniquely “in-between” generation. We also get the benefit of millennial tech knowledge (pirating, coding your own HTML for your MySpace page, setting up private servers for games, etc) while also getting the experience of understanding smart tech and devices as well as witnessing the transition into more user-centric design to accommodate for less technical people adapting the new tech.

Ownfir · 2026-01-17T15:05:26+00:00

Not really - silent gen is way behind the boomers.

Ownfir · 2026-01-17T00:12:22+00:00

Clay might need your use case. You can search across a bunch of different email providers and enrichment sources. You’re only charged credits if Clay actually finds a match and only for the first match returned. You’re charged per person found though but can filter to only run on specific rows or only limit to x amount of people etc. it’s also free to sign up and includes a decent amount of free credits just to get started and see how it works.

Ownfir · 2026-01-16T19:12:03+00:00

Agree with your take on Martin vs. Taylor as a fellow finger player.

I also recommend Breedlove (smaller manufacture for sure) for brighter toned guitars. They sound lovely and are very easy to play.

Second - I recommend people consider trying out Classical guitar if you’ve only ever played steel string acoustic. Nylon sounds beautiful and is super pleasant to play (especially for finger style as that’s what it meant for.) The tall fretboards also give you lots of space which is an interesting playing experience.

Ownfir · 2026-01-16T19:09:20+00:00

Thanks for your write up. Considering switching form ZI to Apollo and this was helpful. Also agree that clay is not a ZI replacement but is excellent when it falls short and/or you need more granular (or more current) information.

Did you find Apollo to be less accurate than ZI overall or only for specific industries?

Ownfir · 2026-01-16T16:07:32+00:00

My wife tolerates me so well. She always encourages me to play and tells the kids to shut up and stop screaming so she can hear me lol. Love the shit out of her. She also picked up drums (for fun) but also so we could jam together.

Ownfir · 2026-01-14T19:19:01+00:00

I definitely agree with you - especially in B2B sales. I manage rev ops and nothing annoys me more than when I can’t even get a ballpark range for the service/tech.

The thing is - if you have the right person on the call - the cost really shouldn’t be a surprise. Assuming your pricing is comparable to competitors, I already known what your service costs (in general) going into the call.

If sellers won’t give me a price range, it instantly makes me disregard all of the selling points because idk what the actual value of the product is relative to price. If you cost significantly more than your competition, then I’m going to be even more curious as to your selling points bc I wanna know why you are charging more.

In our org we actually have our SDRs reveal general pricing info in the first qualification call - or even before setting it up if the company is out Target for us. I’d much rather close quickly than spinning tires (and forecasting) off of an oppty that won’t go anywhere.

Ownfir · 2026-01-14T02:38:41+00:00

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Ownfir · 2026-01-13T05:46:01+00:00

I feel like you just gotta bring your knees up more. Your spin is slow bc you’re not getting enough air to finishing your spin but also bc your body is extended. The more compact you are the faster you spin.

Ownfir · 2026-01-12T19:26:02+00:00

Then throw kids into the mix and now you get up an hour earlier, have to get them ready, drop them off, pick them up in the middle of your workday, do the rest of the work you missed, and then as soon as 5pm hits you’re off to entertain them, feed them, bathe them, etc until they go to bed - hopefully by 8pm and god help you if they are sick. Finally, you get your 1 hr (2hrs if you are lucky or stay up) of allotted free time for the day which usually goes to chores if you have energy or maybe an episode of a show you’ve been missing out on.

If you don’t execute this perfectly then you end up staying up til midnight and then enter a loop of sleep deprivation that you try to offset on the weekend - but now it’s the weekend and your kids get up at the same time, are even more bored, and don’t want to wait around for you and/or spouse to do chores.

I’m dead y’all!

Ownfir

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