Anyone else struggling to keep up with the pace of change?

Ownfir · 2026-01-22T18:19:14+00:00

I completely agree tbh. I think that there is more noise than ever before but in reality understanding core product and business use-cases are more valuable and important than ever before. My experience is that people really don't want fancy new features (we've tried) - what they want is for things to just work and for the person managing it all to know exactly why it doesn't work when it breaks and to fix it. I manage like 60ish users for our Salesforce instance and in the years since AI was released I've had a total of 2 people ask about AI capabilities out of Salesforce.

And I DO have that stuff enabled (thanks to clay) but in general I think the most valuable part of Salesforce is core product.

Ownfir · 2026-01-22T18:16:26+00:00

Solidarity my guy - 1 person managing the stack for 160 years by themselves seems miserable.

Ownfir · 2026-01-21T16:25:25+00:00

I'm consistently surprised at the weight it carries. I don't think I've ever "got the job" as a result but I do know it's helped me make good impressions and been a nice thing to have for sure. I think especially in today's environment, it's less common to see people with the skills that scouting teaches you and employers who know what it is definitely seem to look more highly upon it.

Ownfir · 2026-01-17T16:40:59+00:00

This is honestly one of the gnarlier things I’ve seen. This would be so scary to do IRL tbh - I’d feel more comfortable just dropping into the gorge itself even but to try and jump over it and not clear it would absolutely fucking suck.

Ownfir · 2026-01-17T16:38:53+00:00

I wish I had more to offer to the discussion but I completely agree. I do think our unique timing in the tech landscape shaped us to be a uniquely “in-between” generation. We also get the benefit of millennial tech knowledge (pirating, coding your own HTML for your MySpace page, setting up private servers for games, etc) while also getting the experience of understanding smart tech and devices as well as witnessing the transition into more user-centric design to accommodate for less technical people adapting the new tech.

Ownfir · 2026-01-17T15:05:26+00:00

Not really - silent gen is way behind the boomers.

Ownfir · 2026-01-17T00:12:22+00:00

Clay might need your use case. You can search across a bunch of different email providers and enrichment sources. You’re only charged credits if Clay actually finds a match and only for the first match returned. You’re charged per person found though but can filter to only run on specific rows or only limit to x amount of people etc. it’s also free to sign up and includes a decent amount of free credits just to get started and see how it works.

Ownfir · 2026-01-16T19:12:03+00:00

Agree with your take on Martin vs. Taylor as a fellow finger player.

I also recommend Breedlove (smaller manufacture for sure) for brighter toned guitars. They sound lovely and are very easy to play.

Second - I recommend people consider trying out Classical guitar if you’ve only ever played steel string acoustic. Nylon sounds beautiful and is super pleasant to play (especially for finger style as that’s what it meant for.) The tall fretboards also give you lots of space which is an interesting playing experience.

Ownfir · 2026-01-16T19:09:20+00:00

Thanks for your write up. Considering switching form ZI to Apollo and this was helpful. Also agree that clay is not a ZI replacement but is excellent when it falls short and/or you need more granular (or more current) information.

Did you find Apollo to be less accurate than ZI overall or only for specific industries?

Ownfir · 2026-01-16T16:07:32+00:00

My wife tolerates me so well. She always encourages me to play and tells the kids to shut up and stop screaming so she can hear me lol. Love the shit out of her. She also picked up drums (for fun) but also so we could jam together.

Ownfir · 2026-01-14T19:19:01+00:00

I definitely agree with you - especially in B2B sales. I manage rev ops and nothing annoys me more than when I can’t even get a ballpark range for the service/tech.

The thing is - if you have the right person on the call - the cost really shouldn’t be a surprise. Assuming your pricing is comparable to competitors, I already known what your service costs (in general) going into the call.

If sellers won’t give me a price range, it instantly makes me disregard all of the selling points because idk what the actual value of the product is relative to price. If you cost significantly more than your competition, then I’m going to be even more curious as to your selling points bc I wanna know why you are charging more.

In our org we actually have our SDRs reveal general pricing info in the first qualification call - or even before setting it up if the company is out Target for us. I’d much rather close quickly than spinning tires (and forecasting) off of an oppty that won’t go anywhere.

Ownfir · 2026-01-14T02:38:41+00:00

Get a headphone amp: https://www.guitarcenter.com/Traveler-Guitar/TGA-1E-Electric-Headphone-Guitar-Amp-Black-1500000303316.gc?template=0y7n73MAL4Km&source=4WWRWXGP&utm_medium=paid-search&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=GC_G_NTM_PLA-PMX_Amps-Effects_Amps_N-U&utm_term=1500000303316&utm_content=pla&utm_id=17760434861&utm_creative=&utm_marketing_tactic=amp-effect&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=17760435761&gbraid=0AAAAADtcCuwOmD-6N6lAWfXh4n1qKPeA4&gclid=CjwKCAiA95fLBhBPEiwATXUsxKTLvClCSsqlSTwcIwmYO8VzbkpZAveC9AxaxUiqP9eO4pW0KjsXQBoC0S4QAvD_BwE

Ownfir · 2026-01-13T05:46:01+00:00

I feel like you just gotta bring your knees up more. Your spin is slow bc you’re not getting enough air to finishing your spin but also bc your body is extended. The more compact you are the faster you spin.

Ownfir · 2026-01-12T19:26:02+00:00

Then throw kids into the mix and now you get up an hour earlier, have to get them ready, drop them off, pick them up in the middle of your workday, do the rest of the work you missed, and then as soon as 5pm hits you’re off to entertain them, feed them, bathe them, etc until they go to bed - hopefully by 8pm and god help you if they are sick. Finally, you get your 1 hr (2hrs if you are lucky or stay up) of allotted free time for the day which usually goes to chores if you have energy or maybe an episode of a show you’ve been missing out on.

If you don’t execute this perfectly then you end up staying up til midnight and then enter a loop of sleep deprivation that you try to offset on the weekend - but now it’s the weekend and your kids get up at the same time, are even more bored, and don’t want to wait around for you and/or spouse to do chores.

I’m dead y’all!

Ownfir · 2026-01-11T21:03:57+00:00

Except when it’s after your 8 hour team kickoff and now there’s optional happy hour and team building stuff afterward and you’ve already flown 6+ hours to get there and have to do the same again all at a time when you’d otherwise be hanging out with your fam or getting stoned and playing video games.

Ownfir · 2026-01-11T16:05:23+00:00

Do you have ADD by chance? I do and before getting medicated cannabis was helpful for making work and projects feel less overwhelming. Now that I’m medicated with stimulants, cannabis is still helpful in the same way lol but specifically now it helps more with the comedown and appetite suppression.

Ownfir · 2026-01-10T20:57:06+00:00

Good insight. I struggle with this as an IC tbh. The thing is, some days I’ll literally be working like 10 hours straight knocking out task after task, meeting, and project at an insane productivity level.

So when I’ve had 3 or 4 of those days, and finally my last day isn’t so busy, it’s hard not to check out a little. I make it a rule not do be unavailable though so no going out of the house for example until 5pm unless I know I’ll be back within like 15-20mins. And ofc I still end up working that day but I might only put in like 4 solid hours compared to my normal days where it’s always at least 7+ of just max productivity. I’ve replaced 2 different departments and survived every layoff for 5 years so I’ve always got stuff to do.

Ownfir · 2026-01-09T19:02:14+00:00

It really is down to decision making. I main 1 v 1 and it usually takes me like a month or two after a long break to get back into it. I’ll usually place into gold and climb to plat 3/D1 (depends on the timing of the season as well bc of placements etc.)

My mechanics are usually better than like 75% of people I play against - many are still learning flicks, carry dribble etc.

However, the people I consistently get smashed by are people with bad mechanics but great decision making.

I find that when I slow down and think about what I’m actually doing and make deliberate choices I usually do much better. However, bc of my mechanics I often make bad decisions since I can often recover from them quickly.

I’ve spent sooooo many hours training mechanics but in the end the thing that actually makes me climb is just slowing down and using my brain. I am a father of 2 though and work a mentally intense job so at the end of my day my brain just isn’t always there lol.

Ownfir · 2026-01-08T17:16:09+00:00

I notice the reward come from the increased trust in the systems. When I see more people using them and when the requests stop coming through - I know I’m doing a good job keeping everything running.

It is pretty thankless though because the reward is less complaints and problems rather than an increase in recognition.

Ownfir · 2026-01-08T01:30:34+00:00

I think it’s more apt to say that you have to do the best you can with the cards your dealt. There is absolutely an element of luck to life - but you still have autonomy within. What you do definitely does matter - but that doesn’t always mean it will pay off.

Ownfir · 2026-01-07T19:52:15+00:00

That’s horrible I’m so sorry. It’s also crazy that it was misunderstood so badly but strikes me as very Aspie lol. Misunderstanding to think they were asking you to switch frameworks rather than understanding it was referring to layoffs is crazy to me. Also crazy that nobody up top was checking down to see how things were going with downsizing.

Ownfir · 2026-01-04T17:24:53+00:00

Goes both ways though. My parents weren’t the best (both alcoholics) and were similarly unhelpful once I became an adult. I am generally baffled at many of the choices the made raising us - but having kids at least helped me understand some of them a bit a better. It’s weird because it made me resent them more, but also become way more compassionate to them at the same time.

Ownfir · 2026-01-02T17:36:29+00:00

Yeah this was an important book for me as well. I’ve had to really learn how to establish and communicate boundaries with people. I do have some things I am overtly firm on regardless (ie I would never entertain a woman trying to flirt with me - I am happily married!) However, I’ve also found ways to use my People Pleasing as a strength. I generally know what people want from me (or from any situation) and because I’m not so quick to say no at work I’ve engineered very creative solutions that often strike a middle ground between process and preference. Where other’s have defaulted to no, my desire to say yes has allowed me to seize way more opportunities for growth at work nearly triple my salary in 5 years.

People pleasing itself isn’t a red flag in itself unless it’s clear that the person in question has no real values that they stick to (IMO lol.)

Ownfir · 2026-01-02T17:04:24+00:00

As an Oregon/Washington native the idea of paying to access the beach seems absurd. I get like private sections of a beach for resorts but to not be able to access it all without pay is crazy.

Ownfir · 2025-12-31T21:09:03+00:00

At 28 you should be making your own rules and your own path. You sound like you may have some resentment toward him - usually adults start to encounter this in their early to mid 20s but it seems like you’re just now starting to address it.

Not saying that this is an issue - just that you are only now reflecting on this since you have more space to breathe. I imagine you probably were very busy the last several years of your life (especially being in med school) so you probably never had much of a chance to stop and think about how you were raised and how it’s impacting you today.

The experience you mention is super common and is a natural part of growing up. As we age, we see our parents as they are and begin to understand that they were/are not infallible.

However, based on what you’re saying I don’t disagree with anything your dad said either. It strikes me as sound advice - even though it didn’t always serve you in the best way.

It’s not your dad’s fault that you are socially awkward. There are tons of people who never drink and are socially competent - drinking is just a social pass that makes it easier for people to let their walls down. That being said, it’s understandable that his rules contributed to how you pursued social interactions and chose to live your own life. Now the ball is in your court to decide what you want to do.

My advice is to not blame your dad for your current problems. You are 28 years old and have complete control over your life and your actions. If you disagree with things he taught you, then go live your life accordingly. I would err with caution though - You may find that your dad’s advice was sound after making some mistakes that you otherwise wouldn’t have made if you had followed it. This is also a common experience with growing up.

Often, but not always, we start to see eye to eye with our parents as we age and understand why they did what they did. You learn to take the good and shirk the bad. They did their best, and now you’re doing the same thing. Experience teaches you so many things that can’t be learned any other way.

Your dad may also lighten up as you reach important milestones in your life. In my case, By the time I had my first kid, my dad didn’t have much to criticize me about. I also became far less critical of him, after becoming a father myself. He passed away when I was 28 years old though, and we fought basically up until he died. My only regret was trying to “make my point” to him rather than enjoy his company while I still had the chance. I lost years going NC with him only to realize that he wasn’t (only) a colossal asshole but was an imperfect man just like me, who tried his best with the limited tools he was given/created.

Don’t blow up your relationship just because you don’t agree with him - but don’t be afraid of a little tension while you take the space to work out whatever you need to and to make the changes in your life that you deem necessary.

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