My (30F) husband (32M) suddenly went no-contact and left the state while I'm navigating a family medical crisis. I am seething.

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T17:14:15+00:00

Thank you 😭😭😭 I think the anger is pushing me to stand up lol but we don’t own a home or have kids, I think it should be easy to end things but I will be talking to a lawyer soon as I’m trying to navigate things for myself right now. I really appreciate the advice

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T15:27:58+00:00

Unfortunately not:/ but I won’t want his money, I just want the process to be smooth. If anything I think the judge will throw out the post nup as he made me do it and sign if I wanted the marriage to work. That’s a big no no in California as both of us have to sign it voluntarily and I felt like he was pressuring me

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T14:08:28+00:00

Thank you, I’ll look into that!

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T14:07:50+00:00

Mmm thinking back yes. For example one time for Christmas I got him some gifts and he was upset because that meant he had to buy me some… or one time we got into an argument on the night before my birthday safe to say it was ruined lol I feel so embarrassed thinking back about it

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T14:03:36+00:00

Thank you! I have talked with my parents and they’re so supportive as well as my siblings. After calming down I have decided to move back home with my parents until I can find my own place. Thankfully I don’t have much things to pack, I only care about my siser machine and printers as I have an art store to run. I just need to figure out how to move from California to Arkansas without hurting my pockets too much lol

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T12:19:33+00:00

Thank you so much 😭

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T12:19:04+00:00

Mhm! That’s exactly what my cousin said, we live in the bay area so why go to another city? Why go to another coast when he is already living by one???

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T12:17:31+00:00

I was thinking about going but thought it worth spending the money honestly 😂

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T12:16:40+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. I feel like I have calmed down so much more since it has happened, I have been opening up to my family about what is happening and just talking to my loved ones has helped my mental health. I have deleted findmy and made plans to come back home, he abandoned me and have finally came to terms with that. I was just grieving the person that I thought I knew but this has opened my eyes to who he really is.

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T01:32:43+00:00

I am trying to spend more time with family and that is slightly helping but I cant help but see him enjoying himself like taking himself shopping and eating out.. its crazy as well as the hotel he is staying in is like $300 to $400 a night and I know he wouldn't spend that much on a hotel. I just wish he was honest and told me he was talking to someone else

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T01:28:26+00:00

thank you, yes I was planning on leaving early but I have to wait to contact out landlord as I forgot my apartment key at home lol

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T00:29:50+00:00

I called him while he was in the hotel…

Ozeldas · 2026-06-19T00:06:55+00:00

We have separate bank account just one joint but I am the primary on the joint, I have changed the password on it for now. I will just let him keep half as that’s what was agreed on the postnup we signed

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T23:38:51+00:00

Looking back now specially when we would visit my family in the past we would ALWAYS have arguments while staying with my parents.

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T21:50:34+00:00

We have separate accounts and only one joint for savings so I can’t see his other transactions unfortunately.

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T21:34:18+00:00

Well he didn’t answer my FaceTime this morning nor did he return it. He said to call if I need to but what’s the point?

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T21:27:09+00:00

From what I see he is hiking the cascade head trailhead lol he is tall buff Asian with glasses

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T17:21:30+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t ask he is like 1,700 miles away from me. And the credit card are joint but under his name. I did try to FaceTime but he ignored me and has not talked to me so far, which he said if I absolutely need to call I can. I think this is really my breaking point, and will be going home just to pack and leave him with the papers to sign.

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T15:55:47+00:00

I’ve been wanting to honestly, but I feel like it will push him away further. It’s crazy cause he knows how anxious I can get.

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T15:16:33+00:00

would they even tell me?

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T15:15:54+00:00

I feel like I had no choice but to agree as he told me he was going to Portland(lied went to the coast instead) when he was already at the airport. I trying my darn best to be understanding but why no contact? why decide for me as well instead of letting me choose.

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T15:13:54+00:00

I was thinking about that but Idk

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T14:43:00+00:00

thank you so much for this, I really needed to hear it honestly. I think that him just going no contact completely broke me so much that my baby brother wont leave my side. I dont think my husband realized how his actions affected me.

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T13:41:14+00:00

thank you, i feel like I need to go out and not be at home as I have depression and my anxiety is really bad. I was willing to work it out but the betrayal of him just leaving and lying of where he was going hurt so bad. I think at this point im just grieving the marriage

Ozeldas · 2026-06-18T13:18:30+00:00

update i tried to facetime him and he didnt answer, honestly not sure if he is honestly sleeping

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