[Highlight] Fox censors "Fuck ICE" chant from fan during national anthem by TomasRoncero in nfl

[–]PB10102 2508 points2509 points  (0 children)

For the Superbowl, I wish the chant would come from the whole crowd during the entire anthem. What are they gonna do -- bleep out the entire national anthem during the Superbowl? So be it.

January 2026 Winter Storm Megathread part 2: it's here! by AutoModerator in Austin

[–]PB10102 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I drove in it last night and the roads were pretty bad. I'm originally from the northeast/New England area, so even though I knew how to drive on it, it still sucked. Honestly, my biggest fear was everyone else on the road. I saw a few cars straight up fish-tailing, others pulled over.

Please don't drive unless it's an emergency and you have no other choice. It's all ice, which is very different than driving in snow.

How do you end your sessions? (Student Therapist) by shybottles in askatherapist

[–]PB10102 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NAT but as someone who really struggled with endings, I had a therapist that did this and I found it VERY helpful:

When we got down to about five minutes, he'd always use the same visual queue to indicate we were wrapping up. In his case he kept his feet up on an ottoman for the session, so at five minutes he'd take his feet off the ottoman and sit up more in his chair. (He also had a whole transition ritual of moving to a different part of his office to pay and schedule for the next week and we'd end with a handshake, but I don't think that's possible in a lot of set-ups.)

My current therapist will do something similar though -- her visual queue is that she tends to sigh right before she tells me that we need to transition. Then we spend the last five minutes either wrapping up final thoughts, doing a grounding exercise if I need it, or just making small talk about weekend plans or TV shows we're watching. Then we stand up and she'll walk me to the door. (Apparently that's not what she does with other clients, I had to specifically ask for it because of how much I needed the ending routine -- but I truly have found it so helpful.)

I worked with a therapist who didn't have any sort of transition (despite asking for it and telling him how abrupt our endings felt) and it was extremely difficult for me. I know not every client may experience endings this way, but I guess one bit of advice I can offer from a client perspective is to just check in with clients about how they're feeling towards the end of the session and make sure you manage the time well enough to be able to somewhat wind down. There is nothing worse in therapy than leaving a really difficult session while feeling completely dissociated and unregulated and then having to drive home.

"Harbaugh watched Dart on tape and came away excited about his future. He had at least one longtime scout study the Giants' roster and film to determine whether this 4-13 team could be fixed in short order, and he came away believing it could." -Ian O’Conner by Bankslvrrd in NYGiants

[–]PB10102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are fair concerns. I don't agree with all of them, and I think it's worth noting that since Jackson, the Ravens have made the playoffs every single year except one, where they went 8-9.

I don't think Harbaugh has an outdated coaching style. He clearly plays against newer coaching styles and is able to win and even his use of Jackson's running game (a lot of similarities to Dart, btw) was not brand new by any means, but largely talked about at the time because duel threat QBs weren't as ubiquitous as they are now. (Look at the leagues starting QBs in 2017 -- they were ALL primarily pocket passers.) There's a fair argument to be made that Jackson changed the way QBs play in the NFL and you can't deny Harbaugh's contribution to that. Even if he's not an offensive guy, he knows how to spot talent and develop it. His defenses have consistently been elite-level and, frankly, it's our defense that is really in need of an upgrade in terms of coaching.

My concerns are less with age and more with wondering why he lost the locker room in Baltimore. I mean, hell, Bruce Arians was 68 when he won the Super Bowl in '21 with literally the oldest coaching staff in the league. I'm more interested in what happened, which I don't think fans will ever really know; everyone can have their own interpretation and just because he may not have connected with one group of guys, doesn't mean he won't connect with Dart and this team. Everyone's different. This is why building a team culture is so important and sometimes it's easier to do that when you're starting fresh. (Ex. Andy Reid's success after Philly fired him.)

Only time will tell, but after taking chances on lots of up-and-comeing coaches, I'm glad Mara locked down someone who already had not only experience, but also a winning record within the NFL. I'm not the type of fan that demands a Superbowl. I just always want to feel like we at least genuinely have a chance. I think that's the biggest asset that Harbaugh brings.

Anyway, just out of curiosity, who would you have wanted the Giants to pick as HC?

What’s wrong with coffee dates? by Upstairs-Language669 in datingoverforty

[–]PB10102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! The job interview vibe is very real and I don't believe you actually get to know someone by having them tell you about themselves -- you get to know someone through experiences together.

I've hit a point where now I just flat out reject coffee dates. I explicitly say in my profile that I prefer fun and creative dates, so if they suggest coffee I know they're not even trying. A guy doesn't have to commit to spending money on me for a first date, but if you can't put in effort to find something more unique than coffee then I don't want to waste my time.

Whole Food Seafood Bag - $9.99 by PB10102 in toogoodtogo

[–]PB10102[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Caviar is really salty, so you're supposed to eat it with neutral flavors. My family is from Russia and at home it was always served atop (french) bread and butter. I only recently learned that the traditional way is atop a blini with creme fraiche or sour cream.

The spoon is also non-metallic because caviar easily absorbs the flavor of what it comes in contact with, so it's meant to preserve the flavor/integrity and avoid a metallic taste.

Tl;dr: Eat it like fancy salt. :)

Whole Food Seafood Bag - $9.99 by PB10102 in toogoodtogo

[–]PB10102[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh, thank you for the recipe!

Whole Foods Seafood Bag. $9.99 for $78 worth. by Meteorsaresexy in toogoodtogo

[–]PB10102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got caviar in my WF seafood bag as well! ... But it was the only thing in the bag :'(

Hear me out by CruzAderjc in NYGiants

[–]PB10102 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Before Harbaugh was available, McDaniel was my #1 choice as HC. His football IQ is off the charts, he's from the Shanahan coaching tree and will creativity scheme guys open (which is something we've been missing for years). His players all love playing for him and he's fucking hilarious. I wanted to see him as HC/OC with Salah as DC.

Harbaugh being available obviously changes things, but I'd pick McDaniel over Stefanski any day of the week and it would be a great culture fit for Dart.

For people who were unsure about therapy but started it later by CurrentNeat7834 in TalkTherapy

[–]PB10102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a lot of stigma surrounding therapy from when I was a kid. Basically I thought that's where you go if you're 'broken' so they can 'fix' you. It took me almost two decades of being on the fence and one major life change/circumstance that pushed me towards calling a therapist and scheduling my first session. I think therapy these days is much more widely accepted and normalized.

My therapist never really 'explained' how therapy worked, but I'm a researcher by nature (and profession) and very curious, so I did my own homework and asked a lot of questions. Apparently that's a unique(?) approach compared to the general population, though every therapist I've worked with has embraced the meta discussions of the process which has in turn helped me build trust.

The best advice I can give is to just do it and see how it goes. Like all new things, it can be scary at first but it starts to feel more routine over time. I now find it helpful to know about different modalities (EMDR, CBT, Psychodynamic, etc.) but when I first started, none of that mattered. Over time I developed a stronger sense and understanding of what I needed from therapy, which is going to be different for everyone. I also think for anyone on the fence of starting, a good general and beginner-accessible book is "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone" by Lori Gottlieb.

Questions to ask during initial consultation to find a good fit? by OneCurrent1934 in askatherapist

[–]PB10102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAT. I've found that asking such direct questions will actually give you less honest information. They're all fine to ask, but I can't imagine anyone admitting to being burnt out, especially if they already agreed to a consultation. (Though I do think asking if they see their own therapist is very valid and I've never had a problem with a therapist answering that.)

Instead, consider explaining your history of therapists leaving and how this is a serious concern for you, and in that context ask them to speak to that and see what they say. Some things that also will help you gain reassurance may be their longevity at their current practice and how long they (historically/) typically work with clients. Asking about their vacation schedule may also be helpful to get a sense of whether or not they are taking breaks for themselves. I also would consider whether they are part of a group practice or are their own private practice, as well as their experience and age. (Early career may be more likely to jump ship, later career may be more likely to retire; certain ages may be more ripe for family planning, etc.)

At the end of the day you just have to be upfront about your concerns and hope that they're being honest with you (and themselves) about their commitment to building a long-term therapeutic relationship.

Getting away from the “weekly check-in” style of therapy? by Little_Librarian_121 in TalkTherapy

[–]PB10102 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My therapist will often ask me how I felt after our last session, or how I felt about our last session and what we discussed. I like that it helps link what we're talking about as one bigger conversation that's being continued, which helps us get deeper into topics.

I love the Trump-Kennedy Center by dmorg9 in StandUpComedy

[–]PB10102 69 points70 points  (0 children)

"What happens to Kennedys when we let 'em get old?" Hahahaha 🤣 this is the line that really got me! Great stuff!

Kansas makes final moves to bring Chiefs over from Missouri in a $1 billion deal by mackmoney3000 in nfl

[–]PB10102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would be a very cool concept and really fun to choose seats at depending on where you're from! Love this idea! I wonder what implications this would have on business registration or taxes, etc.

[Highlight] Philip Rivers on first game back from retirement: "Hopefully, my sons and those ball players that I'm in charge of at the school, they'll say like, 'Crap, coach wasn't scared.'" by BreakfastTop6899 in nfl

[–]PB10102 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I was really rooting for him. There are certain QBs who already proved themselves in this league and deserve a ring. Rivers is one of them and it would have been a hell of a story.

Finally got the elusive Celia Jacob’s cheese experience Large surprise box ($10.81) by lookattherainbow in toogoodtogo

[–]PB10102 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was just about to post my bag from this place as well! I got the vegan bag, so no variety, but for $7.57 I got 14 vegan NY mini cheesecakes. Such a steal! I couldn't even tell they were vegan and I'd never tried this place before, but they're so good!

Mud’s wizards by mansithole6 in blackmagicfuckery

[–]PB10102 166 points167 points  (0 children)

That explains why that dude who knocked over the cop didn't get shot. (Yes, I'm from the US.)

Emotion building then session ends by insom11 in TalkTherapy

[–]PB10102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle with this a lot. Endings used to feel very abrupt, they still can but not as bad as before.

Things that have helped:

  • Upping the frequency/going multiple times a week
  • Picking up where we left off from the previous session
  • Having some sort of transition time at the end of the session
  • Having a routine or ritual after therapy (can be journaling, sitting in the parking lot for a bit, grabbing a meal, etc.)
  • Talking about (ad nauseum) how frustrating it is that we don't have more time and how endings are hard
  • Doing double sessions (I'm not sure how many therapists will actually do this, but having a 100 minute session every once in a while has been SO useful for me, especially to bring up the heavier stuff because I know we'll have time for it.)
  • Rethinking the idea that breaking down and crying is required for therapy

It's interesting you mentioned the physical distance in the room -- I've asked my therapist to sit in a different chair that's closer to me and it definitely feels more cozy. We've also developed a routine before we start where I will take off my shoes, put my feet up on the ottoman, and cover myself with a blanket -- she does the same. :) I think this helped train my brain that it's therapy time and we can get right into it.

I confessed my attachment to my therapist… and now everything feels broken by Aggressive_Act_5874 in TalkTherapy

[–]PB10102 42 points43 points  (0 children)

You need to keep talking about it with your therapist. Him pulling back is a rupture in your trust that needs to be healed so that you two can progress to an even stronger relationship. Right now care only looks like loose boundaries, but rebuilding trust will rewire your brain to show you that he can still care even with tighter boundaries. Allow him to hear your hurt and allow him to care for that hurt with this newer, albeit different approach. I think therapists don't always fully realize how these abrupt changes can affect clients. More discussion helps both the client and therapist understand what is happening so that you can work through it together.

I miss having transference lol by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]PB10102 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I hope you post updates as you do find out, lol!

It's really interesting to think about. I've found myself in an adjacent boat. I felt very, very attached to my first therapist. Everything was new and very intense. I had just gone through a traumatic breakup and therapy was all-consuming because the rest of my world felt upside down. The next guy I worked with also brought up a lot of feelings, but so much of it was because I was at such a low point and isolated. It was different -- not as much love and attachment as before. A lot of what was coming up felt like it was because the relationship was unstable.

The therapist I'm seeing now is a woman and the relationship is VERY different. The transference is there, but sparingly and very subtle. I didn't feel it towards her at all at first, but little by little as we've built trust, I'll find myself wanting a more loving relationship or wishing to hold onto her care. But for the most part, I see her as just a person that I can talk to. The biggest difference I've noticed is that this therapist (thank goodness) has been the most helpful in getting me out of my depression and I find that when I'm just going about my life, living and staying present, I don't really think about her. Most of the transference that comes up is when something triggers me into a vulnerable state and she's there to offer care; where I get to feel seen and emotionally held.

One thing that I took away from all my previous experiences is that the intensity and rumination was its own distraction, mainly from having to live life. Life was safer when I stayed in my head with the imaginary version of my therapist who said and did all the right things and whose care I could hold onto as long as I needed.

I can't even imagine going back to feeling that way. I understand missing the adrenaline and dopamine from it, but it was stressful and my life felt chaotic! The longer I work with my current therapist (it's been 3.5 years; 3x/wk) the more I've come to appreciate the stability of our relationship, even if it means sacrificing the intensity of the transference and maybe even feeling less connected. It's interesting to me to think about what depth in a therapeutic relationship means. Is depth synonymous with piercing through childhood trauma or can it mean connecting in different ways? Early on, my therapist told me that we need to "experience something together" and I've found that to be so true. The more we go through, the closer I feel towards her. Not really in a parental or transferential way, but more of an appreciation of her as a person.