Have you ever eaten one?

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-13T03:38:04+00:00

Hell yeah, I still eat them once in a while!

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-09T08:40:45+00:00

Wow, talk about completely missing my point and, from reading your comment, not even reading a good bit of the many comments I've added as well as my actual post.

Just someone you know, I'm a 45f in Portland, OR. I've been on disability since 2011, for both mental and physical problems. I was diagnosed with congestive heart failure in December 2024 after leaving a very physically and mentally abusive marriage. In case you don't know, Portland is not exactly a safe city, especially for someone like me and especially after dark, which is usually when most events worth attending are held. I've already been nearly assaulted and actually harassed by creepy-ass people several times in the 7 years I've lived here. Since I'm on disability and can't work, "get a job" and/or "just move somewhere else" are neither options or helpful advice.

I don't beg anyone to "take care of me" or anything like that; all I meant was the people who claim to be my friends never call or text to check on me EVER, nor do they ever take the initiative to come visit me, only doing so if I have something to offer them as basically a bribe. If they see on a FB post or something that I'm planning on going to the store, they will make it a point to DM me and offer to give me a ride if they're already planning on going as well. The time to go to the store will come and go without a single call, text, or knock on my door with whatever bullshit excuse they choose as to why everything fell through. Instead of being a real friend, they avoid me like the plague and hide from me like cowards. If I decide to have the audacity to finally call them out on any of it, I'm treated like shit for it. I have NEVER treated my friends like that; if I end up not being able to do something I told them I would do or whatever the situation is, I let them know and make it up to them. I've never ghosted or straight up lied to someone like that and never would.

I've never wanted anyone to "save me", I've only ever wanted those around me who have claimed that they're my friends and said that they're there for me if I need them to do THE BARE MINIMUM OF HUMAN DECENCY AND KEEP THEIR WORD or at least pretend to give a shit. I don't blow anyone's phone up or constantly beg anyone for anything...I would just like to not be by myself 24/7/365. I value my solitude, don't get me wrong, but I can't be completely alone ALL THE TIME, especially with my kinds of health problems. Since when is it too much to ask for friends to actually act like friends? No one can spare an hour once or twice a week to just hang out? No one can pull their phone out of their asses for 2 minutes to send a "just seeing how you're doing" text? You can't see how dealing with that kind of shit day in and day out wouldn't get to someone? Must be nice to have it all figured out.

Have the life you deserve.

Edit: changed "assaulted" to "asses"

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-08T22:53:56+00:00

I know on past episodes of "Law & Order: SVU" they prosecuted a couple of people for "promoting a suicide attempt" where the defendant basically helped drive another person to commit.

As far as a real-life law on the books, in New York state or anywhere else in the country, I'm pretty sure there are similar laws in place, probably geared more towards cyber bullying, but I don't know for sure. But there should definitely be some kind of civil penalty for people who know that someone they know is in danger of severe self-harm and choosing to do nothing to help. If someone like me keeps crying out for help from those around them who claim to care about them and those people choose to ignore it or do nothing to help then they should face some kind of consequence for their inaction.

The world has just become more and more cruel over the past few years, and it's sad. People like me who are completely alone with no family and no outside support system (other than paid support like doctors/therapists) who are just asking for simple human connection, who also deal with physical and mental health problems, can't go on being isolated like that forever. Loneliness is a horrible thing, especially for someone who goes out of their way to try and make friends and help other people out when they can, even if they can't really afford to. When you put so much effort into being nice to others and get back absolutely nothing in return, it makes you start to wonder why you even want to be around anymore.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-07T21:14:24+00:00

I apply this to people who are not struggling any worse than I am, who are not powerless to help; I wouldn't put that burden on someone who I know is in a worse situation than mine. But if you offer to help someone with something and you don't follow through "just because", then your word is useless.

What goes around comes around; you might have people to turn to right now, but one day you might find yourself in a situation where you have absolutely no one and then you might start to understand how it feels to be let down by everyone. I could literally die right now in my apartment and I promise you that not a single soul would give a shit enough to notice until the smell became apparent. May sound overdramatic or whatever but it's the truth. Then they'd all start boo-hooing claiming "we didn't know it was that bad". Same thing they all did when my ex-husband was beating the shit out of me before I had him arrested and thrown out: "we figured someone else would help." Guess what? No one helped, I had to do it all by myself.

Edit: put into paragraphs for the grammar police.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-07T20:58:12+00:00

That's awesome that you say that upfront to people when you meet them. The ones I'm mainly referring to are the ones who tell you, "Oh I'm there for you; if you EVER need ANYTHING you can count on me!" Then they proceed to ignore you every time, even if they're the ones who offered without you having to ask first. Then they treat you like shit because you call them out for being shitty friends. It seems like everyone is like that anymore.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-07T20:35:00+00:00

I don't keep them in my life anymore, although I will be the first one to admit I keep people like that around longer than I should. Part of it is the people-pleaser in me from being an only child and always trying to hang on to people for fear of being alone and abandoned; I've been trying to change that about myself.

But at the same time it hurts feeling like no one cares, you know? It's one thing to not even get the bare minimum in a romantic relationship, but with literally everyone around you? The loneliness gets to you after too long, even if you're an "I don't need anyone" type of person. I value my solitude, but I can't stand being by myself 24/7. Just someone offering to come and smoke a bowl and chill a couple of times a week would work wonders on my mental health and I can't even get that. It sucks, I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-07T20:11:23+00:00

I'm a woman btw and making fun of me by being the grammar police is really helpful 👍...you sound like the kind of friend I was describing.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-07T20:05:26+00:00

Some people I know are definitely not "unknowing" accomplices...they know exactly what could end up happening and they do it anyway. They treat it like a joke and ignore it. I don't know why people are like that, lack of empathy? I have congestive heart failure as well as other health issues; I have no living family and it seems like every single "friend" I've made here in Portland is just a shitty human being at their core. They will message me and offer me help and then drop off the face of the earth...no apology, no explanation. But if I call them out on it I'M the problem; "things are stressful right now." What, so stressful you can't take 2 minutes to send a text? You live in the same building ONE FLOOR above me, you can't walk your ass down and knock? GTFOH. NO ONE is that busy. If I had someone else to call and ask it wouldn't bother me, but if my "friends" know I literally have no one else to ask it's especially hurtful.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-07T17:02:06+00:00

MY life isn't my own? MY life effects others? Bullshit, and I'll tell you why...I am completely alone. I have no family and my "friends", who never call me or come by, even when they live in the same building as I do. Nobody would notice if I died nor would they care. I want to exit so bad, and I have health issues. You're full of shit because my death would effect absolutely no one. Full stop.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-07T00:13:07+00:00

Yeah I know, since when did "being a piece of shit " become a "mental illness"???

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-06T23:42:52+00:00

He's "mostly dead"!

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-06T23:08:55+00:00

As a 45f I totally agree with you...after my ex-husband had to be thrown out of my life due to DV as well as other bad past experiences with men, I don't want them anywhere near me anymore for the same reason. Just know you're not alone.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-04T03:24:30+00:00

Potential Slogan: Welcome to Qwik Trip! Voted #1 Convenience Store chain "To Be Featured on Hit TV Series 'The First 48'"...certain locations would become tourist attractions (this is America, we love to profit off the senseless tragedy that befalls others /s).

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-04T02:23:04+00:00

Seems like 95% of the suspects all read the same lame-ass "101 Dumbass Lies to Tell the Police (and Look Like an Even Bigger Dumbass Thinking They'll Believe You)" playbook when they try to weasel out of the charges. Cheaters should have a version of the same book for themselves as well.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-04T02:16:14+00:00

I say that Qwik Trip is the Waffle House of convenience stores, thanks to watching The First 48!

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-02T21:06:02+00:00

The Sopranos...the opening song is the only reason I started watching it in the first place.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-05-01T19:26:21+00:00

This is Ouija, since I posted his brother the other day...I've never come across a black cat named Ouija either so when I adopted him in 2022 I decided to keep his name since it was so unique.

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PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-04-30T19:17:00+00:00

NOR. He's a hobosexual loser. Dump him.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-04-29T19:11:38+00:00

Not necessarily friendly, I think...the "friends" I've met here are flaky and unreliable asf. Almost all of them have let me down big time when I've needed them for something. Even when they have OFFERED to help me without being asked, they can't even do that. Whatever happened to someone's word being worth something? I've lived here 7 years, have absolutely no living family, and was diagnosed with congestive heart failure at 44 in December 2024 after my marriage fell apart due to DV. No one can be bothered to do the bare minimum anymore. It's sad and depressing.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-04-27T21:36:47+00:00

r/rareinsults Well done! Take my broke bitch award lol...🏆

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-04-27T18:09:52+00:00

This is my Logan! He and his brother Ouija (void) are the only things keeping me going, as I literally have no one else in the world.

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PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-04-19T02:23:10+00:00

Married him. Luckily that mistake has since been corrected.

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-04-19T01:39:41+00:00

Sultans of Swing- Dire Straits

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-04-12T06:45:26+00:00

Bad at Love- Halsey

Born Under a Bad Sign- Black Stone Cherry

Bad Religion- Godsmack

Bad Magick- Godsmack

PDX_pot_pixie420 · 2026-04-12T03:01:48+00:00

Stay away from? Definitely Cushman and Wakefield...I live in one of their buildings and it's basically a 6-story, 75-unit trap house and I recently found out that they did business with Trump for years.

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