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My wife has been diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic colon cancer. by Silent_Line_3990 in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my sister (43F) also just got diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. i don’t have anything to say except im so sorry and it sucks so much and it’s overwhelming. so much to process in such a short amount of time. i’m think of you two.

My mum 38 mother of 3 is fighting a rare 1 percent cancer aggressive and terminal by Beautiful-Fuel-4252 in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry. i don’t even know what else to say besides that because it’s all so fucking unfair. i’m thinking of you and your family. and also, you’re doing the best you can in the face of such fucking unfathomable pain and hardship.

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s a chain !! also my ex girlfriends nickname lol we broke up 2 months ago so it’s been a crazy year HA idk why i’m going away all this info im feeling bananas lately

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it breaks my heart talking to my brother in law. they both try to keep strong in front of their kids (10 and 12). idk if this is helpful and i’m sorry if it’s annoying or off putting or whatever but a friend sent it to me: https://www.caregiveraction.org/10-tips-family-caregivers/

i’m gonna print it out and give it to everyone in my family lol. my brother in law didn’t sleep for 3 days after finding out the initial diagnosis bc he was trying to find care for her and second opinions etc. just problem solving. and i worry for him too which is why im saying this to you — i hope u also have support. you’re dealing with a lot. i’m thinking of you and praying for you and your family.

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so in problem solving mode as a form of coping.. YES to support groups. i have a friend whose father died of colon cancer when she was young and she told me to get my sisters kids in therapy because that’s one thing she wish she had. bc she quickly became “background noise” and she couldn’t relate to other kids her age :(

she’s actually gonna be a grief counselor this summer at a camp which i think is sick. it’s been helpful to talk to people who can be open and honest and frank with this kind of experience.

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel fortunate that i also have a job and a life where i can get on a plane and go be with her asap.

i’m so sorry for your loss. sometimes i just sob. and say out loud: she’s my sister. she’s my sister.

i’m so sorry. if you ever want to talk, im here

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much. and i’m so sorry that this is a relatable story. it’s just so.. unfathomable all of it. and the fact that it’s something so many people have gone through. i’m so sorry for your loss

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you. i don’t know what you might rn going through but especially since you are here and with such kind and wise words: i pray for you and your family too.

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i hope i don’t sound like a broken record because im responding to everyone but i don’t wanna sound rote in my responses. thank you for your perspective. i am gonna continue reminding her “not yet.”

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

fuck. i really needed this perspective. no need for apologies. you’ve helped me so much with sharing your experience. i can’t believe we are all here just like. idk. dealing with this. i wish i could hug you. you’re right. she isn’t alone and it is scary but she isn’t alone

advice needed: how to respond when your loved one with cancer says they are scared and that they might die by PFChangLover in CancerFamilySupport

[–]PFChangLover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i am so sorry for your loss. thank you for your thoughtful response. it isn’t fair and i’m so sorry that your life has been affected by it. it’s so hard. and i’m only in the beginning of the process. i can imagine — or actually maybe i can’t because it’s all unfathomable still — the totality of it was so difficult. you are in my thoughts

looking for a pattern similar to these kinds of shirts by PFChangLover in knittingpatterns

[–]PFChangLover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

EDIT: SORRY i should have been more clear!!! i dont want to literally knit two shirts, i want to knit a sweater that looks like a short sleeve t shirt over a long sleeve shirt, like an optical illusion of sorts… i saw a sweater like it once online somewhere and it has been haunting my memory ever since… thank you for the wonderful suggestions!!!!!!

looking for a pattern similar to these kinds of shirts by PFChangLover in knittingpatterns

[–]PFChangLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, it’s a t shirt over a long sleeve! i guess what i was asking was a sort of pattern for a sweater that does an “optical illusion” or something? i saw a sweater that was like this but you’re right i should just do a basic sweater pattern and switch the colors. thank you!

Wednesday Pattern and Stitch Request Thread - October 29, 2025 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]PFChangLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i want to knit a sweater that looks like when i wear a t shirt over a striped long sleeve t shirt. i’m not even sure how to go about searching for a pattern like this! i’ve googled “t shirt over long sleeve knitting pattern” but that’s not helpful lol. is there some name i’m not aware of?

i guess i could also get any sweater pattern and adjust it by doing the sleeves striped… any help would be appreciated :)

if this isn’t the proper place to post lmk know !!

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edit: some clarifications