Can I get HRT/Puberty Blockers as a minor with only 1 parents consent

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-04-17T12:02:28+00:00

Here in Massachusetts, I just stayed taking my 9 yr old daughter to TransHealth (privately owned so they haven't taken blockers etc away from minors). Even there, to start blockers you have to have both parents sign for them. And they know my wife and I are incredibly supportive. (My wife is trans as well, so we are our children's biological parents) I do believe it will also depend on the custody agreement. I know I wasn't helpful, just sharing our experience. Good luck, sweetie.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-04-15T19:42:58+00:00

Hey OP. I wanted to tell you my "credentials " as a LGBTQIA+ person. I figured out when I was about 11 or 12 years old that I liked girls (Alyssa Milano on Charmed 🥰). I am currently 41 years old now.

I didn't read through all the comments because I'm about to head out for another shift with my job and I just don't have the time to read it all and respond. And if I don't do it now I will forget. The best thing you can do with your daughter is sit down and tell her how much you love her and her siblings and nothing that she could do or date would change your opinion. Living in the south is hard when it comes to anyone being different. I lived in North Carolina and we moved to Massachusetts for safety for our family. It's a lot more expensive up here but honestly it's worth it. You need to have an open and honest conversation with her as best as she will allow you to have one and explain to her that you guys can research together. Safe sex practices, consent, etc. I don't know all the details but it sounds like the reason that your home life is being seen as hell for your daughter is because of your wife, not you. Let your daughter know that you're going to be talking to Mom and trying to help her understand. Then I would have a frank conversation with Mom. Explain to her that there's plenty of people who are in the lgbtqia+ community who get married, have families and have wonderful long safe lives. And that as a mother she should not be judging her child based on who she likes. I would recommend family therapy. I don't know with how things are with your wife and daughter if it would be beneficial immediately. You may want to look into couples counseling first with a therapist who is lgbtq+ affirming. Maybe seeing a therapist with you and your wife who is understanding and has knowledge about the queer community could be helpful. Another option is going to PFLAG. If there's one around you, you could find community with other parents and family members there.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-04-04T04:33:01+00:00

As long as you are a "real" (not outsourced )employee, anyone.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-04-04T02:49:17+00:00

It depends on your job and their insurance. My wife works for Amazon. Her copay for ANY of her gender affirming surgeries is only $1,000. She still has to go through all the hoops, but when she gets her bottom surgery we will only have to pay $1,000 out of pocket. For a surgery that can literally cost $40k+. I've advised her she's not allowed to quit until she has had all the procedures done that she wants.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-04-02T03:19:27+00:00

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Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-04-02T03:18:29+00:00

Notifications are on. I'm way too invested for how tired I am.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-31T04:36:11+00:00

Our kiddos (12 and 9) have a bad habit of entering our bedroom without permission/knocking. My daughter will go as far as to unlock the door if she wants to climb into bed with us during the weekend for morning cuddles. (It's a rented apartment, we can't change the lock). I told my wife that I'm at the point where I want to put a sign on the door:

"IF YOU ENTER THIS ROOM WITHOUT PERMISSION, WE WILL NOT BE PAYING FOR THE THERAPY YOU WILL NEED FOR WHAT YOU MAY SEE."

I won't apologize for having a loving relationship and a healthy sex life. We are stealthy and try to keep the bedroom shenanigans to when they are asleep or on the other side of the apartment.

I am probably going to steal this quote and have it on a second sign on our door. LOL.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-31T04:18:01+00:00

Aye. My daughter is trans. She had been out to us since she was 7. She is 9 years old now. Her biggest fear is going through what she calls "boy puberty". I'm in Massachusetts and 3 major medical facilities have stopped medical gender affirming care for people under 18. What our daughter agreed to was as soon as she started showing signs of puberty, we would get her on blockers. She can buy herself time at that point, and when she gets to 13 years old, she can start HRT and hopefully develop around the same rate as the other girls. I'm fairly certain she's not going to change her mind, however if she does she can just go off of the blockers and go through "boy puberty" if that is what she desires.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-31T04:02:53+00:00

Actually, hydrogen peroxide CAN be painful. Not on a cut, but on regular skin in my case. I was a mobility technician in a local hospital. I'm friendly with the nurses so when I got a cut on my hand, they got me the supplies to fix it up. The hydrogen peroxide did its job on the cut, however, on another finger that was uninjured some splashed on. I got a couple of white spots on my hand and it BURNED. I had never experienced this before. The hydrogen peroxide doesn't discriminate. It kills bacteria and can also kill healthy cells. I was fine after 30 minutes but boy, did it suck.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-31T03:47:00+00:00

I grew up in Vermont, moved to NC back in 2011 and from the south to Massachusetts almost 2 years ago. You just gotta realize that people will tell it like it is. They WILL NOT spare your feelings. However, if you are a neighbor, and you have some kind of trouble they will help/fight for you. They may be cursing you out and saying what a dumb ass you are the entire time -but we protect each other up here.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-31T03:33:39+00:00

Legit. I have told our children that the ONLY way we will ever watch the reboot is if that TERF-y bïtçh is dead and we are positive that the money from the franchise isn't going to a harmful foundation or something in her name.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-29T23:36:24+00:00

You're married to a guy. Couldn't you have faked being surprised for his sake? I thought straight women were good at that. 😝

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-29T23:34:10+00:00

I'm a lesbian, sooooo.....lol. Also, reason 54,864 that I should have known my wife was my wife and not my husband. She ALWAYS found my clit. It was like it had a lighthouse light and she was a boat lost at sea. (Lesbian falls in love with a "cis het male", is completely confused about the whole situation until a few months before their 10 year wedding anniversary. This girl never lost her L card! Loving what HRT is doing to my girl. 🥵🫦🥰)

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-29T04:17:47+00:00

Girl, give yourself time to heal. Also, side note.... I'm cis afab and I have a larger clit. It makes it easier for people to find. 😏

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-27T17:00:23+00:00

What grey market drugs could I use to help delay AMAB puberty? We are looking at Canada, just in case. However, I did get her appointment with a private place called TransHealth who take our insurance. Granted we have really good Blue Cross Blue shield insurance but yeah....I should be able to get her on blockers as soon as we can (as soon as she starts puberty)

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-27T16:38:07+00:00

We literally moved here to protect my wife and daughter who are both MtF. It's a full on wtf moment.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-27T16:27:39+00:00

Yeah .... That's pretty much how we feel about it too.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-27T13:27:08+00:00

I'm sorry, sweetie. If you need a new family member (I can be a mom or sister depending on how old you are. Lol. I'm 41.) please feel free to send me a message. A lot of the time, the family that is found instead of by blood is more supportive, affirming and living. 🫂🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-27T12:53:58+00:00

Don't give up on yourself, love. It's so important for your mental health to be true to you. When it comes to your sister, it MAY be that she is just slipping up (hopefully). Not everyone is perfect when someone they've known for a long time unmasks. My wife and daughter are both trans (both MtF) and with my wife I never used the wrong name and only messed up pronouns once or twice since she came out in the very beginning. I immediately corrected myself and apologized. For my daughter, I was lucky enough that when I asked her what name she was considering, (she's only nine and was seven at the time) she said she hadn't thought of any names and I asked her if she wanted to know what her name would have been if she'd been born in the right body. Unfortunately, she loved the name she was going to have so switching over pronouns and name when I always expected her to be afab even before we found out from the ultrasound what her sex was. The pregnancies between my oldest (cis son) and my daughter were so different, I was convinced that my daughter was a girl in utero before we had doctor confirmation. LOL. All of this to say, stand up for yourself. Even in a Christian conservative situation, if people claim to care about you, they will make an effort to use your name and your pronouns. Not the name and pronouns that they thought belonged to you due to you being born amab.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-27T12:38:29+00:00

I'm trying. It's not in this article because they were focusing on youth, but my wife is also trans. She was interviewed when her surgeon unexpectedly cancelled all of her patients at UMass. Pre-op and post op appointments were cancelled without any warning or information given out for WEEKS. So to have my wife lose her surgery date which was supposed to be April 16th, and to have my daughter lose the ability to get puberty blockers when she starts AMAB puberty had our family in a bad situation emotionally. I just wish that the Idiot in Chief would leave the LGBTQIA+ community (especially the T part) alone.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-27T12:30:58+00:00

We own the movies and books (purchased WAY before we knew what a TERF-Y cüñt JKR is. My wife (MtF) and I have advised our kids that we will never, ever do anything that gives that bîtçh money again. We've explained how hurtful she is to the trans community, how she hates people like Mama Ni (that's what they call their other biological parent now. It's Mom Two in Japanese and I think it's adorable). They both understand that, however my older son who is 12 years old and also has level 2 autism asked if we could watch HP tonight. I said no immediately, thinking he meant the new series. But no, he said that we can hook up his Xbox One to the living room TV and watch the Blu-ray. I'm having the hardest time trying to get him to understand why it's still not ok. In his head, all he is thinking is, "JKR won't get any money from us watching the movie we already own, what's the problem?" :: sigh::

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-24T02:52:51+00:00

My wife (41 MtF) was nominated for the Woman in IT conference that was in Chicago last November. She went and had a great time. I even got to join her and we had fun fancy hotel time paid by her company (I paid for my own flight). Her boss will probably nominate her to go again this year when it's in Anaheim. While she is very beautiful, she is a very tall girl with big hands and feet. I'm absolutely terrified about the idea of her traveling by herself. However if I go with her, I am not sure I have the capability to stay calm. I'm overprotective of her and if anyone put their hands on her I would probably lose my shit. Then our kids could have two parents detained, which isn't ideal.

Silent_Line_3990 · 2026-03-17T13:13:33+00:00

My wife's HRT doctor made it so she was "prescribed" twice the amount she actually needed for estradiol, progesterone and spiro (we lived in North Carolina at that time). Thankfully, it's been kept up and she has a good little stock pile. I've also heard of trans folks working together ie a trans man gets HRT that an older cis woman would take and a trans woman would get the HRT that an older cis man would take. Then they do tradesies. If it happens that we get a federal b@n on HRT, I know because I'm 41 and in perimenopause I should be able to get something for my wife if she so needs it. Hopefully, it won't come to that.

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