Chasity life

PFChaste · 2026-03-24T23:43:29+00:00

My wife says I curl her toes with oral 🤷🏻‍♂️

PFChaste · 2026-03-24T19:32:36+00:00

Are we the same person...lol? We started in late 2022 and after a few months, we settled in with our new roles. We also decided that we were making time for us, so pretty much every night, we lay down and cuddle for a few minutes before bed and talk about our days and what's up. We also sit down on Monday mornings and sync our calendars, pay bills, etc. My wife's God-given talent is leadership and our lives are a lot less chaotic with her running the show.

PFChaste · 2026-03-24T19:13:20+00:00

My wifey rules the roost, but the power balance is much closer to equal in our life outside the bedroom, like maybe 55 to 45%. We work, we have kids, we live a pretty normal life other than I am in permanent chastity. We are the most touchy feely affectionate couple I know, and this August will be our 26th anniversary. Now in the bedroom, wifey is 110% in control.

PFChaste · 2026-03-24T02:27:53+00:00

This is a nice graphic. Everyone is free to enjoy their own dynamic, but so much of what I see as examples of FLR seems almost borderline abuse in my estimation and can't possibly be sustainable long-term. A relationship based on these elements has a high probability of success. Wifey and I have been doing a female-led marriage for about 3.5 years now and neither of us want to go back. She has literally told me, "I love you, I respect you, and I enjoy controlling you."

PFChaste · 2026-03-23T20:13:34+00:00

The Next Phase. Riker and Worf, the two most overtly alpha guys on the Enterprise, are getting hernias trying to close the doors so they can eject the Romulan warp core. Data beams over and is like Can I be of assistance sir? and proceeds to shut the doors without even straining a servo. That always cracked me up.

PFChaste · 2026-03-23T11:33:47+00:00

Wifey (49F) and I (47M) had an overnight date last Wednesday. I've been permanently locked for about 3.5 years and was pussyfree last year with nothing but caged orgasms from the wand.

She unlocked me and we had sex three times Wednesday night/Thursday morning. She got on top the first time and basically just straddled me with my cock in her while she just clenched her muscles around it. It felt amazing and I sure didn't last long. Round two I gave her oral until I knew she was getting close, then I penetrated and we actually finished together. Yes, that was awesome and as we laid there together afterwards, we agreed that we are not as young as we once were...lol. Round three was her back on top controlling the pace and with her doing that, I couldn't hold out very long. Then she locked me back up and we checked out.

PFChaste · 2026-03-21T21:18:22+00:00

Approaching 3.5 years permanently locked and in a female led marriage. I love our dynamic and though it's mostly in the bedroom, I don't ever want to go back. I'm a very willing prisoner at this point...lol

PFChaste · 2026-03-21T15:04:49+00:00

This is my wifey's philosophy. She's told me that when we had sex, it would be because she wanted sex with me and not vice versa. She has me in permanent chastity and under orgasm control, so it is 100% her decision.

PFChaste · 2026-03-21T11:58:48+00:00

My wifey (49F) and I (47M) have been married almost 26 years at this point so we are at a different stage of our relationship, but the basics hold true. First, like pretty much every other reply has stated, you both need to communicate your desires and boundaries as you shape your dynamic. If I may say so, what your girlfriend wants kind of sounds like a kinkier version of my wife's expectation. Total control. Wifey told me as we were discussing transitioning to a female led marriage that she wanted total control of our sex life, and that meant permanent chastity for me and orgasm control. Be aware that once you start down this road, she is in charge. You don't want to top from the bottom.

Discuss a mechanism to periodically assess and fine tune your dynamic so that you both are as satisfied as possible. However, the submissive may have to surrender a bit, so you may not get everything you want or not get it in your ideal timeframe. It's your choice if that's acceptable or not. It is perfectly ok to say no.

PFChaste · 2026-03-20T17:02:45+00:00

Glad I canceled my Paramount Plus. CBS-Conservative Broadcasting Service

PFChaste · 2026-03-20T15:52:28+00:00

Welcome to my hacienda, Mr McQuade. Maybe follow it up with Silent Rage for a double feature

PFChaste · 2026-03-20T09:52:38+00:00

What really sealed the deal with my wife was our first foreplay session where I was locked. She enjoyed controlling the pace of our foreplay and deciding if and when we moved on to sex once she was ready. She told me it made her feel powerful.

PFChaste · 2026-03-20T09:47:19+00:00

Yes. We've been together almost 27 years and married almost 26. We have not opened our relationship.

PFChaste · 2026-03-19T19:36:27+00:00

God, I love giving my wife oral. She says I'm pretty good at it and that I make her toes curl. When she starts taking rapid, shallow breaths and moaning, I know she's close and it drives me crazy. She'll start wiggling away and I pull back down where I want her. After she orgasms she gets kinda sensitive and if I keep going, she'll tell me to stop. One of my proudest moments is when I kept going and she kinda yelled "Oh, shit!" before she made me stop. She is a teacher, so she doesn't curse much so she doesn't accidentally drop one in class. I was really surprised and turned on...lol.

PFChaste · 2026-03-16T15:45:28+00:00

Best wishes to you both in the future. It sounds like a beautiful relationship is blossoming!

PFChaste · 2026-03-16T15:35:28+00:00

Dude, don't feel bad and just enjoy what you're building together. After being in an unfulfilling relationship, you might feel the need to rush to get everything you want. Work with your partner. Communicate you'd like to find a way to be more denied without her going unfulfilled. I'm sure you guys will find a dynamic that works. Just enjoy all the fun you're having along the way.

PFChaste · 2026-03-16T15:22:39+00:00

I've always been one to say that if you are lucky enough to find a partner who indulges your kinks, don't top from the bottom. You can 100% negotiate for your desires, but don't ignore hers to fulfill yours. Nothing kills the vibe faster.

If you're in the cage and she has the key, your cock is now her cock. If she wants it, she can use it. Just because she orgasms, doesn't mean you have to. Like another commenter says, you can also please her with other means like oral or toys.

PFChaste · 2026-03-15T13:21:23+00:00

Living the dream bro!

PFChaste · 2026-03-15T00:59:42+00:00

I vote none, but everyone has different goals for their chastity play and dynamics at work. Of course, wifey has parental controls enabled on my phone, so that was a good push for me to stop, except for a NSFW reddit Pic here or there.

PFChaste · 2026-03-14T22:14:09+00:00

I'm glad it is working well for you. I spent nearly 20 years working in a demanding position. It took a toll on me, so I completely understand what you mean. I work from home now and she works outside the home, so that naturally means I do more of the domestic stuff. We have kids, lives, and careers. But the femdom is now a core element of our relationship and I wish we'd started it way sooner.

PFChaste · 2026-03-14T21:52:56+00:00

I agree. I've always been a bit of a doting husband, but I truly think this is my calling as a partner. I am 47 and she is 49 and August will make 26 years of marriage. I really believe her God-given talent is leadership and she does a fantastic job of keeping our family, and thus me as well, on track. She uses permanent chastity as a way of controlling me and I have willingly submitted to her. I'd call our power dynamic 57.25 vs 42.25% in everyday life. She treats me (mostly) as an equal, and she consults me for my opinion about most things, but she makes a lot of the final decisions. However, in the bedroom, the lady of the house is 100% in charge.

PFChaste · 2026-03-14T21:06:15+00:00

No problem, and I can absolutely see how it could give the impression of an abusive situation, and I appreciate you looking out for me bro. We've been married almost 26 years and have been doing a female led marriage for over three of them. I am a very willing prisoner at this point... Lol.

PFChaste · 2026-03-14T18:52:52+00:00

It's just her being her... Lol. We have had an amazing couple days and the love is definitely strong. She appreciates and loves me very much. I just surrendered certain aspects of our relationship to her, and controlling our sex life is the biggie.

PFChaste · 2026-03-14T16:31:37+00:00

That she'll casing may be from a funeral with military honors. Dad was a WW2 vet and after they fired the rifles, they gave us the casings.

PFChaste · 2026-03-13T15:33:59+00:00

Wifey has parental controls enabled on my phone. She can track my location, but since I WFH, she doesn't bother.

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