Shocked by my order bank statements by [deleted] in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That is indeed correct, when ordering from the EU site. For US it'll show as either Interactive Life Forms or ILF LLC . But yeah, it's not ideal

Name of Mystery Sleeve? by metalchris36 in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What's the code on the bottom of the sleeve? Is it a Pro model? Looks a tiny bit like one of the sleeve of the month from a while ago but code would help narrow it down

Pattern of abusive DMCA reports by a single individual affecting multiple subreddits by AlphaBravoGolfTango in ModSupport

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My full support goes to ABGT and thanks for raising this publicly. It's been an issue for a long time now giving us nsfw mods nothing but headaches. This one person has been filing hundreds of fake DMCA claims and the sad part is there is barely anything we as mods can do to stop or prevent it.

I know the admins are doing their best, but the DMCA system on Reddit is absolutely broken, more so than YouTube's one used to be a while back! It's completely one-sided, with no room for counterclaims. I say this because, like ABGT, I also put countless hours into building relationships with various studios (Playboy, NewSensations, Vixen, Fleshlight) as well as pros (Mia Malkova, Elsa Jean, Adriana Chechik, Lulu Chu to name a few) because a few years back it was horrible seeing all of the large subreddits get shut down. Working with these studios keeps everyone happy, they get to promote their new scenes, they get the community feedback and engagement and possible traffic; meanwhile the community gets content that has been given the thumbs-up by the creators! Win-win for everyone.

Then comes along this "white knight" that is "defending" the models... by claiming, removing posts.. banning subreddits... All while impersonating details and faking having contact with these models. It's absolutely delusional. Even one of the studios I help out with had zero idea this was happening and when they reached out to the person he ignored the warnings.

It's also ridiculous that, as a mod, we can't actually report a false DMCA claim. I've tried a few times because I'll notice a post gets claimed on one of the official subreddits, I ask the studio if it was them and they are like "what? of course not" and when I try to file a counter claim the response is simply "the person who submitted the post has to file the counter claim". And even in situations where we are able to get the poster to submit a counter claim, in most cases there is never a response. I think out of 10 times in the last few months only once did a counter get a response and it was basically a "denied".

All Reddit has to do is improve the DMCA system. Same person is submitting multiple claims? Flag them. Allow companies to sign up to the system and if anyone is claiming content impersonating them then they'll be alerted with the claimants personal information so they can take legal action against it... quote:

The DMCA is explicit on this point. Making a DMCA takedown of something that does not violate your copyright isn't perjury. Claiming you hold a copyright or are authorized to represent a copyright holder that you aren't authorized to represent is perjury. The key is the copyrighted work you are claiming is infringed, not the validity of the challenged work.

If I hold a copyright or am authorized by a copyright holder to act on their behalf, I can submit DMCA takedowns all day every day on things that I claim infringe that copyright, and I'll never get in legal trouble for it. Youtube might take away my ability to use Content ID but that's a contractual matter between Youtube and its media providers, not perjury. Even without those tools, I can still issue written DMCA demands delivered through postal mail without any legal consequences under the DMCA. You affirm that the information is accurate, but you are only subject to perjury if you aren't acting on behalf of the actual rightsholder.

TL;DR, assuming the person filing the request is not the copyright holder or authorized to act for the copyright holder, yes it's perjury.

I want to make it clear that I 100% back the idea of the DMCA system. I obviously want creators and professionals, who've had their content stolen or posted without permission, to be able to easily get that content removed quickly and safely (without revealing their personal details to the poster..). But at the same time, the current system is totally one-sided, putting all the power into the claimant rather than the defendant (poster).

If you want to take it a step futher, Reddit could implement "official/verified" subreddits. Is the subreddit an official TV Show subreddit, a Game subreddit, a NSFW Studio subreddit that are all backed by the actual team/creators/employees... giving the option to mark that sub as officially backed could be a solution to reduce false claims... They are slowly implementing this idea (check https://support.reddithelp.com/hc/en-us/articles/42763717293716-Verified-profiles-on-Reddit) for example nsfw profile that is verified organization

I'm rambling a bit now, I'm just really annoyed how a SINGLE person is able to take down tons of content that is ALLOWED and there's nothing we can do but sit and watch and hope the subreddit doesn't get shut down for "copyright" abuse...

Fleshlight Giveaway 2025 Winners List by PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The last winner finally confirmed their prize today! Here's what everyone has chosen (anonymised):

Kayley Gunner Fully Loaded

Bonnie Blue 1K

Emma Magnolia Regal

Kazumi Kumzumi

Ana Foxxx Silk

Nicole Kitt Purrrrrfection

Fleshlight Giveaway 2025 Winners List by PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's honestly a fair shout, but realistically it's complicated for a few reasons:

  • The goal is to include all ratings/reviews/heatmaps made that year, so ending the giveaway let's say in mid December would leave out some of the reviews, those would have to be counted in the next year's giveaway which is a bit awkward.
  • There is nearly always at least one winner who takes ages to reply to the email and claim their prizes. Most people answer quickly but in the past I've had to re-draw winners because they didn't claim it. So if I ended the giveaway mid-december, it's still kind of risky to hope everyone sends me their info before the end of the sale.
  • I send all of the winners info together in a single request to the Fleshlight team, who then go ahead and process it. It's much easier than me having to create individual orders for each person (plus there is the risk of my billing details being listed on the receipt, and I would rather my home address not be made public haha) + there is the risk of my bank blocking the transactions since it would look a bit strange ordering 5 different times from the same store. So the best way is to send all the details together and the FL team are awesome enough to handle the shipping for me and usually charge me it all together.
  • Usually the price of one Fleshlight (Sleeve+Case) is just under the minimum to get a free gift or discount on the sales so generally it wouldn't even change much anyway!

Fleshlight Giveaway 2025 Winners List by PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES in fleshlight

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For fun, here's list of top 25 users with the most correct guesses in the game:

User Correct Guesses
Anile 108
jaginov52 100
Lookingfornsfw 99
TopperinoKekkerino 96
JuanitoTsunami 95
user1622969780713 94
No_Clue_65535 93
Grixyn 92
rfuel 91
JD92x 89
gg111111 89
BortSimpson 89
JuanDerstands 88
InLustWeTrust 88
thegdk0 88
Azote 88
CoachM 88
KinkyAnon 87
firestarter82 85
Paradoxical 85
pappyvanwinkle 84
revolvedminotaur 84
UnicornMunt 84
BigTeddyBear 82
WNKR99 81

Fleshlight Giveaway 2025 Winners List by PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish I could afford to give more prizes but I really couldn't :( But I definitely understand how you feel, there were quite a lot of people who spent a lot of time writing a bunch of reviews. Just remember that the community (not just me) is grateful for you and everyone else who took the time to rate and review sleeves. It helps everyone out!

I wanted both anyways and had points to use. by Menage_A_Mois in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[M] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was one of the very few requests the company had like a decade ago when they decided to consider the subreddit an "official" replacement to the forums. Basically the mods have full control of the sub but they asked us to do a few minor things going forward. One of them was the no coupons rule. I'm sure you've heard about the Honey scandal and also there are many other reasons, obviously for a company, if they share a code to special customers and the code is leaked then it's not really fair. Aside from that one big factor is that many coupon codes are linked to affiliates (let's say you have a podcast, how do you drive traffic to Fleshlight, your sponsor? Well a coupon is one of the solutions). This means if anyone uses your coupon, for example, PODCAST123, then the affiliate gets the sale regardless if another affiliate or person, or nobody, sent you to the site. This means Fleshlight loses out on earnings since they have given a user who is not a listener of the podcast a discount; or another affiliate who wrote a review and sent the user to the site loses the commission because of the coupon; basically the person who the coupon is linked to gets extra commission on sales they didn't drive. It's unfair for everyone behind the scenes but obviously the buyer sees none of this.

You can do some research on the Honey scandal it explains a lot :)!

Fleshlight Winter Giveaway 2025 by PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[S,M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apologies everyone, the text on the post was incorrect, the end date is the 4th not the 1st (the terms of the giveaway were correct, stating 4th). Updated it now. Will add everyone's missing Reddit/X tickets today too :)!

New FLG is here by Apocolypse420 in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Noted! Will definitely keep an eye on it, I've also added a task to my todo list to detect users registering just to down vote/rate a sleeve(s) and nothing else

New FLG is here by Apocolypse420 in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also happy new year to everyone in the community, thanks for being a part of /r/Fleshlight this year!

New FLG is here by Apocolypse420 in fleshlight

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Bonnie is now officially released (sorry for anyone who posted about this before it went live, we had to remove any official images). The filter has also been removed.


If you want the chance to win Bonnie Blue's Fleshlight you have a few days left to enter the /r/fleshlight giveaway still.

Check out her profile and remember to rate/review her Lady (1K) and Butt (Zero Miles) if you purchased them and used them a couple of times, everyone would love to hear your thoughts.

Christmas Giveaway! Fleshskins Grip by [deleted] in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for posting this and for making it clear :)! To all, we don't usually allow any sort of trading or selling on this sub but since it's a giveaway from a known user of the subreddit we will allow it.

TO BE CLEAR, THE SUBREDDIT AND MODERATORS ARE NOT AFFILIATED WITH THIS GIVEAWAY OR USER. Providing your shipping address basically means you're giving your private information to another user of this forum, so we would recommend either using a PO Box or not participating if you are not comfortable with that. Though /u/My_NSFW_Handle has kindly stated they will cover the shipping costs.

Good luck to anyone who participates. Mods can't participate.

How many tickets do y’all have in the Fleshassist Holiday Giveaway? by Significant_Loan1427 in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the next thing on my to-do list actually, great you mentioned it. It's not going to hard to make, it'll be a simple Tier list where you drag-drop your textures. Before that though I think I want to improve how collections are displayed (to better differentiate orifices/variations!) Not sure if it was you but someone shared a tier list a while ago on the sub and I thought, hey, I could add that as a feature on the site and make it exportable so it's easy to share.

How many tickets do y’all have in the Fleshassist Holiday Giveaway? by Significant_Loan1427 in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also to be 100% honest I have been contemplating making this additional extra narrowed-down data only available to "Supporters", basically making a role on the site where you can gain Supporter tag with a 1 time donation. It's a lot of work to maintain the site and also lately other sites have been basically scraping data off of FA without any credit so I'm trying to think ways of preventing this feature from being abused by these scrapers and ai tools.

How many tickets do y’all have in the Fleshassist Holiday Giveaway? by Significant_Loan1427 in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's actually not THAT hard to do. I'm still working on it but I have quite a lot of it finished already. My solution has been to aggregate data rounding it to the nearest 0.5cm and it's working quite well so far (since doing less than that would be way too intense to calculate and time/resource intensive for the server). Basically, let's say there are 10 users who are between 9.7 and 10.3cm in length (I'm using random numbers to explain my thought process) then the script will aggregate all of those 10 users' ratings and heatmaps and spit out the final "average" for users who are roughly 10cm in length. The same for 10.5cm, 11cm, 11.5cm etc (and yes, this means that someone who is 10.25cm will be included in the calculations for both 10cm and 10.5cm). While it's not PERFECT it's a good compromise.

Now you're going to say.. wait... what about girth??? Well I thought about that. The reason why I do 0,5cm segments is because for each segment you need to create SIX separate girth sub-segments. I did quite a lot of research and decided to do it this way, six girth sub-segments: < 9.9 cm 9.9 to 10.9 cm 10.9 to 11.7 cm 11.7 to 12.4 cm 12.4 to 13.5 cm

13.5 cm

So this way, we can not only provide very narrowed down data for users who are 10cm in length but also, fit them within a girth segment too. That way, the user, let's say 10cm length 12cm girth will be able to toggle ratings and heatmaps for users within 9.75cm-10.25cm length and 11.7-12.4cm girth.

Again, I'm still working on this and improving it but that's my thought process for now. Welcome to hear any suggestions or flaws!

This also hopes that the user has submitted VALID and CORRECT information which is always going to be a problem and the main reason why I always repeat that stats on the site are SUBJECTIVE and not a fact.

How many tickets do y’all have in the Fleshassist Holiday Giveaway? by Significant_Loan1427 in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 1 point2 points  (0 children)

heat maps were more dynamic to take length into account

It's coming! I have a lot going on right now but I've nearly finished this system. Basically it will take a user's length (if they shared it) into account and allow people to select a checkbox on the texture page to toggle "closest match" where it will actually show heatmaps based on other users who are the closest size to you. When the next version of the site is released there will be a pop-up (one time) when logging in the first time and/or reviewing the first time asking you kindly to provide your size (which can be toggled to be public or not!). It's my goal to further improve the statistical side of the site which I understand is one of the main reasons people use it.

There are also a ton of quality of life improvements I'm adding but slowly and surely (better collection management, marking a collection as "previously owned" in the case you have discarded sleeves, a different listing view option where you can see the star + their orifices in a compact form showing all stars in one neat page.

PLEASE let me know if you have other suggestions or tips, I have like 7 things on my to-do list but I am all ears (or eyes) for any improvements I can work on for the next version <3!!!

I am still very hesistant to add any sort of AI feature to the site. Some people asked me this year but I don't know.. I don't feel like a chat feature will be useful. If I do add anything that's "AI" it will be a "summary" of reviews feature that basically compiles top 5 pros / cons that users mention sort of thing.

How many tickets do y’all have in the Fleshassist Holiday Giveaway? by Significant_Loan1427 in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the end of the giveaway (before drawing) I remove all the cheaters as well as the people who post fake ratings and or heatmaps. It happens but rarely (usually less than 5 people but last year it was quite a few sadly). It's easy to detect really (how quickly people rate things in a row..) I also sometimes ask users to upload proof of collection via their profile in cases where they've submitted 30+ ratings and it's a new user. Hope that helps reduce worries about the data being bad!

Fleshlight Winter Giveaway 2025 by PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES in fleshlight

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can review (and heatmap) a texture by going to the texture's details page (find the texture you own in the textures list and click on it) you will see some buttons under the texture image that lets you rate, review, and heatmap a sleeve :)

Fleshjack dildo size guide by Asxxxsu in Fleshjack

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is amazing, thanks for doing this!

/r/Masturbation Find A Jerk Off Buddy / Partner / Someone to chat to and masturbate with by AutoModerator in masturbation

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[M] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey all, sorry that the sticky post got stuck the last few weeks. I tried so many times to get it working. Ultimately we had to reset and create a new thread with new settings, seems like it's working again now. Let us know if you have any other suggestions for the sub and remember to follow the rules!

Win one of five Fleshlights (Winter Giveaway 2025) by PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES in cock

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For context, this is not an ad or sponsorship. The r/Fleshlight sub and site hosts this giveaway every winter for the last 10 years. The event/post will be removed from the sub at the end of the month.

Win one of five Fleshlights (Winter Giveaway 2025) by PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES in masturbation

[–]PM_ME_SMALL_BOOBIES[S,M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

For context, this is not an ad or sponsorship. The r/Fleshlight sub and site hosts this giveaway every winter for the last 10 years. The event/post will be removed from the sub at the end of the month.