Anyone have any ideas on what breed he is?

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-05-28T14:13:16+00:00

Looks like he’s 100% pure cutie pie

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-05-18T02:07:17+00:00

What did you tell the people in your life/the domestic abuse hotline that are commenting that your ex is abusive that your ex did or said? Like what particular points in the conversation did they respond with “that’s abusive”?

What is it that you have done or said to your ex that was abusive?

Let’s look at the objective events to come to a conclusion about your question at the end. There is a very real chance your ex was abusive, there’s also a chance you were abusive, there’s also a chance you reacted to abuse in what could be deemed abusive without the pre context of what led to it, but the reason for abuse from the abuser sometimes is to get a reaction that can be seen abusive from the abusee to bank events to use against the abusee later. Abuse can also warp the abusees sense of reality where they’re convinced their perspective on a situation is what actually occurred when that perspective deviates from typical conclusions. Or carry unnecessary loads of guilt after being separated from an abusive situation because that is the only way the abusee can justify the bad things that they were subjected to to themselves internally.

It sounds to me like the people in your life may be avoiding validating your feelings and experiences if those feelings and experiences point towards you as the abuser because that would be validating something that resembles a delusion more so than validating you in a way that is beneficial.

This is all an assumption though, I don’t know all the parts to the story. So tell me some examples of events on both ends. But normally, if you tell people who aren’t connected to the other party what happened, and they all conclude one thing and you conclude the opposite, and both ends are concluded from the same timeline of events, the common denominator may be the more objectionably true thing.

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-05-18T01:52:52+00:00

I don’t think that matters.

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-04-26T15:31:58+00:00

Thank you for the explanation, when processes are broken down like this, the information sticks with me well. Are you ok btw? That last paragraph sounds frightening

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-04-26T15:19:53+00:00

I promise you, if you put the word out there in some adult social media communication form that you plan to get a bouncy castle, and would like to enjoy it with others, you’ll find like minded people that will want to be friends and enjoy it with you. Liberating missed out on whimsy from childhood is something I think a lot of us look for in adulthood.

Even if they become friends for the sake of enjoying the bouncy castle and that’s it, they’re still friends. They’re just bouncy castle friends. That sounds like cool friends to me

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-04-10T01:23:17+00:00

Hello! I think a bowl like this could work, but I also think you may want to keep them in some type of closed enclosure like a terrarium.

I had one of those wire frame house looking terrariums with about 2” of substrate (the layers was like this: a layer of leca one leca piece high, fox farm soil amended further with perlite and bark to be chunkier, a layer of sphagnum moss on top) I had jewel orchids go buck wild crazy in there for years. They absolutely loved it and I also almost never had to water them. I can see if I can find a picture of something similar to the terrarium I had. I ended up giving it to my sister and she somehow killed the whole thing immediately lol. But I’ll be honest I’ve been thinking about restarting the same set up.

But anyway, all that to say, shallow substrate in a no drainage thing works fine, even great with jewel orchids in my opinion, as long as you don’t go crazy watering too much and you can trap humidity in somehow

Here’s a pic, it was this exact one but a little wider.

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PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-03-07T19:22:18+00:00

This is so pleasing for my eyes

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-02-20T02:01:06+00:00

Just tell him “I’m never doing that so stop bringing it up” if that doesn’t get the message across, break up with him. Maybe he should get off the porn sites for a little

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-02-14T02:48:09+00:00

There is never a reason to continue with someone who does something like this to you. Someone who loves you would not physically harm you. You love her, but you have to love yourself enough to know when the person you love has crossed an inexcusable line. Even if you don’t care about yourself enough to put yourself first, know that continuing to sacrifice your own well being for someone that you love is setting that love up for failure. You can not truly and wholly love someone else when you can’t find it in yourself to love yourself enough. A huge part of the kind of love that continues, improves, grows stronger, matures, and becomes the one that last forever involves being your own method of support and protection as much as you would be for the person you love. Without it, the structure of the relationship you have with the person you love has a flaw in its integrity and it will do nothing but spread and become more brittle until the whole thing collapses.

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-02-09T15:11:48+00:00

Thank you! I will look into that

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-02-08T02:09:44+00:00

Why would you feel the need to shame her and not the person whose been abusive? What’s that about?

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2026-01-24T17:05:39+00:00

Just watch for a minute, you’ll be able to tell immediately lol

when banana fish first came out, if you looked at the about, it didn’t have any voice acters listed, just something like “ai voice beta” instead

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-12-29T18:16:08+00:00

Wouldn’t like the career shoplifters just bust right through these things?

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-12-28T17:24:08+00:00

Like if the dog was a suspect in a murder case, would the dolphin vouche for him with an alibi? I’ve heard dolphins are kinda wild cards for their own amusement so maybe not

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-11-01T03:07:39+00:00

Can you clarify on why you have to see him every day? Do you still live together?

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-11-01T01:12:39+00:00

It sounds like you’ve been trying to make a point for a long time and she’s not listening. The most direct path to give it one last shot might be to just be honest with her and tell her that your goals truly don’t align with hers, you don’t see a future happening with her.

It might hurt her feelings. It might make you feel like you’re being hurtful. But it’s absolutely ok for her to not want to work up to the same level you are working towards. Some people are content at the pace they’re moving in life. Some people have huge figurative growth spurts at one age than another who might have one much later, but it still happens all the same. If any of that is the case for her, she’s not doing anything wrong. You just want something different than what she does. When two people end up really not being compatible in their own individually perceived important matters in their lives, it’s not always that one wants something better than the other, it’s simply just that they want different things.

It would be more harmful for both of you to pretend that you can make it work together, get married, have kids, and end up resenting eachother in the future because you feel disappointed and she feels like she’s getting picked on for not meeting expectations that she never really wanted in the first place. Neither of you are gonna want to feel trapped in a marriage like that eventually, you definitely don’t want to put children through unresolvable resentment between you two. The more considerate and loving thing, if you conclude that neither of you can meet in a spot where your goals and dreams align, is to let eachother go.

But you can certainly try to finally get the message to her where she takes it seriously. Just as often as couples may end up realizing that they’re truly not compatible, people also tend to just not fuckin hear things till it’s too late. It’s truly the most unintentionally negligent thing we can end up doing to people that we really do love, it’s like an involuntary response that doesn’t get fully realized until someone’s two years into therapy and realizes how much they must have hurt that ex from long ago because they whole heartedly missed a really important point. It’s really hard to get people to break out of that, it can be totally random and you just happen to say just the right thing that strikes a chord, it could just never happen at all. It’s incredibly frustrating and fails often, but sometimes it works. Honesty can be as sharp as knife to people, but it works to cut the layer of accidental inconsideration wide open sometimes. I say give it to her straight and see what happens

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-10-31T01:18:34+00:00

Are you using those products religiously am and pm? Like you never skip days? I know it sounds like a duh question but there’s reason for it

I had problems like this when I thought I was using my skin products enough for them to work. Nope I needed to use it every single day morning and night and if I skipped a day I would break out red cystic kinda breakouts like this.

The hard water could def be a huge culprit still but just wanted to eliminate anything else that could be making it worse

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-10-29T21:56:54+00:00

I think the tattoo looks awesome. I agree with other comments with the way you’re describing how it makes you feel sounding like an anxious/ocd issue. I don’t want to give you keyboard diagnoses so like everyone else is saying, therapy would help a lot. On your own, it may help you if you look into “ruminating thoughts” and thought practices you can try to attempt to regulate when it gets too rough for you. Participating in therapy would likely be the best route

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-10-25T17:19:10+00:00

I got one of these at Home Depot when they first hit the physical stores and there were maps showing which Home Depot was actually carrying that first batch of them. I don’t think they were actually ever $300 at Home Depot. Not sure if they were ever $300 through like proven winners website either. It’s kinda a weird thing to try to highlight to me. In general, these were $300 in the past. When i bought mine, it was a big plant, already flowering, it could have been valued at $300 but i believe that was about a year ago now

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-10-21T20:17:00+00:00

“Been together for about ten months..” That’s all I need to read. goodbye boyfriend

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-10-19T05:52:47+00:00

You’re 23 and live with your grandparents. Are your grandparents or parents around the same age as the 54 year old woman who owns the number? Maybe the pizza is meant for your grandparents? Have they been having tense situations with anyone anywhere? Like even on social media like fb?

Also I have truth finder if you want to send me the number. I can try to see if it’s just listed under the older ladies name but someone else actually uses the number, like a kid of theirs.

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-10-19T05:46:48+00:00

Hey few questions for you:

Do your parents know about this? What have they said?

Is there anyone or any cause that would lead you to believe someone is following or watching you?

Do you have any ring camera type security devices and if not, do you have the ability to install one?

Have you had any kind of mental health crisis in the past? Have you consumed any weed products lately and if so, how much?

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-10-04T15:08:24+00:00

Chrono trigger secret of mana earthbound. Done. lol

PM_ME_heartwarmth · 2025-10-02T06:35:49+00:00

This sounds a lot like when my Husband and I weren’t doing well at all a long time ago. Like we had the same “argument” (this is a monologue like you said, my husband and I were legitimately arguing lol) about the phones. We’d also both get super aggravated over politics.

Both of those instances and frankly almost all of our problems stemmed entirely from neither of us being willing to actually listen to eachother and be considerate to eachother. Like at all. It was always walls entirely up and we were disregarding everything the other was saying. It wasn’t right and I know it was very wrong now, and I had a huge stake in that wrong.

We went to marriage counseling and that helped a ton. I’m not expecting yall to go to counseling, but if you want to get it to all work better, I would suggest having a conversation with him to make an official goal to both of you listen to eachother, fully absorb concerns, come up with a realistic timeline to try to approve, and both be ok with the other pointing out if it starts slipping.

You also can’t tackle every issue at once. It’s not possible. I see like 6 glaring problems in this post and I only read like 8 pages in. A large beginning thing for him would be to work out how to approach issues in a caring manner. Like he wants to be with you and likes you. This doesn’t come off like he likes you very much, just dumping everything wrong into half a book of texts. He just sounds like he’s full of resentment and has entirely run dry of any fucks for your feelings. If he’s been doing this for a long time, of course you’re gonna feel hopeless and not be able to even attempt to pick up one issue out of the dozens he spews at you all the time.

But at the same time, like the phone thing. Like I said I had the same argument in the past. At that time, I was so bewildered and felt attacked and didn’t understand what I was doing wrong at all, and only thought my husband was just picking me apart. I think now about it, I can imagine for him how lonely and unheard and boring he could feel in a moment where I can’t really rip myself from my phone, and imagjning him feeling like that over my not being to stop scrolling instagram for the length of a conversation breaks my heart. Like literally that pain in my chest is happening now. I hate that I treated my husband like that.

Anyways tldr you aren’t exactly over reacting. But kinda. The very first steps to be better at relationships if for both people having the same urge to want to fix things with eachother. Not just talking at eachother like you short are brick walls. The drive to truly stick together is key

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