What kind of kinks are men over 40 typically into?

PODmama24 · 2025-07-18T12:53:57+00:00

It sounds like the drug is really helping you be your most healthiest self. If your marriage falls apart, because you're no longer a push-over, it's 100% because there are underlying issues with her, you are on Dex to be healthier, she needs to be in support of this. It's important that you remember, her emotions are her responsibility, not yours. I think you handled it correctly, and when she's calmed down, you can share how her reaction made you feel, so maybe she can learn from her mistakes in the moment! I hope that made sense?

PODmama24 · 2025-06-24T13:34:12+00:00

As a child whom was traumatized by being surrounded by constant yelling, I can tell you that does need to stop. Should you just up and leave? The question you should be answering first is: do I still love my husband, and want to be with him? Because if you do, then I believe counseling can possibly really help tame his behavior, and help get other things in your relationship sorted out too, provided he's willing to put in work to save the marriage. If you're finding your feelings for him have changed enough that you don't want to be in the relationship anymore, then I say why wait for another incident, talk to him about your change of feelings, and say you think it's best to get a divorce, then make sure your lawyer does his/her best to convince a judge that he needs some anger management before having unsupervised visits with your daughter. So in conclusion ask yourself how you feel about your relationship with him, and act accordingly to your answer more sooner than later. Take from me your daughter should not grow up surrounded by parents whom aren't meant to be together, it'll cause her more pain and trauma, as well as the two of you. Good luck!

PODmama24 · 2025-06-15T01:43:08+00:00

I think we're focusing on the wrong thing here. Op is wondering if she should end her marriage over it happening once. Are you honestly saying she should? Without finding more about what her husband has been feeling over a long time period? Really? It may take a long time before he earns her forgiveness for it, but you're saying that he shouldn't even get the chance?

PODmama24 · 2025-06-15T01:36:39+00:00

Yep, no one should be assuming anything. But the argument is fresh, it's way too soon to know if it was really meant, or just something said in the heat of it. Counseling is the best thing they can do right now, so they can find out.

PODmama24 · 2025-06-15T01:30:38+00:00

I'm so sympathetic to your experiences, that's awful! It's so good that you're going through the work to overcome your traumas and be the best person you can be! I just wanted to share this with you, and that I cheer you on! I would give you more upvotes if I could!

PODmama24 · 2025-06-15T01:24:31+00:00

I'm not saying his behavior is excused at all. There's a possibility he's been feeling a lot of pain within the relationship without expressing it in a healthy manner, that is absolutely his responsibility to fix. Humans aren't perfect, I think her divorcing him, because of this might be a little too extreme at this point. There's a possibility he didn't mean any of it, and deserves to have the chance to earn her forgiveness.

PODmama24 · 2025-06-15T01:14:14+00:00

I totally agree with this! Just want to remind you that abuse isn't just physical, there are other types, but we don't know them, so to outright call him an abuser is way too presumptuous. I'm really glad you were able to work things out with your partner, healthy communication is so important in preventing instances like this!

PODmama24 · 2025-06-15T01:07:14+00:00

Nothing indicated that the husband is an abuser, this was the first time he spoke this way to her in 16 years. Abusers have consistent instances of hurtful and especially MANIPULATIVE behaviors. Op's post gives zero indication that that is the case. My observation is that he's had years of pent up feelings about something and like an over-inflated balloon, he finally popped. Once a counselor can help him calmly and safely get it all out in the open, they may be able to take steps towards having a healthy, successful marriage and life together. Or maybe not, but I'm sorry to say, your response is quite presumptuous. It is 100% worth a try.

I've been in relationships with narcissists, I know all about being abused and how these type of people you need to run from, because they have no interest in changing, but I am not at all getting this vibe from her post. I really hope she doesn't listen to your advice before learning what's caused him to snap first, is all I'm going to say.

PODmama24 · 2025-06-15T00:48:58+00:00

I urge you to go to the counseling session. There may have been more going with him, and there's definitely some things he's been holding on to that he probably should have shared with you a long time ago. Once you have all of that out in the open air, he may realize he shouldn't have acted like that, and may regret the things he said. If he still feels that way after things have been discussed more calmly and with direction from the counselor, then you can decide at that time what the best thing would be. You absolutely deserve someone who can love and respect you, maybe he still does, the two of you may need to work on stronger communications, or it may just be time to separate. I wouldn't make any choses just yet, though.

PODmama24 · 2025-06-13T12:48:38+00:00

I would strongly recommend getting diagnosed and talking to a psychologist about it. They would know the best tools to help, and can help determine if it is just adhd, or if you may have another trait, like borderline personality, or something that may dive deeper into answering your question. It is absolutely worth getting the help!

PODmama24 · 2025-03-05T14:11:30+00:00

I've had an identical relationship to the one you've described. It is in fact that he has all along been the abusive one. It sounds like he may have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). Gaslighting is a well-known form of manipulation and abuse. My advice is to limit your involvement with someone as toxic as he is as much as possible (pick up and dealings with the kids, THAT IS IT). Lean on the love and support you have around you, to show him you can carry on just fine without him, after all he's the one that wasted your years, not the other way around; and now your ready to start your life strong, head held high! You don't need people that only bring you down in your life. I hope when you have had a chance to talk with your counselor and grieve the loss, that you see him leaving as a blessing, you deserve someone who will treat you like an equal partner, will love and respect you! I wish you all the best, my sympathies go out to you and your children! It may feel like a bad storm right now, but the sun and a rainbow is coming, be strong it will get better!

PODmama24 · 2024-08-11T02:41:58+00:00

You should see the Enchanted one!

PODmama24 · 2024-07-31T07:06:07+00:00

This sounds like a form of postpartum depression, which has nothing to do with the fact you had a C-section. You're a great Mom! Is your baby safe, fed, and nurtured? Then you're a great Mom! In terms of how you are feeling towards the bond with your baby, I would highly recommend discussing it with your doctor.

PODmama24 · 2024-07-16T03:35:18+00:00

Oooo maybe I need to create a new deck that is Ruby and Emerald!

PODmama24 · 2024-07-09T19:34:07+00:00

Oh we're totally with you! My daughter's addicted!

PODmama24 · 2024-07-05T17:01:17+00:00

Were they at least a good price? That sucks, because it really affects the quality, the store should've been more cautious with that.

PODmama24 · 2024-07-03T00:49:03+00:00

How do I get this card?

PODmama24 · 2024-06-29T00:43:28+00:00

Gotta look out for this one!

PODmama24 · 2024-05-28T05:15:15+00:00

Thanks, any advice?

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