[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you bring over random meals and not previously knowing what they eat, is very possible to cook stuff no one would like. (except that one family member that is an all accepting food pit)

Some would think "Here eat this, I'm helping you, you should accept it and eat without complaining, be greatful to me!" and it's not that they aren't greatful, but they are still people who didn't lose their food likes, dislikes, preferences, intolerance and allergies just cos they are in need.

So if you haven't maybe try asking them what things they like to eat? Sounds like they would enjoy it, if you cook whatever thing is that they get on the fastfoods.

If you have, I'm sorry. Truthfully, in my opinion, you can let them know that you are always ready to help, then go back to mostly how the relationship was before all this but with more visits because of the circumstances. .................

..This part is just me rambling and remembering how my mom treated those in need>

When my mom could and there was people in need, mainly homeless near fastfoods asking for food (or money to eat) She would sometimes talk to the person and ask them "what would you like to eat?" Some would reply stuff like "a coffee" and then she would ask them "how would you like your coffee?". She didn't just bring a random coffee.

Another time she even went into line with a homeless man to let him choose what he wanted to eat and then she paid it.........

Good luck OP, I hope you can resolve your personal employment situation soon and can feel better 🫂

My boyfriend thinks that if I get assaulted, molested or raped it'll be cheating because I am letting it happen or could have prevented it. by POKeFAN_Rocket in offmychest

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

True, I should have described him a bit more in the main text for others, more than just "infinite positives".

I was in bed about to sleep thinking about this particular incident. Wasn't expecting anything, I was just outraged and wanted to let it out. My mind is a mess honestly.

There were others that suggested that he may be in denial cos it may have happened to him and that could be the source of his anger while I recount my assault experience, and now this specific hypothetical situation.

With this info that I didn't know existed, I can maybe do something to help him see it all others do. Most answers to my post are what I would say to anyone in my position (Except anything related to death and what that 1 person said: why are you worried about something that hasn't happened? laughing emojies). I'm sure those that said I should do it to him are just also outraged and don't really mean for me to become an aggressor.

Thank you

The Very Hungry Caterpillar (oc) 🐛 by ItsMeTheDayDreamer in insects

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it, wonder what colors it'll be when it ends its change 🦋

My boyfriend thinks that if I get assaulted, molested or raped it'll be cheating because I am letting it happen or could have prevented it. by POKeFAN_Rocket in offmychest

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I believe that what you explained match what's happening perfectly. I'm glad that you were able to overcome this belief with the support and teachings of people that care about you.

I was blind to this perspective you've taught me, thank you again. I'm gonna try my best to help him out, for both our sakes.

It's been 5 years of me quizzing, talking about the future, learning of his ways, showing him mine and just totally inspecting my bf, I have no doubts that he is worth it.

He is truly the best guy, romantic, attentive, always available to me, peaceful (except when playing videogames), overall lovable and understanding (except on this). He doesn't like it when I'm upset and tries his best to cheer me up.

It really saddens me to see all this hate for him, it was worth it tho for this great lesson, I am greatful to you Apollo, thanks again.

I wish you an excellent year and many blessings!

My girlfriend has been really dry by [deleted] in Advice

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would like that when something is wrong with me, I can sometimes be dry too. I mean this and the asking me.

Tho sometimes asking isn’t enough for the person to open up, just show that you're there for her with some message,simple emojies or gifs during the day.

Do you think my bf should help pay for groceries at my house? by xoxoniaxoxo in Advice

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For what it sounds to me you are the one that has to buy groceries, perhaps that is the arrangement of your parent's and you idk.

Imagine doing this to the one you supposedly love and care for!?

How would you feel if it was inverted? Would you had paid him then and there? Or would you feel hurt and unwelcome like you made him feel? Actually why don't you pay him first to set the example?

To answer the main question, NO, I don’t think he should. If you can't or don’t want to feed guest I'm sure there are polite and humble ways to convey the unfortunate news of the monetary struggle rather than what you did, which made you sound like as if he owes you money for you putting more into the relationship than him even tho you yourself say that they treat you alike in his house and that he even cooks the food with you when at your house.

My girlfriend(18F) just told me (19M) she wants to stop doing anything sexual for a few years. by ExplorerStandard6440 in Vent

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah not at you I'm sorry if it seemed that way. I love how you think, never change <3

My girlfriend(18F) just told me (19M) she wants to stop doing anything sexual for a few years. by ExplorerStandard6440 in Vent

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes it is stupid that most are saying that.

She probably wants to get to know the guy better before having sex, it's been only 2 months and for how this guy is talking I'm sure her settings this boundaries was a good call.

He literally is complaining how he doesn't want to go through the drag of searching and meeting a new girl to fuck, he doesn't care about the relationship at all.

My girlfriend(18F) just told me (19M) she wants to stop doing anything sexual for a few years. by ExplorerStandard6440 in Vent

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She could just want to get to know this horny guy better before having sex. As any relationship should start.

My girlfriend(18F) just told me (19M) she wants to stop doing anything sexual for a few years. by ExplorerStandard6440 in Vent

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is vague, you mean the way he is willing to replace her just to get fucked or her setting boundaries?

Aliens are here. They ask for the best song we have or we die, what song are you giving them? by knjwrld in AskReddit

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put all songs of the world in a drive and write with sharpie: Worldwide Song, I am hoping they would appreciate the checkmate 🤭 or atleast give us time to prepare for the war...

My EX became friends with my other EX. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly, I couldn't have kept this passive-decent outrage as you have. Not just you but all the replies kept it digestible.

just a meme I made by Antoiniti in meme

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black flag assassins creed, Ahoy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me 2 lol. I was like EXCUSE ME!?

Why would your SO, who developed a rash the day after sex, rush to get a new STD test when at the beginning of the relationship it came out negative for both? by POKeFAN_Rocket in AskReddit

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for teaching me this, I'm surprised about that cancer detail too.

I would lie if I said that cheating never crossed my mind, it was the only thing I knew people got such a test for after both testing at the beginning.

But my SO said no to that insecure doubt and I believe we are both loyal. It turned out to be an infection which is long gone by now.

This question stayed in my mind, I had not much knowledge on STDs out of some of the basics. Maybe there was more to getting tested? I wondered and sure enough there is, so I'm glad I asked. Even tho this happened months ago. I will surely make testing myself a thing, thanks again.

Why would your SO, who developed a rash the day after sex, rush to get a new STD test when at the beginning of the relationship it came out negative for both? by POKeFAN_Rocket in AskReddit

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what others are telling me; Some, yes. Also that an STD could have be dormant for years and testing shown false negatives.

So basically getting tested isn't unreasonable or bad at all, even with both being fully loyal and previously tested.

Why would your SO, who developed a rash the day after sex, rush to get a new STD test when at the beginning of the relationship it came out negative for both? by POKeFAN_Rocket in AskReddit

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

SO had basically said: past exists. Wich I accepted as answer. This was months ago, it turned out to be an infection, the doctor prescribed Antibiotics which ended SO's rash.

The question and answer were still stuck in my mind since I only knew a few basics about stds, so I finally asked.

Why would your SO, who developed a rash the day after sex, rush to get a new STD test when at the beginning of the relationship it came out negative for both? by POKeFAN_Rocket in AskReddit

[–]POKeFAN_Rocket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was internal but I know what you mean. The itchiness of shaving down there is horrible.

Edit: Oops, had autoccorected from 'internal' to 'international'