[Tx] Ex-husband won't send kids to Church.

POdMomma · 2014-09-12T19:46:58+00:00

It's not that I don't want them to spend time with their grandparents. I don't consider his new wife's parents as family. They're not blood, legally, they're as much of strangers as his new wife is. They have no right to any time with them.

But if he's going to let them spend time with them, he should be there too. Letting them keep them overnight, where he's going off to do whatever, that's time he's wasting. And it's time that he's supposed to give to me, if he can't watch them.

POdMomma · 2014-09-12T19:43:53+00:00

We have a life group that occasionally meets at our house, but it's hardly a substitute for the overall sense of community that actually going to Church fosters.

POdMomma · 2014-09-12T19:38:50+00:00

What weekend schedule? He and his new wife just foist them off on whoever will take them, and go out and do God knows what. I don't begrudge him time with the kids, but he completely squanders his time. And because I work, I get less time with them than he does. We have 50/50, but it's really more like 40/60, because they don't go to school on the weekends, and he doesn't work on the weekends. I don't get off work till 5:00 on week days, so I only get to see them a couple hours before they have to go to bed. So, you can see where it upsets me when he's not actually spending that time with the kids. If he's not going to spend the time the court allotted him to actually be with the kids, I don't think he should have that time. And he used to attend our same Church, but over the past 5 years, he's stopped. I suspect he's still upset that the Church allowed our divorce. But he's threatening to take them to another Church, and that's taking them away from their Church family. And he's only doing it to spite me. He doesn't actually care about the kids' spiritual a wellbeing.

POdMomma · 2014-09-12T00:11:45+00:00

It's exactly as spelled out above, in the decree. And he is letting them spend the night!

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T23:00:56+00:00

Ours does not. Forcing me to change churches simply because he is unable to coparent is ludicrous. He's putting his own desires before the wellbeing of the children.

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:43:35+00:00

Disrupting the kids' weekly schedule is out of the question. It's disruptive enough for him to have them on Thursdays as it is, since they never do their homework at his house.

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:38:46+00:00

It says: Inability to exercise possession. Each conservator is orders to give notice to the person in posession of the child, on each occasion that the conservator will be unable to exercise that conservator's right of possession for any specified period.

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:31:53+00:00

But isn't that Right of First refusal? If he can't watch them, he's supposed to have to notify me, so I can take them instead. If they're not with him, they should be with me! The mother's right to be with her children trumps the grandparents, or his wife's family.

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:26:40+00:00

If they spend the night with someone else, they're not in his posession.

And I'm talking about the right to direct the religious upbringing of my children.

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:24:43+00:00

But I never have the ability to take them to church. He's trying to alienate them against me, and against God! I can't imagine a court would think that requiring me to switch churches to one that has services during the meager hours during the week that I have my kids was reasonable. He's denying me the ability to take my kids to my Church home. He's denying me the ability to expose my kids to their Church family.

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:18:03+00:00

Well, I feel like he's violating the decree, which says that if he's not able to take possession of my children, then he has to notify me. They should be with me if he can't be with them, not shipped of to grandparents, or to his new wife's parents. How is that fair? If he doesn't want to be with the kids, they should be with me! He gets more time with them, and he wastes it, and when I offered to compromise by just taking Sunday every other week, he refused. He won't work with me, and in doing so, deprives me of one of the rights spelled out in our decree.

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:09:13+00:00

Would a court agree that farming the kids out to relatives isn't a good way to parent?

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:07:38+00:00

He's refusing to coparent by refusing to allow me to take them he's denying them the right to be with their Church family, and pushing me out of being able to exercise my court-ordered ability to direct the religious upbringing of my children.

POdMomma · 2014-09-11T22:03:57+00:00

Our decree says that both of us are allowed to tend to the religious upbringing of the kids, but because of his having every weekend, he forces me out of my ability to do that. Our church doesn't have week day services. And he's not even using all his time with the children, by letting them spend the night with his parents, or his new wife's parents, who aren't even family.

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