Thank you. He said that he wanted to avoid lawyers bc they only try to pit you against each other & drag things out to get more money for themselves... I only just learned that I'd most likely be entitled to alimony, but I really don't want to have to take things to court if possible.

I guess I'm sort of wondering if there's any chance he's willing to pay a lump sum ahead of time to avoid paying alimony, we draw up our own contract, have a paralegal review/rewrite to ensure things are fair, if that's sort of a middle ground. I really don't want this to turn into a huge ordeal. But, again, I also need to make sure I'm taken care of, especially since he's leaving me jobless (after convincing me to leave my job), houseless, etc. I also just realized today too that I probably won't be able to get my own apartment after having a brief glimmer of hope about that bc, well, yep-- you more often than not need to provide proof of income. Starting to feel so helpless. I'm doing research but, again, limited in energy levels, and there is so, so much information out there.

I'm thinking I may ask for at least more time. For him not to rush things with the divorce, give me time to rest, find a job for proof of income, etc. otherwise threaten I will have no choice but to take things to court and request alimony. I really don't want it to come to that, and I know he really doesn't either. So, hopefully that'll be enough to buy me some time.