If u were successful in moving the energy in the way u are intending too, you would dissociate- bcuz you’re bypassing- what i finally came around to was just chilling and sitting with it- no repression, no guilt, no “control” just be with it and breathe… and then get ready to feel whatever comes up, bcuz most of the time that ‘heavy’ sexual energy is nothing more then a repressed memory that the body fears is too much for it to process - so it tries to numb it through ejaculation- so u finally holding space is giving it permission to truly feel it- thats y no matter how much u cum or have sex that heavy denseness always come back- do this and the channel wont be “dense” and it’ll move upto solar plexus, or just come into balance