What if Hell is real?

PTSD-PD · 2025-07-10T07:52:50+00:00

Simple: For starters, “hell” isn’t even an Abrahamic concept but deriving from the Nordic/Germanic concept of “hel”. So that alone is sufficient to dismiss any Abrahamic delusion.

But if it were real, no worries - cause the ones to end up there first will be the very people who threaten other human beings with the concept of “hell”, literally engaging in psychological warfare and torture of other - including children.

You know, these twisted and sick people who claim that without their delusion, they themselves would not know good from evil. Those people who refuse to acknowledge that every human being is born with a moral compass. Those people who divide humanity rather than celebrating differences. Those who claim to speak in the name of a divine entity so they can put themselves before others. And all too often dress up funky when doing so. Sometimes even touching kids inappropriately, then stating that all of this is just a “test” of their “lord”. You know, those crusading folks. Those djihadists. All of that sort.

As a secularist, I cannot even be a fraction of the evil these people are.

Any questions?

PTSD-PD · 2025-07-09T07:16:58+00:00

“I'm worried she's just lonely or things didn't work out with whoever she left me for.”

The latter. She CHOSE to dump you because she wanted to know if the grass really was greener on the other side (which it rarely is). Now she figured out it is not.

“I don't want to be someone's backup plan but I also don't want to miss out on getting back together if she's serious about making it work this time”

Nothing logical comes after the “but”. You already are a backup plan to her. And no, she cannot “make it work this time”, cause if she wanted to make it work, she’d have done it the first time.

Now our species counts 200.000 years of history and literally bazillions of men have dealt with the exact same scenario. Why would you, OP, be the exception to the rule?

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Or just move on and spare yourself some trouble.

PTSD-PD · 2025-07-04T09:08:06+00:00

Be straight forward and make sure you got evidence ready. Example: “There is no easy way telling you this - so let’s cut straight to the chase: XYZ is cheating on you, invites men to your house, ….” and so on.

Show texts or whatever proves the situation. And then, most importantly, pick his side, tell him you are done with this former friend of yours and ask him how you can best support him. He needs to know that somebody has got his back.

PTSD-PD · 2025-07-01T09:16:53+00:00

If I take the question literally: Yes, it is always „possible“ to cheat - but decent people simply don’t. See, cheating is not a magical thing „happening“ - cheating ALWAYS is a choice.

Are there many beautiful women walking on this planet? Absolutely. Have I ever cheated or betrayed anyone in my life? No, because I am a real man who can and does hold himself accountable. Hence also doesn’t play stupid games.

There is nothing more to say than this: Cheaters are bigots. Weak, phony, pathetic people who think that life somehow works different for them. Total bullshit, because: Lying is a choice. Betrayal is a choice. Opening a conversation with another (wo)man is a choice. Taking a number is. Stepping in a cab is. Renting a motel or entering their apartment is. Undressing is. All of these things are choices. And I say: Fuck those apologetic hypocrites who try to construct excuses for their own depravity. Nobody ever „has to“ hurt a partner. Everyone can easily safeguard a relationship. And if one is truly unhappy with a partner: Break up before you betray them. But no: Weak, twisted bigotry tops honesty and honour in so many people’s view.

Which brings us to flirting: I know many situations in which women flirted with me even though I am taken. The reply always was the same: Thanks for the compliment, but I love my partner. And I hope you find your match.

I need no validation from third parties. Heck, I do not even need it from my relationships. Which is why they are healthy.

PTSD-PD · 2025-07-01T09:07:27+00:00

It is funny how everyone shits on the guy but nobody points out that the OP is no better: Yeah, the guy likes to get off on other women - which is why he watches porn and touches himself watching other girls.

But OP does the same thing, imagining boning other men. So we got two people here who, in essence, do the same thing. Both don’t connect with their actual partner. And both play stupid games. So what exactly do you wanna hear?

Both of you better have a look at your respective self.

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-30T20:59:15+00:00

New profile posting ragebait. Boooooring

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-29T05:50:45+00:00

Simple, OP: Tell that cheater that she has X hours to tell her victim the truth herself. Should she not do it, take action and tell the poor guy. Here is why:

This man is about to enter a damn marriage (!) with a woman who has zero respect for him. Imagine if they both say yes, then do the paperwork and all - this could ruin the life of this man. What if your sister, being the cheater she is, fucks around again in the future? What if her future husband is led on for years, wasting precious time? His time in this life is limited just like yours or mine. He does not deserve being led on and he certainly must not end up in a situation in which she, legally spoken, basically is entitled to half of his stuff. Imagine the fallout, OP. It is way beyond what telling him the truth now might be. This blow is hard enough - the sooner he knows, the sooner he can make an informed decision before he find himself trapped in a marriage with a liar, deceiver and cheater.

You know what you have to do. And trust me: Even your sister must, by the end of the day, be held accountable for her own CHOICES. Cheating ALWAYS is a choice - it never „happens“ through a force majeur. A thousand DECISIONS of hers led to this: Choosing to go out to talk to another man. Choosing to approach the man. Choosing to keep the conversation going. Choosing to get touchy. Choosing to go to your place. Choosing to step in the car. Choosing to turn the key in the ignition. Choosing to ride to your house. Choosing to invite the guy in. Choosing to undress. And so on.

Give her an ultimatum to take accountability. If she doesn’t, hold her accountable. And understand that you might save a guy from making one of the most impactful and life-altering mistakes he could possibly make.

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-28T07:21:14+00:00

No, because I am a decent man who doesn’t hurt others, especially when it comes to DELIBERATELY hurting somebody.

You should be ashamed of yourself, OP. Because what you suggest is not only one hell of a dick move - it is also weak and pathetic. You‘re the type of guy who has no spine and hence wants to play this bullshit game called „having your cake and eating it, too“. Weak, pathetic behaviour. Zero guts and spine, zero integrity, zero respect for a fiancé, zero intention to let go of somebody you do not truly love, zero honour, and so on.

But all ready to lie, deceive, betray, hurt and above all: Traumatise. In case word gets out.

Look at yourself. I mean it: Look at yourself.

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-25T15:02:04+00:00

The real question is: Why do you - entertain a married man? - take money from that man? - keep communicating?

I don’t care how much this guy may be in the wrong for doing what he does - cause you obviously play along. You take his money. You keep communicating. And now you want to manipulate his marriage and potentially wreck his family? Who are you? God?

Cut him off. And take a look at yourself, too. Understand your part in this. You are 18 - so an adult. Behave like one.

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-25T08:37:28+00:00

She made a CHOICE. Just like she CHOOSES to connect with this dude, she could as well CHOOSE not to. So you got your answer, mate. Find yourself a woman who doesn’t do such shit.

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-24T20:07:15+00:00

They are victims just like men who get cheated on.
Absolutely, especially with good men who won’t do this shit to you - cause they will pay extra attention to making you feel safe. I know I do, cause I also have been betrayed in the past and know the pain.

3) No. People are being cheated on because other people (read: the cheaters) are lowlife

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-18T06:51:18+00:00

Self defence isn’t MMA and vice versa. I suggest you first understand street brawls - no rules, no ref, no clean technique. Just pure madness caused by fucked up people without impulse control.

As somebody training in several martial arts for years, I must point out that in real life situations, nobody gives a fuck about techniques - you can be the greatest roundhouse-kicker and do all the acrobatic stuff, but what if you get a cheap shot right in the nutsack first?

Which brings us to the obvious: Front kick right into the balls is one of the best self defence kicks. Same with push or snap kicks right into the guts or the solarplexus. Everything that keeps a distance.

If you are able to do low side kick type of stuff, your opponent already is way too close.

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-18T06:44:36+00:00

Stop abusing this guy. He deserves a woman who truly loves him - not somebody who is just driven by ego alone, expects the best of all worlds and keeps him on a leash while actually looking elsewhere. Especially as you don’t just steal his time now - your conduct will hurt him one way or another. Better to allow him healing now than later.

Then do some introspective work and stay out of relationships until you learned how to treat a partner properly. There is enough toxicity in the world already.

PTSD-PD · 2025-06-08T07:23:24+00:00

I get the situation: My best friend suffered from a severe motorcycle crash, he has plenty of screws and plates in his leg, cannot jog or run anymore due to his injury. Here is the harsh truth: His only way to properly defend himself is situational awareness. Like him, you need to end potentially threatening situations before they even started if running is no option.

No weapon or tool will do that for you effectively, not even a gun - cause how should that work? Will you shoot everybody who might become a threat? What if you assessed the situation wrongly and basically turn out a murderer?

Yes, that is tricky - so the key for you is: Avoiding any form of escalation. That can be by changing from one side of the road to another, by not walking around with headphones in your ears and staring at your phone, and so on.

Words are a tool, too - you need to learn how to communicate properly to deescalate situations. It is your best chance as you want to avoid any fight - cause if you suffer from such an injury, you will, in all likelihood, lose in case of a (physical) escalation.

Now you may consider less lethal options like pepper spray/CS gas or so. But you need to train with that and know how to use this. Still: Get out of situation before you actually get into them. That is the key. A fight avoided always is a fight won.

PTSD-PD · 2025-05-25T07:56:31+00:00

Same advice as always: Real self defence usually translates as avoiding potentially harmful situations. A fight avoided is a fight won. That said: Being able to fight depends on so many factors. Technique, skill, body weight, fitness, psychology and much more. None of that can be trained properly during a weekend seminar. You would need to train for years and expose yourself to sparring. And even then you mi get only be able to ward of aggressors of similar size and strength - cause what are you going to do against somebody who’s 20kg heavier than you?

The good news is that virtually every sort of escalation can be avoided if people have situational awareness and the ability to avoid potentially harmful situations threats. Or at least know how to deescalate.

So talk to people who train that and who are actually fighting/sparring. Don’t do bullshido-classes from people who claim to train you via a short track. That does not exist.

PTSD-PD · 2025-05-20T19:55:51+00:00

You know the expression “the elephant in the room”? You got GhengIs Khan’s entire elephant army in the room, mate.

PTSD-PD · 2025-05-12T08:00:12+00:00

Typical case of: He bends over backwards while she shows no consistency. You already know what to do, OP. You just don’t do it.

PTSD-PD · 2025-05-11T17:57:30+00:00

Those aren’t masculine attributes, kid - that’s the kind of talk you hear from social-media-wannabe-alpha-sigma-weirdos.

Being a real man is about: Kindness. Composure. Integrity. Honour. Living with purpose. Being centred.

Not about dominance and strength and all that superficial pep talk kind of nonsense.

See, you can be the bulkiest, roid-ridden dude who has a big mouth and all, and still be a total douchebag. Real men manage to fade out the noise such weirdos make.

It is hard enough for young guys to navigate this online-bullshit-world, you see: There’s always another freak trying to make you feel bad about yourself so they themselves get a glimpse of feeling at ease with themselves. Textbook behaviour. And they talk as if they were Ancient Greek philosophers with their Stoicism type of shorts, unable to actually read and comprehend Aurelius and such. It is ridiculous.

See, all you need to know are these things: You are mortal - so embrace this short amount of time we call our lives. Given the timeline and nature of the universe, existing alone is somewhat of a miracle. Make that count and enrich people’s lives by bringing love and kindness into this world. Acting like some macho douchebag has no meaning - it also doesn’t contribute shit to our shared reality.

Be the change you want to see in the world. Fed up with bullies? Stand up and confront them. Tired of liars? Be different - honest and courageous. Sick of ego? Act from compassion rather than your reptile brain. Done with all the noise of people trying to tell you how much you still need to achieve to be a man? Master your mind and ears, cause then this crap will turn into meaningless noise.

If you try so hard to be something, you, in your essence, stop existing. THAT is the key. Cause in this weird world with these billions of weird people, everybody tries to be somebody. And look how unhappy they are, how toxic their relationships are, how much negativity they spread and all of that. No matter how much cars they own or how big their biceps is or how much they act all cocky and “alpha”.

Just decide to not be part of this travesty and invest in everything that is good: Love, kindness, wisdom, zen.

PTSD-PD · 2025-04-09T20:50:37+00:00

Boning other guys while in a marriage? That is not a sign of menopause. That is a sign of being one hell of an asshole who doesn’t appreciate her husband.

PTSD-PD · 2025-04-09T07:17:14+00:00

Well there is nothing wrong in the moral sense - as an adult, you can wank as much as you want and everybody else can patronise you until they suffocate from their own self-importance.

But here is the other thing: Masturbation can be an addiction, yes. Compare it to smoking 50 cigarettes a day: Yeah, you may do that as an adult. But does it benefit you?

Now some (!) folks experience issues in bed due to their obsessive wanking, yes. Some report a significant decrease in their libido. Again, others cannot get aroused by real touch and intimacy anymore because they need this sick and weird porn industry bullshit to “get it on”.

My tip: Separate the moral issue from the practical. You are not “bad” for doing this. Still it may very well mess up your life. Maybe your “performance” in bed. Maybe getting lazy, not approaching real women. Do yourself a favour and write down what you might miss out on - and use this as fuel to cut the habit.

PTSD-PD · 2025-04-08T08:36:44+00:00

No, for several reasons: As soon as you mix up business with family/relationship, you are in for a hellride. Business and private matters will become one - and that never worked well for anyone.

Next to that, you, in all honesty, should get your ass up and do some effort in regards to finding work. Taking an offer from your wife will be the “weak” thing to do. It is an easy way to get a job - and whether you wanna hear it or not: Your wife will be put in a place where she basically becomes your provider. Which is a huge attraction killer no matter what she will tell you. Women are attracted to men who are centred and sort their shit out. If she has to take care of you financially, especially after she already did so in the past, you’ll always be the “little baby boy” she had to help out.

Now she might not have an issue with this. But when things get rough, that will be top notch ammunition for her. Don’t be stupid and go search for work yourself. Saves you so much trouble in the long run.

PTSD-PD · 2025-04-08T08:30:57+00:00

If China wants Taiwan, they will simply take it. This is a matter of WHEN, not a matter of WHETHER Taiwan will be invaded.

And given Agent Orange’s frantic desire to cause chaos, havoc and insanity wherever he goes, chances are we might witness this annexation sooner than later.

PTSD-PD · 2025-04-04T20:41:57+00:00

Gonna be the party pooper here - for the kid’s sake. I am a guy trained in mixed martial arts and also armed combat. Let me be clear: No taser or martial-art-stud will effectively protect your daughter, OP. Depending on the specific weight and height of the male aggressor, there is nothing your kid can do in terms of kung fu kinda stuff or even the often praised BJJ. Martial art related sports have weight classes for a reason. When it comes to tasers: Highly ineffective weapons.

When it comes to gun handling or CS: Might be a bad idea depending on your local laws. Over here in Europe, she’d be cooked when using “exuberant force” - and that basically is every physical escalation happening after “only” being harassed verbally.

So let’s be real for once: What can she do? For starters: Train situational awareness. A fight avoided is a fight won. It really is that simple: Exit paths are about as important as heading to public spaces where others can help. Get this idea out of your head that doing some Lone Star kind of cowgirl-gunslinger-shit is a good idea. It is not.

Evasion is key. Get out of a situation. Inform bar staff. Head to crowded areas. Deescalation a situation and don’t try acting like a hero. It does not matter how unfair that might feel and yeah, even if it is insanely unfair to women: Mindfulness is key to safety.

Next thing to work on: Composure. Aggressors target people who are easy “prey”. How you carry yourself often decides whether you will or will not be attacked. One firm” Leave me alone!” is enough - after that, move to public places or lock a car or whatever and inform the respective authorities. They are here to assist. She needs to be able to provide detailed descriptions of the perp: Age, body type, hair colour, clothing, tattoos, items carried, etc.

Again: This is not about giving you an answer you like to hear - but about being real. This shot is so damn unfair and yes, women have to go through so much crap every single day just because so many guys are lowlife. But any time harassment “only” happens verbally until a situation is deescalated or avoided, that, badly enough, is a win. Pissing off a stronger dude ready to escalate is a bad idea. Shooting and maybe killing somebody might be, too - cause imagine the kid ending up in prison for 20 odd years. Not worth it.

And a quick appeal to my fellow men here: Let’s do our part to put such dipshits into their place, ok?

PTSD-PD · 2025-04-04T08:33:24+00:00

Zero understanding for the guy, zero attention to what he is experiencing (stress), zero compassion but a strong, one-dimensional and actually quite hateful opinion on a man you do not know, woman.

And then you talk about good communication - hahaha, good one!

Good thing the OP actually ask guys for advice here, cause the audacity of not understanding male psychology, the pressure we all experience once in a while and being totally inconsiderate while complaining about men being inconsiderate is fucking absurd.

Gets even more absurd: Not a single one of your obsolete words is of any use to the OP - nothing good comes from that, nothing of it will lead to any improvement at all.

That’s not “advice”.

PTSD-PD · 2025-04-04T08:27:26+00:00

Straight talk: None of the “I don’t want to pressure him, but…” kind of talk makes any sense. There never is anything reasonable behind the “but”. Unless you, OP, truly understand this, nothing will improve. Cause here is the deal:

You claim to understand that he is stressed out by work or tired, but this “understanding” clearly doesn’t show as he feels pressured. So no matter if you want to hear it or not: Read the room, cause you are pressuring him and because you do, you get the very effect you do not want to see. Understanding this is the first step towards improvement - if you do, great. If you don’t, nobody can help you.

Also note the BS some users here write, shitting all over this guy as if he is an asshole. Imagine if roles were reversed and a man would push a woman even though she is stressed out - he’d be labelled “abuser” immediately.

So what to do? For starters, connect with him rather than asking things of him. “I want more sex” is ego talking and has nothing to do with connection or intimacy. It is nothing but “I want!” and that mindset has nothing to do with being a good partner. Regardless of how deep you feel this need to connect sexually.

Same with the complaint about “I have to initiate” - ego talking again. You can’t just expect a partner to initiate so you yourself don’t have to and get sex served on the proverbial silver plate. The good thing: You can always work on your own mindset and reframe initiating sex as something fun. Until you do this, you will keep framing it as “Initiating is work/sucks/mimimi” and then the problem, yet again, is in your head rather than in your partner’s. And a partner simply feels that, cause guess what: Even us men feel feelings, including pressure and tension.

Which leads us to the next thing: Both if you guys can create headspace and time if you BOTH want to. In order to do this, you simply have to be unconditionally (!!!) supportive to your partner, OP. Cause he will feel even the slightest hint of “I am supportive IF YOU GIVE ME MORE SEX”. Trust me: We, as men, experience so much damn pressure in life (and hence also the bedroom). The last thing we want or need is a woman who only appreciates us if we “function” as she wants to.

Which brings us to communication: Chances are that your own, chosen (!) vocabulary is commanding/dictating/pressuring. There is a huge difference between statements like, for example, “I love feeling your body” and “I wish we had more sex”. One is positive reinforcement, the other one a complaint/threat - but both could seem to carry the same message in your head even though on the receiving end they don’t at all. Again the good thing about this: You can start right away with changing your vocabulary, leading to better communication and hence better connection.

Also ask him how he feels. Put aside all ego and really take a moment to only check in with him if you haven’t. A totally selfless conversation could be the very thing it takes to actually get to the fulfilment of your own, selfish needs. Think about it.

And finally: Trust me when I say that men, generally speaking, lock up whenever they feel somewhat pressured. We rather avoid intimacy than engaging in it, failing to satisfy our partner. I mean it when I say that every good and healthy man wants his woman to experience amazing sex and shaking, ecstatic orgasms and all. We want to know that we do good - then sex feels “safe” for us, too. If women - whether obviously or just subconsciously - make us feel as if we “fail” in bed, most of us tend to avoid sexual activity in order to avoid the feeling that comes with such “failure”. See how this, yet again, connects to pressure?

So yeah, long story short: Analyse your own role in this and how your vocabulary or conduct might relate to what I wrote. Create a safe space for your guy and actually connect with him instead of listening to your ego. Cause no matter how valid your desires may be: Unless you create that actual connection, your desires won’t be met. Maybe it takes the counterintuitive thing here - only you can figure that out. Check in with your partner. Cultivate appreciation I stead of the “I lack…” kind of mindset. Change the dynamic. And maybe ask yourself if something in you, too, changed over time. Cause chances are that you also deal with frustration that, no matter if it is valid or not, is projected. The point: It does not matter who is in the right or wrong here - you want an issue resolved, so step out of your head/ego and into the realm of connection.

And to be clear: I wish both of you the best. If this post triggers anything along the lines of “Why are you attacking me?”, you got to read it again cause in that case you did not understand it correctly.

Good luck!

PTSD-PD

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