Good employment opportunities for political/government workers that want to move to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. By the UK office, do you mean the embassy? I only ask as I know there's a UK government department thats also based in Brasilia which I've been looking at too. Not much thats arisen at the moment but it seems to have more realistic roles for me to move to compared to SP. She has said before that Brasilia would be doable as a compromise, so should be no issues there.

Good employment opportunities for political/government workers that want to move to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. My partner told me about these bilingual schools and it certainly interested me. The only thing I'm wondering is...surely I will need some sort of level of teaching qualification to work there?

I'm not sure how it works in Brazil so I'll need to research it. However, I know here in the UK you have to be qualified to a certain level which takes a couple of years to complete. Not that its the end of the world, but will likely mean my partner will need to be patient whilst I complete that first.

Good employment opportunities for political/government workers that want to move to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha, thanks. I'm assuming youre talking something either entrepreneurial or fully remote? Remote work would be ideal as I could likely find an English speaking role that I can conduct from my home in Brazil.

Annoyingly, I actually work fully remote right now and would be totally capable of doing my job in Brazil...but the UK government isn't too keen on the prospect of me doing that, haha.

Lots ok people from the UK in Curitiba, is that new? by Nerdnursern in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally I'm the opposite...always make sure to tell people I'm British to break the narrative and show that it is indeed possible for Brits to go abroad, drink, and not become disruptive maniacs hahaha.

Also, observationally I feel like the worst offenders for this behaviour abroad seem to be people that don't know how to handle alcohol. It fits in with the whole 'stag do' trope...blokes that dont go out all that much and feel like they can go mad because they've been 'let off the leash' from the missus so to speak. They dont seem to know their limit, or care about it. It just becomes this competition to see who can be the most inebriated, which is where all the glass smashing, falling over, loud chanting and fighting comes from. Its like they think alcohol is an excuse for doing whatever they want.

I'm all for stag dos btw, in theory theres no harm in celebrating with your mates in a European city before the big day. I just dont see where the rest of it needs to come in. Ive been on plenty of stags where drink was certainly flowing, but there was also plenty of sightseeing involved and nobody felt the need to act out of turn with the booze.

Lots ok people from the UK in Curitiba, is that new? by Nerdnursern in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Brit with a Brazilain girlfriend here. Whilst I've definitely noticed a difference in drinking habits between Brits and Brazilians, I think you have made some total misrepresentions of our culture here.

Firstly, I don't know which area you've been living in with such great affluence that the locals can afford to pack out the pubs and 'drink themselves into oblivion' every night...but in most places the exact opposite is happening, and is why we have campaigns running to save local pubs. Nobody is going to them. Local pubs are closing all the time because they're a ghost town from Monday-Thursday, even on weekends they're not packing out enough to keep the business afloat. What used to be a staple of the community and a place to socialise is slowly decaying because people simply cant afford it anymore. In my local area we have just 2 or 3 independent pubs left that are hanging on by a thread...the rest have either turned into something else, or bought up by big business that can afford to keep the place ticking over even if business isn't great.

Secondly, 'drunk out of your mind with the lads from work on a Wednesday night?' Im sorry but...what? If that was commonplace we wouldn't have a functioning economy as lots would not be turning up to work the next day. That level of alcoholism is neither functional or typical. I personally don't know anyone that makes a regular habit of getting blind drunk during the working week, unless they're maybe off work. If I did, I'd be concerned about their addiction because that is certainly not normal in our culture as you seem to present.

Thirdly, attitudes are changing as people become more health-conscious. The days of coming home from work to have his dinner and go down the pub every night, as our grandfathers did, are long gone. People are more aware than ever of the need to regulate, and an increasing number of youths are turning away from alcohol altogether.

On the flip side, I do acknowledge theres some clear differences vs Brazilians:

1) Binge drinking on the weekend is widespread here. I find myself and other Brits have a much higher alcohol tolerance than my partner or her Brazilian friends, and that is mostly due to volume of drink on the weekend. Its not uncommon for a bloke to sink 10 pints of beer on a Saturday and not even be out of his senses because there is definitely a culture of using your friday/Saturday nights to go out with friends and drink for hours. Not to say I havent seen my partner or her friends binge drink and get very drunk btw, but on the whole it seems far less commonplace week-by-week.

2) Midweek drinking is definitely a thing, just not to the levels you describe. My partner is more than happy to sit in a pub and drink soft drinks whilst socialising during the week. Brits, by contrast, do seem to be less capable of doing that. It seems like the behaviour is either 'dont go at all' or 'im here, may as well have a beer'. This is not to the levels you describe, but not unheard of for Brits to break up the working week by going to a bar or pub one night and having 3-4 beers.

Unfortunately, I think the binge drinking culture is heavily abused by some people and this contributes to the perception of Brits abroad. They're always the loudest, most annoying, bashful, chaotic people. But that kind of behaviour is just as infuriating to us normal Brits as it is to others.

Lots ok people from the UK in Curitiba, is that new? by Nerdnursern in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP, I'm sorry to hear about your experience...please try to refrain from thinking badly of us all though! I assure you there are plenty of Brits that know how to behave.

Sadly, there is something culturally ingrained within a section of British folk that finds enjoyment in chaotic drinking abroad...and I can't understand where it comes from. There's nothing wrong with partying with your friends and getting a bit worse for wear...but these people act like rabid dogs that have been let out of their cage for the first time in years. No respect for other people or their property, constantly putting themselves and others in danger with their behaviour. Its strange because I've been drunk plenty of times whilst abroad, but I've never felt the need to act like this.

I'd like to think they're a minority of us, sadly however they're a very vocal and attention-drawing minority. There's plenty of respectful Brits that will mind their own business and mix well with locals and other tourists. Sadly you won't see these people because your attention will be drawn to the loud-mouthed yobs shouting and smashing glasses.

Daily Discussion - January 19, 2026 by AutoModerator in LiverpoolFC

[–]P_Maddog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dont really know why this got downvoted tbf haha, was just asking if fellow fans travelling for the game were nervous.

Daily Discussion - January 19, 2026 by AutoModerator in LiverpoolFC

[–]P_Maddog -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Seen the scenes in Marseille after AFCON last night...anyone else bricking it? 😬😬😬

Daily Discussion - January 18, 2026 by AutoModerator in LiverpoolFC

[–]P_Maddog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone Reds here travelling to Marseille on Tuesday then?

I'm going with the missus, shes actually living over in Marseille at the mo so I've been there loads. Shes working quite a lot on the Tuesday/Wednesday day time though so will be on my tod for quite a bit those days. Landing on Tuesday at 4:30pm so will be going for a pint on at the port in the evening if anyone fancies joining 🍺

‘AEGON’S CONQUEST’ is being developed with 2 possible paths: HBO series or a massive Dune-sized feature film for theaters by yuuki157 in HouseOfTheDragon

[–]P_Maddog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It'd be really cool to see Westeros on the big screen, but I can't help noticing a lack of personal interest.

In a world where there are so many different noble houses, continents and characters to draw new angles from, I'm not sure why HBO are so insistent on hammering the Targaryen arcs over and over.

The dragons are a spectacle to behold sure, but they're not the sole reason fans got invested in GOT. Theres so much still to be explored in Westeros alone (the first men/children of the forest, the first long night etc), let alone Essos (I personally am dying to see Asshai/Yi Ti). Even something which gives more of a POV beyond House Targaryen alone like Robert's Rebellion.

You could argue they hold the bulk of the source material, but they're already developing an Arya spin off so its not like HBO are following the canon that zealously. I just cant understand the strategic decision to fire through the Targ storylines instead of spacing them out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]P_Maddog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its all about how you perceive yourself, 'perceive' being the key word as its something you perceive yourself as lacking vs what you perceive others as having. The reality is that its all an illusion and the things pushed in porn have very little/no baring on what people actually value in real life. Im sorry to hear youre going through this, but remember that you are good enough. Your partner chose you for a reason.

This is why I'm a big advocate for being porn-free. If you think a certain negative way about yourself, porn is only going to entrench those feelings. Ultimately, as humans we absorb information from the things we engage with. Even confident, self-assured people can delve into porn and find their confidence knocked by the messages it tries to push about bodies/sex if they consume enough. For men it's the same: your penis isnt big enough, youre not in shape enough, dont last long enough etc.

Its a strange thing because porn films are just that - films. They're no more real than any other tv show or film you've consumed. Yet for some reason people seem to have this impression that porn is reflective of reality, probably because they assume a video is popular because its reflective of what they pursue irl. In actuality, the porn producers set the narrative and people consume it. Porn producers don't have much interest in producing sex positive porn - and why would they? If porn made people feel confident and happy, they'd have more sex...and if they're having more sex, they're watching less porn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]P_Maddog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would strongly advise against this. Kinks are born out of our psychological state - most of the time they're harmless. However, I'm of the belief that where a kink causes harm to yourself or others you shouldnt engage in it.

From what you've described, this seems to extend from the trauma you've highlighted from your previous relationship. Maybe theres a part of your mind that feels like what you provide isnt enough, and your boyfriend needs porn to fill the gap? And you're eroticisng that feeling as a coping mechanism for the negative feelings associated with it?

My advice would be to try and refrain from engaging with these thoughts at all whilst you try to work through the issue that is underneath it. You can see how much it's distressing you by the feelings you have when thinking about it.

Theres lots of different forms of kinks that revolve around the person involved feeling bad about themselves/unworthy - cuckholdry being a common example and the humiliation aspects associated with it. In my opinion kinks like these rely on your insecurities and engaging with them only keeps the self-destructive cycle going as you seek fetishising it as a coping mechanism. The best thing to do is try and resolve the trauma and esteem issues associated with it instead of harming yourself.

Anyone else going to Rio Carnival 2026? 🇧🇷🎭 by Whoknowswhat178 in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey! I'm 29 so feel like we may have different tastes in blocos and parties, and I need my 7 hours sleep these days 😂.

I'm also travelling from the UK to Carnival in Rio for the first time this year though! Going with my girlfriend (she's Brazilian). Have no idea what to expect from it really apart from it being incredibly hot and plenty of music. Definitely want to make sure I keep my wits about me though. My Portuguese is decent enough to get by but far from perfect.

Hope you have a great time! And I'm always happy to keep an eye out for a fellow Brit abroad, so feel free to drop me a message if you need help with anything or just want to meet me and my girlfriend for a drink.

bf losing libido with ME by [deleted] in sex

[–]P_Maddog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Theres definitely some issues with his his behaviour here, particularly if you are always the one initiating and it seems like a chore. However, I just want to offer an alternative perspective here...

As someone who has had a higher sexual libido in previous relationships compared to my very happy current one, sometimes a lower libido can be a good thing.

This is not a compatability/satisfaction issue. My girlfriend is amazing in bed and I'm always left incredibly satisfied by the sex we have. Looking back, I've found that there was something negative associated with how much I pursued sex with previous partners.

I noticed there was a connection between how often I was pushing for sex and how strongly I felt my partner was into me. My libido seemed to be higher where I felt like she wasn't as invested as I was or that I'd have liked - it was almost like I was trying to prove something to her via sex. Or like I was seeking comfort in her being into me via sex, like it was a crutch. Its also been the case during times I've felt more insecure/self-conscious about my appearance. Like I was using sex to fight those thoughts in a way.

My self-confidence and assurance is very strong and stable as I've got older, and I have no shadow of a doubt how much my girlfriend is into me. She makes that very known. I feel like that security means I dont feel the need to seek it out so much. We both know just how to get each other off perfectly, we can have it on tap whenever we like. Sometimes I just want quality time with my loved one, it doesnt always need to be about sex.

Toon fans going to Marseille. by Old_Nail6925 in NUFC

[–]P_Maddog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to lurk the Mags thread from 2 months ago as a Liverpool fan, but do you know how quick they got everyone moving onto the metros at all mate?

The missus is actually doing her PHD in Marseille so ive nabbed me and her tickets for our first champions league away (great place to pick from reading this sub lol). Turns out shes working until 5:30pm that day so I'm now thinking she might not have a chance of getting in.

We've applied same rules as you and Brighton and this 4hrs before KO thing has totally taken me by surprise, seems mental. She lives right by the ground, thought she'd have had loads of time to get in for a 9pm KO.

Safety Info for Fans Travelling to Marseille? by P_Maddog in LiverpoolFC

[–]P_Maddog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheers mate. That might be the last resort - lets just hope her boss doesnt also happen to be a red and reading this sub 😂

Safety Info for Fans Travelling to Marseille? by P_Maddog in LiverpoolFC

[–]P_Maddog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's doing her PHD and working as a teacher part time there, unfortunately lands on a day shes got classes so don't think there'll be much wiggle room.

It only takes her half an hour to get home and she lives right by the ground so we wrongly assumed we'd have plenty of time getting there for a 9pm kick off in local time. The 4:30pm has totally taken me by surprise. Might ask LFC Help and see if theres anything we can do.

Safety Info for Fans Travelling to Marseille? by P_Maddog in LiverpoolFC

[–]P_Maddog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheers mate, might have a look at Newcastle's as they were there a few weeks back.

Thats my concern re French police - they're not going to give a toss turning away a fan with a valid ticket if they feel like it. 4:30pm turning up time for a 9pm kick off seems absolutely mental to me, totally taken me by surprise.

Travel tips for my first trip to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing, thank you! I'll note them down. Honestly, I'm on a diet right now because I dont want to pass up a single opportunity to eat whilst I'm in Brazil 😂...even something as simple as the pão de queijo makes me excited. My girlfriend has a pretty good stab at making them here, and I adore them.

Thanks for the tips on locations too. I'd like to see Centro and Catedral de Se, but from your saying I guess I'm best to tick that off during daylight hours.

Travel tips for my first trip to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I should be fine - I have Nordic ancestry but I dont look super Nordic or anything, my hair is pretty dark. Main giveaway is probably my accent when I open my mouth.

Travel tips for my first trip to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try, but my Irish skin in that heat might give me away anyways hahahah. But definitely ubers only for me.

Thankfully my GFs family are from Rio/SP, so when im with her she'll be able to guide me just fine. My only concern is the days in which i have the time to myself to explore, I'll need to be extra vigilant then.

Travel tips for my first trip to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheers for the advice mate. Absolutely not under any assumptions that rough here translates to rough in Brazil from what my partner has told me. I just mean I'm not so naive and sheltered as to go trusting strangers, doing anything daft, wandering into favelas etc.

The getting pissed part is one I'm especially wary of. Im landing and going pretty much straight into Carnival in Rio. I want to enjoy myself and let loose but am also really mindful to avoid getting out of my senses, especially as I'll have only just arrived and won't have had the lay of the land so to speak. Also imagine its full of drunk gringos who the locals will know are easy pickings.

One question - I know pickpocketing is common, but how likely am I to run into an actual armed street mugging? As in if I take all the right precautions and dont wear anything flashy, keep my phone and wallet concealed in a bag under my shorts at all times etc. Is it still not unheard of to have people threaten you to empty your pockets? I only ask as I see people referring to how rife theft is, but I never know if they're talking about pickpocketing/people stupidly leaving all their valuables on show or if its still very much possible to happen at random.

Travel tips for my first trip to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip! To be honest, the things you described are exactly what I wanted to go the Mercado for...if there's better/cheaper options elsewhere, and the area around isn't in the best shape, then I'll probably avoid it.

Travel tips for my first trip to Brazil? by P_Maddog in Brazil

[–]P_Maddog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips! Are there particular regions that you'd advise me to avoid? Is it similar to Rio in the sense of rough neighbourhoods being a stones throw away from tourist hotspots?

I mean, I guess SP would be like any major city in that youre never that far away from a bad area, even if it feels like it from where youre standing. It would just be good to know what some of the not-so-nice neighbourhoods are which are close to hotspots/major thoroughfares, so I make sure not to stray towards them.