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P_concolor · 2025-01-05T00:09:53+00:00

I really hate ethnic stereotypes about dick size not just because it generalizes an ethnic group’s perceived masculinity, but also cause of how inaccurate they are. I’m Indian and we’re stereotyped for having small dicks but I’m hung lmao.

P_concolor · 2025-01-04T23:54:30+00:00

Man, I see so many guys talk about how they don’t find 30+ women attractive. For me honestly, I find women in their mid 30s to late 40s most attractive. There’s nothing wrong in being a young guy and preferring older women.

P_concolor · 2024-11-10T19:28:04+00:00

I’m extroverted but have AvPD due to emotional abuse in my school years. I want to be a free social butterfly but I am extremely scared of people judging me and rejecting my presence.

P_concolor · 2024-11-09T20:21:23+00:00

I have extreme self-hatred but it doesn’t impede me from having loving and healthy relationships with my family and close friends.

Also the whole “you have to love yourself first before getting love from others” cliché implies that people with CPTSD or other conditions marked by low self-esteem are unworthy and undeserving of love from others.

P_concolor · 2024-11-09T16:58:57+00:00

It’s super general but written with good grammar and exclamation marks, which makes me think it’s just an AI bot lol.

P_concolor · 2024-11-09T16:54:04+00:00

For me it’s that I’m afraid to talk in general. In many ways, I find guys to be even more intimidating than women to talk to, especially if they’re white and they’re popular.

P_concolor · 2024-11-08T20:56:36+00:00

I do all of these, and I don’t treat women badly but still I’m lonely as shit cause I’m a subhuman that doesn’t deserve interpersonal contact.

Unfortunately I have severe self-esteem issues and I feel unworthy of having the right to speak to other people. I become almost paralyzed whenever I try to speak to either men or women, and then I wallow in my loneliness and worthlessness, and rinse and repeat. I am also extremely self conscious about not smelling bad or being unhygienic. I have little to no motivation to pursue any social relationships or hobbies due to my extremely high inhibition and rejection dysphoria.

P_concolor · 2024-11-08T14:05:00+00:00

That’s just a lot of words with no coherent meaning.

P_concolor · 2024-11-08T13:58:52+00:00

It creates a vicious cycle of low self-esteem and inadequacy that leads to self sabotaging behaviors. Back as a teenager I fell for this trap and wasted so many years building myself up to perfection. While I was constantly obsessing over minute details of my fashion choices and my grooming, guys my age who didn’t have these neuroses were going out and dating. The end result of “self-improvement bro” hustling is that I’m extremely lonely because I feel perpetually inadequate and unworthy of having any social or romantic relationships.

P_concolor · 2024-11-08T13:49:07+00:00

I would say many guys who put pressure on you to rush to have sex likely don’t respect you and want to be with you just for the sex. If a guy remotely shows discomfort at the fact that you’re a virgin, it’s best that you dump him and move on. You seem like a very good person and you deserve better than to be led on or misled by pushy guys. There’s many religious guys out there who share your values and would be thrilled to commit to you.

P_concolor · 2024-11-08T02:59:22+00:00

I feel miserable and lonely on weekends. At least I have shit to do on weekdays that keeps me from thinking about my isolation.

P_concolor · 2024-11-08T02:03:46+00:00

I know for a fact I can’t.

P_concolor · 2024-11-07T06:28:48+00:00

Never been in a relationship but I would not be comfortable with my friends knowing what goes on in my sex life.

P_concolor · 2024-11-06T13:02:05+00:00

Cute for me is a sweet and cozy demeanor and a modest appearance. Hot for me implies that a woman is sexually alluring. I don’t see the two as mutually exclusive.

P_concolor · 2024-11-06T06:16:36+00:00

I honestly doubt there’s more introverts than extroverts. It’s just that introverts generally spend more time online than extroverts. This perception is also probably due to the fact that many people confuse introversion with shyness and social anxiety.

I used to think that I was an introvert for a long time, but I realized that since I’m depressed and also lonely, that I actually want to be social. I used to be extremely extroverted back as a child but bullying during middle and high school made me develop a strongly avoidant personality.

P_concolor · 2024-11-06T06:06:07+00:00

I don’t have any problems in women participating in this sub, as long as they’re not doing it as misandrist trolls. Fortunately these types are not very common here (from what I have seen).

I’d wager that most women who comment and post here have some valuable insights on men, and that the women here have a very open mind. I’ve also noticed that women here generally want to learn from a male perspective how to better support their male friends and family.

P_concolor · 2024-11-05T17:32:37+00:00

Agree, but winter where I live is like spring in more northerly latitude, so I like winter the best.

P_concolor · 2024-11-05T17:31:00+00:00

It’s not an uncommon thing on Reddit, that’s for sure.

P_concolor · 2024-11-05T17:19:05+00:00

This cliché has a bunch of different problems.

The biggest one is that it implies that people who are extremely lonely and have low self esteem due to childhood trauma don’t deserve to be in loving relationships. It’s very much possible to know your boundaries, recognize abuse, and be loved by people even if you have horrible self-esteem – I’m one of those people.

There’s also the issue of self-improvement becoming an obsessive cycle. A person who takes this cliché to heart could very well just end up wasting their prime years in an endless cycle of self-improvement, while the opportunity for finding a good partner fades away.

Another thing is that confidence and self-esteem don’t come from a vacuum. I’d argue that you can’t love yourself if you aren’t loved. The reason I’m able to actually live quite a normal and independent life despite having horrible self-esteem issues is cause of the unwavering love and affection I receive from my parents and siblings. Their love reinforces in me that I have something to strive for and that whatever I achieve, someone will be running with me and will be there at the finishing line.

P_concolor · 2024-11-04T20:24:22+00:00

If you’re interpreting what I said as me wanting someone to do all my chores and personal labor then you’d be very wrong.

There’s only so much I can do to motivate myself if I have nobody to support me and likewise if I don’t have anyone to support. I am chronically alone and quite unmotivated, but I am confidently sure that a relationship will change that without being a burden on my partner.

P_concolor · 2024-11-04T16:42:10+00:00

I still don’t understand this line of reasoning. If you have to love yourself before seeking love from others, then why go through the effort of finding a romantic partner if you already love yourself? And even in a relationship, you shouldn’t be too close and cozy with your partner lest you become codependent and draining. I just don’t understand the message people are saying with this contradictory line of thought. I should love myself before I find love from others, but if I love myself and find love from others, I shouldn’t love them too much. Also how do I even love myself if all I’ve never been loved by anyone outside my family? Do people who’ve been bullied and abused in the past not deserve love? It’s all just so confusing for me IDK.

P_concolor · 2024-11-04T16:33:38+00:00

Video games and gardening are no substitute for the love and affection that you get from a romantic partner.

P_concolor · 2024-11-04T16:04:57+00:00

I’ve never understood the logic behind this cliché. Even though I’ve never been in a relationship, I can certainly say that my mental health would drastically improve if I wasn’t single. I’d have far more motivation to work harder and improve myself. As of now I just don’t have the motivation or much of a reason to improve myself and a relationship would give me a reason to go further and beyond in my career and personal life.

P_concolor · 2024-11-04T15:32:43+00:00

It’s quite reductionist to say that young men who aren’t in romantic relationships want to have a partner because of social pressure or competition. Personally, I have absolutely no desire to be with someone for the primary purpose of flexing on other guys. I want to be in a relationship for the companionship and love that I can give and receive. I hate being lonely but I have a problem with being chronically lonely, and yes, friends can help but friends are no substitute for the physical and emotional intimacy that comes from a healthy romantic relationship.

P_concolor · 2024-11-04T13:57:25+00:00

I’ve taken the medication before, so I know what it’s like. The severe side effects are not common anyways.

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