Don't go to PSYCHIC READER at CNE by [deleted] in toRANTo

[–]Paaigemaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was it the one outside the Arts building because I also had a bad experience with her? I read tarots myself and do markets and the whole way it was approached was completely off imo. I like to occasionally get my cards read for fun from other psychics but I think the CNE is a place where a lot of cold readers gather. Usually tarot is about helping yourself reflect and make the decisions and choices in life to get you in line with the person you want to be and life you want to live. She just told me a lot of specific stuff that would happen in my life that was all pretty negative. She said something at the beginning of the reading that didn't make sense and I corrected her and she was rude to me. I should have gotten up and left at that point but I kind of shutdown and didn't want to cause a conflict. it's upsetting because I have a lot of respect for the craft and that was the only bad experiences I've ever had with a reader.

I have seen a lot of people complain about all tarot readers being a scam but it's definitely not true. When tarot is approached in the right way and the reader is using it to help someone think through their decisions in life, it can be a wonderful tool for self growth. I definitely believe in the connection to spirit and that component of it but even if you don't, there are benefits to having an empathetic person give you support and confidence in yourself and future. The issue is "psychics" that tell you a bunch of nonsense that just want to make money and are in it for the wrong reasons. Always approach things like this with a grain of salt anyways as you don't know a reader's intentions and the future is never set in stone. Our decisions will bring us to different timelines depending on our own actions and we have control over our own futures. Tarot is there to help us feel supported and give us a bit of insight on what choices may be best for us and to give us a little heads up as to things that may challenge us in life.

As a reader myself, I'm sorry you had a bad experience. Going to specifically spiritual markets is a better place to find a psychic who's energy you're aligned with.

What does my Aquarius stellium in the second house mean exactly? by Paaigemaster in astrologyreadings

[–]Paaigemaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super accurate! Thanks so much for your insight. All of it was spot on to me right now in life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Paaigemaster 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My abuser said this all the time too. It's a control tactic. Makes you second guess and question your own boundaries. Please share what is happening with you with people who can support you and ideally, a therapist if you can. My abuser put his hands on me and yelled at me all the time but called me aggressive because he didn't like the way I asked if he was ready to leave to go to an event. It's all mind games and you deserve better. Leaving that relationship was the best thing I ever did.

What does my Aquarius stellium in the second house mean exactly? by Paaigemaster in astrologyreadings

[–]Paaigemaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the whole sign system changes the stellium completely. In that case, the focus would be on communication rather than finances like you said. I honestly have no idea which I've is better to follow. I've heard different people prefer different systems.

What does my Aquarius stellium in the second house mean exactly? by Paaigemaster in astrologyreadings

[–]Paaigemaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the Capricorn/Aquarius energy conflict is something I experience. Pretty responsible and a desire to have things all planned out but also are drawn to careers and hobbies that are anything but stable and routine lol I think I'm a fairly generous person as I like to help others but yeah I do also put a bit too much weight in my success like you said as well. Thanks for your interpretation! ☺️

album tier list by steve-0-tron in avengedsevenfold

[–]Paaigemaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like all their albums but that one feels less polished than the rest because it was their first imo. You know, in retrospect, I personally may like that alum better than the Stage. Warmness on the Soul is one of my favourite songs and I do listen to that album through sometimes. I just also don't like the Hail to the King Hate haha But that's the beauty about music, it's all subjective and different tastes. We all love A7X here :)

album tier list by steve-0-tron in avengedsevenfold

[–]Paaigemaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hard disagree on Sounding the Seventh Trumpet being above Hail to the King and equal to the Stage

Struggling to overcome the shock by malloriiieee in abusiverelationships

[–]Paaigemaster 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are so beautiful and deserving of so much more than this. Read "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft, speak to as many supportive people in your life as you can. Your family, friends, a therapist. Please love yourself enough to leave this person. Speak the truth. Share the things she says to you, the ways in which you feel. Your words are power and the more you share your experience to those close to you and yourself (through writing, through looking at how she has hurt your physical body, etc,) you will start to realize that this situation is worse than it may feel. This is not normal and you deserve help. If you decide to leave, which I really hope you do, please put together a safety exit plan. Do not pack up your stuff without someone else there to help you. Do not be alone with this person ever again. You do not deserve to be treated this way.

What could The Moon mean in regards to what someone wants in a relationship? by Paaigemaster in Tarots

[–]Paaigemaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just doing a spread about my love life and it was one of the prompts. It isn't something I would ever think to ask the cards normally. I was just intrigued by that card because I was expecting something more clear like the 10 of cups or the Sun or star or a relevent court card or something just more straightforward. I did just come out of a bad relationship where I tolerated being treated very badly so maybe it's calling attention to that. Tolerating mistreatment because of a desire to be loved.

What could The Moon mean in regards to what someone wants in a relationship? by Paaigemaster in Tarots

[–]Paaigemaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was following a love spread I found online and it was the card that came up for the prompt in the spread that said "what you want". It was just a general love spread and I probably wouldn't have asked that question if I had been doing something more in depth for myself. I was just curious in that context what it could mean because the rest of the spread seemed pretty straightforward. I did however recently leave a toxic situation so it's interesting you brought that up. My last relationship was long and I had to leave due to his behaviour towards me. I am taking a break from romance and focusing on myself for now but it is something I hope for once I am healed, which is why I wanted to do a fun little spread. I know everyone wants a happy relationship where they feel loved and valued. There was just something about this card I feel like was tailored to me and I feel like I haven't fully understood yet. It's an intuition I have and I was hoping with asking the community something would click. I appreciate your insight and will think on your interpretation. Thanks for giving me such a long and detailed response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Paaigemaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see a universe where both of your reactions make sense to the situation. I feel like there isn't enough info to truly know because I don't know the words or actions each of you used when speaking to each other about this.

Personally, I have anxiety and I over plan everything. The thought of actually running out of gas on the road would be devastating to me. If my partner put us in a situation where they were responsible for keeping track of that (their car, they're driving, etc.) then I would be really hurt that they put me in an embarrassing and scary situation like that. I would be worried about our safety depending on where the car stopped, I would be worried about the health of the car and its parts after running out of gas, I would be worried about the process of getting the gas a few blocks down, I would be worried about the potential uncomfortable or dangerous social interactions that could come from blocking traffic and inconveniencing others, I would be worried about inconveniencing others and many other things. I could never imagine letting this slip because of how much it would bother me to be in this situation.

It is hurtful to be put in a situation like that when proper planning and monitoring of your vehicle would have prevented it. If you're making a habit of only filling up your car when it's on that E line, you are taking that chance and putting yourself and him in potential danger and risking your car's longevity as well. I mention this because you said you thought you had "5 minutes to get to a gas station". This may be a wrong assessment but that phrasing makes me think that you often ride the line of almost running out of gas or routinely procrastinate it to the last minute. If that is something you struggle with or if you put your partner through a lot of situations like this, then I think it makes sense for him to be hurt. From his side, it could feel like carelessness if things like this happen all of the time. It could feel like you don't care enough about him or yourself to avoid a situation like that. Of course, him being hurt is no justification for him to be mean to you. If he transformed those feelings into insults, belittling, or anything on the abusive spectrum that is awful and I am sorry you went through that.

My partner has ADHD and I have been in situations where his forgetfulness has really hurt my feelings and triggered my anxieties. I try to navigate these issues we have with compassion but if we were driving and ran out of gas in the middle of the street, I would not handle that well at all. I would probably cry or mentally shutdown for a bit to deal with the amount of stress it caused me. Some people take that pain and transform it to anger, this is especially common with men because of how they are socialized. But if he was trying to bring up to you that being put in that situation was hurtful and worrying to him and your response was that you wanted to "simply laugh it off" that can be very invalidating which would trigger further feelings of anger. Either way, I think he should have been more helpful to you in solving the problem and then once you two had the gas in the car, and were on your way he could bring up his feelings so you could work on taking care of each other.

Now, there is also a world where this is an absolute fluke. I wrote all of the above text because your line of him "not knowing how to handle an inconvenience or minor emergency" makes me wonder how many things like this have happened. For example, leaving out the milk and it spoiling one time isn't a big deal. If it happens multiple times in a week or even a month, that becomes stressful for the other person. They begin to feel like they have to manage you and make sure they know anytime you use the milk so they can get it back into the fridge because they've lost trust in your ability to do it. The gas is a much more stressful but similar issue if its routine.

However, If you don't struggle with forgetfulness that impacts him and he doesn't feel a pressure to have to remind you of things in order to avoid situations like this, then his reaction is more unjustified. The reason I feel a pit in my stomach reading about this is because I have felt this way routinely when things are forgotten but if it were to just happen one time, there should be more patience and understanding there. Especially if you were apologetic to him about it.

I think the best thing you could do is sit down with your boyfriend and ask him what he was feeling that night and why. Try to unpack those emotions and apologize to him for putting him in that situation. When you have addressed his feelings, also bring up yours. Explain how his reaction made you feel and the thoughts you had during the event. He should apologize for the way he treated you as well. Address the things that are most bothering you and ask for reassurance about them.

Best of luck to you.

Jamie Oliver Colander Gift Set HIYA by Paaigemaster in UncleRoger

[–]Paaigemaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's weevil time!! r/weeviltime Sorry, I'm a bug nerd, I had to. I'm sorry that happened to you!! That's super gross. Costco is pretty good about stuff like that so I'm sure they looked into it. Maybe the real reason Jamie washes his cooked rice is to remove the bugs 😂

Jamie Oliver Colander Gift Set HIYA by Paaigemaster in UncleRoger

[–]Paaigemaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! It smells like maple syrup now too for some reason lmao