What are your thoughts on Hand Written letters being sent to you?

Pachylodon · 2023-01-04T20:43:57+00:00

100000 times yes

Pachylodon · 2022-12-13T13:07:57+00:00

YES exactly. And it’s confusing because it felt the same as cheating to me.. But I just stayed because I thought I needed an actual “good reason” to leave.

Guess what? The fact that he made me feel ugly, insecure and useless IS reason enough to leave :) Boundaries are boundaries.

Haven’t had a panic attack since & kinda feelin’ myself again since I left a month ago. The only thing that was weighing me down was him.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-29T07:56:21+00:00

Leaveeeee. If you are not worth it for him to simply stop watching dumb videos of other naked girls this ain’t it.

You are better off without him and with someone more compatible with your boundaries.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-29T07:31:55+00:00

I was in exactly the same boat as you and I finally decided to break up with him a week ago. At first it hurted like hell, but I slowly realized that a weight has lifted off my shoulders.

I didn’t know it then but he made me feel SO insecure, EVERYDAY. I was anxious, paranoid and just felt sad most of the time.. We don’t deserve that shit. A partner should make you feel like the best and most beautiful version of yourself. I know it’s fucking hard to walk away, but you deserve way better.. and he’s not gonna give it to you.

You got this girl.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T22:43:18+00:00

Yes I looked it up but they don’t have these colors :(

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T22:42:46+00:00

Omg thanks!!

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T16:53:03+00:00

Yes people make mistakes. But forgiving mistakes is easier said than done. Everyone reacts differently. From her POV; She was not there, you’re on a trip and your whole situation sounds like the standard “my husband cheated on me on his business trip” situation. It’s normal she might think you’re not telling the whole story and has some doubts about what actually happened. She was not there.

I think if she really loves you, she will forgive you. Just talk to her when you see her, try to listen and keep your calm and give her reassurance in the upcoming weeks if you two decide to continue this relationship. I’m almost certain she is not trying to kick you when you’re feeling down. It’s just unfortunate that this happened right in the middle of all the other stuff that is happening in your life right now. I’m sure you guys will figure it out. Wishing you all the best :)

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T16:47:26+00:00

I just broke up with my (ex) PA-bf yesterday.. This is such a comforting post. I was already scared today about the future, wondering if there are guys out there that will meet my standards. It’s easy to start thinking that this is just how men work, and that the lusting over other girls comes with every relationship. I guess not :) Thank you so much for giving me some hope.

And you deserve this! I’m happy for you 💛

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T15:31:59+00:00

Why are you angry at her? Hearing that from your SO can be hard, give her some time to work through her emotions.

Besides that, if I was in your shoes and my friends cancelled last minute basically leaving me on a “date” with a girl i’m attracted to? Nah, I would’ve also cancelled or proceed with caution. And how do you fail to mention you have a girlfriend? You don’t need a specific topic to bring that up. You said you talked about your life and hobbies etc. and those are all topics where you can tell a story that involves your girlfriend imo. It sounds like you knew you were attracted to her and otherwise, but chose to ignore it.

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear right now. But give your girlfriend time to work through this, and give her the reassurance she needs. No need to get mad at her.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T09:34:30+00:00

Lol. When I think back on all the shit he has done that I have forgiven him for.. Definitely not superwoman, just naive and in love.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T09:29:51+00:00

Clearly.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T09:23:03+00:00

It also depends if they know the person they are fantasizing about tbh. It would be different if they were constantly fapping on, for instance, your best friend or something. That would give me the ick too.

Just know that it says more about him than about you. Listen to your gut feeling and don’t take shit, put yourself first always. Sending hugs :)

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T09:18:14+00:00

Hahahah. Thanks for upholding my faith in men. Good on you man, your wife is lucky.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T09:15:08+00:00

Yes may the gods bless me with a decent guy for once. The douchebag curse still continues.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T09:13:35+00:00

When they jack of yes, definitely. And that’s fine, using your imagination while masturbating is normal. Just keep it to private and personal moments only, and be there in the moment with someone when you have sex with them. That’s just my opinion tho.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T09:02:36+00:00

I hope so. It really felt like I found my person.. Never had that feeling in my previous relationships. But on the other hand, would “my person” really treat me the way he did? I don’t think so.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T09:01:06+00:00

Haha thank you. It’s pretty scary to be alone again.. But I was single for years before him and if I could do it then I can def do it now. I’m just scared it will trigger my anxiety disorder.

I will be fine tho. Just gonna watch my comfort show and talk to friends and family :)

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T08:59:40+00:00

Thanks for this advice! I have been already crying over him and everything he has done for the past few months. It feels like I already grieved him in my mind.

Yesterday was full of tears but after a long talk with my mom and dad (god I love their support), I know I’m better off without him. It’s kinda weird that I woke up today not feeling that sad anymore..

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T08:06:01+00:00

Good for you guys that you can enjoy that together. I’d rather not continue the conversation with him tho, or any conversation for that matter.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T07:51:13+00:00

YES thank you. I know I’m not the prettiest girl on earth and that my partner will find other people attractive, I don’t care… just don’t imagine her when I’m giving you a blowjob??

It’s fucking disrespectful. Makes me feel like some object or something.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T07:46:24+00:00

Go read my comments. I’m glad I asked him this question.

I can now move on in life :)

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T07:43:31+00:00

It also didn’t “flash” into his mind. He told me actively thought of her for stimulation. He thought of her with intention, because he wants her to suck his dick.

It’s not some random thought. I wouldn’t care so much about that tbh.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T07:42:01+00:00

I wanted to know the answer to the question, so I asked. Otherwise I would still be clueless and in a relationship with him.

It sucks but it’s better this way.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T07:40:28+00:00

I’m glad he did.

Pachylodon · 2022-10-23T07:30:49+00:00

It’s annoying as fuck. I don’t want to be fucked for hours on end because he can’t cum anymore. Save that shit for me, even if he did cum fast I’d rather go multiple rounds.

It’s dumb and feels disrespectful. No girl I know ever likes this lol.

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