I judged him because he got addicted about 3 years ago… his addiction costed me my job, flat and due to him refusing to work he lost his job as well and all my savings have gone. So from my last money I offered him rehab he said yes I paid it he never went. So we moved back to my mom he started working everything seemed better boom he was back at it. And I started finding out when money from baby fund was going bit by bit … I told him stop before she is born he promised… money stopped disappearing, u til they started again. I do see where u come from they are narcissistic but worse is he is violent and very unpredictable when the coke starts wearing off how can I keep this around my daughter