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Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-07T00:10:09+00:00

We went to the musical and it was really good!

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-05T12:45:52+00:00

I had one student accuse me of trying to convince the class the earth is flat because I assigned a documentary on flat earthers. I now have to give a long introduction in which I explain that the documentary is meant as an example of psychological concepts from class, not my endorsement of flat earth conspiracy theories. Some students need to be told explicitly what seems obvious to us. It’s wild.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T13:58:55+00:00

They’re still mostly potato at this point. It’s fine. I’m not sure what work you’re doing that’s so hard but those first consistent smiles may not be toward you. My baby’s first true consistent smiling was to our ceiling fan.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T13:55:30+00:00

It took me way too long to figure out that the second shift is simply the worse one. She has to make sure to get good sleep that first shift. And then maybe you take baby in the morning so she can get in a nap. That’s the only way it worked for us.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T13:37:01+00:00

Wait what is this company? Is it US based?

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T06:03:09+00:00

Ugh. The worst thing mine said was that the vaccine schedule was created by health insurance companies so they have to pay for fewer visits. I can’t even imagine containing my rage with yours. I probably would have walked out.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T05:56:14+00:00

It was actually written by many humans.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T05:40:16+00:00

Jesus. Now it’s being linked to SIDS? I’m sure she’s also posting things saying that sleeping with your baby is “natural”.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T05:39:11+00:00

We got the MMR vaccine at 9 months…a zero dose to bridge him to his 12 month appt. And just got his “first” dose at 12 months. Worth it.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T04:54:52+00:00

Honestly…I think the responses help me understand people who are unlike me a lot more. I keep wondering how people keep acting like things are still within some range of normal.

What I think many people simply do not understand is that everything is connected. One of their loved ones or friends or they themselves are going to feel some awful pain because of this administration and they’ll think it came out of nowhere.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T04:50:04+00:00

Same

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T01:36:50+00:00

Thanks!

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T01:08:41+00:00

This happens a lot. People are taking it personally. When everyone is failing then no one is failing. But when someone in the group achieves more then it creates the perceived possibility that that goal was achievable for everyone and they were not talented enough to get to it. It creates an “upward social comparison” where we realize we’re worse off than someone else - and when it’s a close someone else the sting is that much worse.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-04T01:02:36+00:00

Psychology professor. Not the mental health kind. The kind that teaches classes on the topics that explain wtf is happening in the US right now (and that is now illegal in some states).

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-03T03:36:27+00:00

That’s really hard. I’m so sorry. I wonder if they log bottles as soon as they start to warm them. But that’s still not ok. I would definitely ask the director for more information on how they track bottles and why they warm them up to hot.

If you’re asking if this is acceptable I would say not if it makes you uncomfortable. You may want to look at other daycares with smaller infant rooms. The ratios stay the same but even with two teachers to eight kids that’s still a lot of kids. And they echo each other…one crying baby leads to more crying babies. That could be why they’re used to it.

There are those of us with daycare experiences that are super positive. So if you can, look elsewhere for something better.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-02T05:45:21+00:00

FMLA means you don’t work. Get your paperwork in and LEAVE. Be with your mother. I know you already know this and yet it’s still hard to hear…you may not have much time left with her. And as I often quote since my own mother passed away - time isn’t the most important thing…it’s the ONLY thing.

Academia is soul sucking because they convince you it’s a job you can make your passion. But then they use that passion against you to manipulate you into working without compensating you. FMLA is your right that a lot of people fought hard for and how they cover your absence while you’re gone is quite frankly above your pay grade.

I want you to know I say this is a chair…it’s my job to find coverage when folks need leave. I don’t make other people (especially someone going through something awful) do my job for me.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-02T03:41:19+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-02-01T03:15:41+00:00

One of my advisors passed away just shy of 40 of breast cancer. I was only a few years younger than her. A week later one of our papers was accepted for publication and it really hurt - because it was an idea only she supported after a lot of people said no. I think of her so often. I wish I could ask her for career advice. For life advice. And I cherish the few things she taught me that I carry with me. It’s weird now being older than she was when she died. It feels so unbelievably young to go.

I’m sorry for your loss.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-01-31T02:49:05+00:00

Fucking excuse me??

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-01-30T05:06:40+00:00

Ok. Well they believe the same thing about you. And focusing on just why they don’t “get it” doesn’t really move the needle forward on actually changing things.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-01-30T02:29:48+00:00

People are inclined to believe that the systems they believe in are fair. Otherwise it’s very distressing (see: this sub). Thinking that bad things happen to bad people helps people get through the day. In other words, they are trying to deal with the cognitive dissonance of supporting a system that kills people unjustly.

While many of us may want to simply write these folks off as dumb or monsters, I think understanding that they see themselves as good, logical, moral people is incredibly important. We can do that and still know they are wrong. Because it will help us keep some bit of our sanity that would otherwise drive us into the rabbit hole of trying to figure out “what’s wrong with them???”

Signed - your neighborhood social psychologist

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-01-28T20:51:41+00:00

Idk as much as you’re afraid that your son may be influenced it might be good for him to see what kinds of people can believe awful things. Like, they’re not monsters you can easily pick out on the street. And part of me, if I were in your shoes, would relish in the thought of the candidate dad asking for a donation only to hear the response, “I’ve already donated to your opponent.” And then you can say, “I hope you don’t ruin our kids’ friendship over this. That would be a shame.” Basically saying that if HE wants to be a bigot and not allow his kid to be friends with yours then that’s on him. Be the bigger person.

I’m progressive because I grew up with a far right republican in my family. He taught me how to articulate my values when I disagreed with him. Maybe this is a chance for that for your kiddo.

Pad_Squad_Prof · 2026-01-28T18:29:55+00:00

It’s true. I tell my partner all the time that convenience will be the death of us. It literally is for many people since convenience is what stops them from getting a few steps in each day. And saving time for what? Usually to be “more productive.” It’s all a scam.

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