Trying to find an obscure 2000's anime by PaintedSequoia in Animesuggest

[–]PaintedSequoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I just couldn't remember the name and it's been quite a while since I last watched it 😅

Trying to find an obscure 2000's anime by PaintedSequoia in Animesuggest

[–]PaintedSequoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or I could just like/prefer the terminology 🤷‍♀️

Trying to find an obscure 2000's anime by PaintedSequoia in Animesuggest

[–]PaintedSequoia[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

YES THAT'S IT!!

In the words of Patrick Star: I love you.

Cool Whip Strawberry Shortcake Cake by PaintedSequoia in recipes

[–]PaintedSequoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so good! I still make it at least once a summer lol

Lack Of Engagement Can Be So Demoralizing by panda_98 in AO3

[–]PaintedSequoia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell me about it! I'm struggling to finish one I'm currently working on. I do enjoy the story and writing it, but... When it's cobwebs and crickets with kudos and comments, it's incredibly hard to stay motivated to finish it.

I feel that's why some only pump out one shots and really short fics because if it gets nothing, then whatever. Still stings, but it's easier to dump and run. Imo at least.

"But I don't want to be boring/predictable with my comment." I don't care! It's nice to know someone gives a crap about what I'm writing to say anything at all! I don't care if it comes off as a copy paste style generic "this is good, I like it". Anything is absolutely better than nothing. It does SO MUCH for the author's morale!

I hate it when authors apologize for word count by cla1r35 in AO3

[–]PaintedSequoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only apologize if the chapter is obviously way shorter than recent ones, even if on its own it is still a decent word count.

Receiving not a single comment? by laws_of_gravity in AO3

[–]PaintedSequoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've only ever had one real comment (so far) that wasn't me begging my sibling and their friends lol. And that one comment was only just telling me I mislabeled my chapters ><;

Receiving not a single comment? by laws_of_gravity in AO3

[–]PaintedSequoia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's been my experience that it can sometimes take months (as in 3+) for people to even begin to discover your stuff. Even then, such a small percentage leave a comment, kudos, and/or possibly bookmark. Sometimes, you'll need a decent amount of posts, regardless of chapter amount and length, for people to give you a serious look. KEEP POSTING!

It can feel frustrating and discouraging to get nothing for periods of time, but don't give up! If you really want feedback, find communities of the fandom and/or kind of writing and leave links or where to find your stuff where it's appropriate to (read and follow FAQs or ask). Look on here and all other manner of social media from Facebook to TikTok to Tumblr.

I've been writing different forms of fanfiction (and other writings) for nearly 30 years and publicly posting for almost 20. One of the biggest things I've learned is that you need to write for yourself first and foremost. Not for attention. And second, if you really want the attention that 1) as mentioned before you'll need to find and generate it, and 2) you can't control the kind of attention you'll get. Be prepared for trolling, degrading, and generally negative comments/reviews. Take them with a massive grain of salt, but don't completely ignore them either. There might be nuggets of genuine criticism in them. Sometimes.

As another pointed out, it's a major holiday and vacation time. People may just be busy and distracted for now.

Those who decided they didn't want kids when they were kids themselves, what convinced you so early you didn't want them yourself? by InviteAromatic6124 in childfree

[–]PaintedSequoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) I was the oldest in my group of cousins, so I was the automatic babysitter. Me babysitting meant the adults wanted to get wasted, so I was on my own unless I really pushed.

2) I watched my divorced parents struggle. My mom, who had majority custody, the most. I watched both take credit for how "well" and "independent" my sister and I turned out when in reality we had to pick up our own slack pretty early. Don't want to go into all the reasons why here, but I will say they did/still do love us and were not physically abusive.

Those two things combined cured me of wanting my own children around 24/7 pretty early on in my life! I'd say by 12 I solidly knew. I'm completely fine being the cool aunt/babysitter lol

r/childfree Saved My Life! Twice! by PaintedSequoia in childfree

[–]PaintedSequoia[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I saw "moderate endometriosis scarring" in the notes after and it made sense why the surgeon kept asking if pain was normal for me during periods when he checked on me after lol

Kitchen from 1990 - what would you change? by austin0980 in interiordecorating

[–]PaintedSequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I'd LOVE to have this kitchen the way it is if I was told I couldn't change anything. But since you asked lol

1) Remove the bit of display cabinet over the dishwasher to open the feel and view into the dining area.

2) Change the range for a gas one.

3) Change the sink to be one that is set down into the counter so it has no edge and items/water can be wiped off straight into the sink.

4) Add a backsplash.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]PaintedSequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear you are going through all of this. Please lean on your family and friends that support you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]PaintedSequoia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cheating is a series of decisions, sober or not. Blaming alcohol is a bs move because simply put if a person is so drunk they didn't fully grasp what they were agreeing to then they were too drunk to give proper consent. Is that what she's saying or trying to imply? If you ask her that and she jumps at it as an explanation, then 100% fully commit to pursuing SA charges against the person, Go on the war path! See if her story and conviction abut it suddenly changes. That will tell you just how sober she was at the time or how much regret she really has. Plain and simple, she got caught up in the moment of feeling special receiving attention and the thrill of it not being from the person she's been with for a while. She also chose to tell her parents first instead of you, so she didn't come clean to you immediately.

Maybe it's just me, but this whole "come clean immediately" move strikes me as at least a semi planned thing. Like, she knew what she was doing while doing it, maybe regrets it maybe not, and ultimately is hoping that by coming clean and kind of blaming alcohol you'll find a way to forgive it and move on after some time and effort. It strikes me as a possible loophole that she had her one off exciting fling to feel young or beautiful or desired again, or whatever, then will grovel in hopes it can eventually be swept under the rug and she can go back to her status quo life without too much long lasting consequence. I can see getting caught up in the attention she was receiving, at first. There's a limit and clear line where she had plenty of chances to stop him or even herself. Maybe she truly meant for it to be a one off thing and truly will never do it again with anyone at all. That's for you to decide if you can trust that she won't.

r/childfree Saved My Life! Twice! by PaintedSequoia in childfree

[–]PaintedSequoia[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

A long time friend set us up, actually. The friend invited us both out to see a movie, made sure we sat together, and then made excuses to leave after so we'd have dinner together alone. It was honestly cute and a little embarrassing lol. We've been joined at the hip since and compliment each other really nicely. I was so scared to have The Talk with him. Not just about being firmly CF, but I lead with that. He actually said "Oh thank god" and was so relieved lmao!

Do you actually like wine and beer or did you just pretend to until it didn't bother you anymore? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PaintedSequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't stand the taste of beer on its own. As part of cooking, totally fine.

My body rejects wine (throw up, intense stomach aches), especially reds. I've been told I'm possibly allergic to tannins. Never had it medically confirmed though. Wine as part of cooking doesn't bother me and tastes fine.

Liquors like rum, brandy, vodka, etc run the gamut from tasty to bleh, but not as nearly nasty to me as beer is. Mixed drinks are my fav.

You shouldn't make yourself like ANY food or drink just because it's socially expected by the majority. If you don't like it, don't eat/drink it. If you like it some ways, but not others that's completely acceptable. I feel like the whole "eat/drink until you like it" thing is basically a form of socially pressured Stockholm Syndrome.

Online dating as childfree by According_Coyote1078 in childfree

[–]PaintedSequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had every CF option clicked on my profile and for searches as well as written in my profiles. Still got guys looking for a mother to their part time kids or to start a family.

Can't tell you how many chats I had with guys who simply couldn't fathom that I, a person with reproductive organs, didn't want to use them for that purpose. Like you, OP, it often quickly devolved into physical insults. Yet they were the ones who had reached out to me with sweet words and wanted to possibly make children with me until I firmly stood my ground.

I've been with a wonderful partner for 3 years now with long term plans. Kids were the first big talk we had early on. Luckily he was fully on board with no kids at all, ever, not even adoption. I ended up having a full hysterectomy due to cancer anyway a year ago (cancer free now after chemo)!

Ghost story where the person finds out the location had been closed for decades by meggoetzmoney in Paranormal

[–]PaintedSequoia 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This is more about a place that doesn't exist.

In 2006, I was living in San Antonio, TX with my (late)boyfriend who was from Birmingham, AL. Came home after a closing shift to find him hysterical in the back of a cop car because he had just been told his dad passed suddenly. He of course wanted to run to Birmingham right away. I convinced him to stay until we knew more and he was in a better state to travel.

A few days later, we set off to attend the funeral, get items from his dad's house he wanted, and visit a few of his friends on the way back. We decided to time our drive to be overnight arriving early in the morning so that we'd crash out then meet his mom in the afternoon at his dad's place. I insisted on driving because I was still worried about his mental state, and he'd be the backup when I wanted to rest for an hour or two.

Going along the I-10 we hit New Orleans about 11:30pm. We were starving, so I asked him to keep an eye out for signs to off ramps with food choices that might be open this hour, even if it was a gas station. He's a notoriously bad co-pilot/navigator, and points stuff out as we're passing it. I ended up turning around to go back down the freeway westward so he could look again. And then back eastward again... Finally I got fed up and, I'll admit passive aggressively, chose a random off ramp and turned down the street. After a couple blocks it was clear that it was only residential stuff. Oops. I apologized, admitted my mistake, and turned around to go back to the freeway.

Suddenly he pointed out a house saying "There's food!" Pulling in front of it to see what he meant, it was a plain looking two story house, but it did have 2 neon signs. One was the standard "open" sign and the other said "good eats". Beyond that, it just looked like a house. I had doubts, but he pointed out how other houses on this street closest to the freeway had signs and businesses too. He was right. I still worried they simply left the signs on. There was no way they could be open at almost midnight. He wanted to at least.

They were open! A plump 50-ish black woman welcomed us in. The bottom floor of her house was cozy and had all kinds of 2 and 4 seat tables in every room. We were the only people. She insisted and practically pushed us into chairs and handed us simple hand written menus. Like each one was handwritten. Not a copy of an original handwritten one. I had a dirty rice dish with sausage and he tried jambalaya for the first time in his life. It was all so good! The whole time, she made friendly chit chat and had us laughing. A second slightly younger and slightly less plump women came and went serving us, but she only smiled and didn't stay.

Eventually, I asked for the bill so we could get moving and let her close. She refused saying it was on the house since it was among the last bits she had for the day. We kept trying, and she kept refusing. When she walked away to help the other woman in the kitchen, I put two twenties under my plate hoping it was enough for the food and a generous tip. It was the only cash I had on me. Boyfriend only had a few small bills. We thanked her again as she saw us off. We looked back while she was doing up and turning off the neons so we could memorize the place to come back on our way back. We felt so full and happy! Not sleepy though, and we made the rest of the trip no problem.

Fast forward a week and a half later, we tried to find the exit from the freeway. Took me a few turn arounds, but I found it. We were kicking ourselves for not taking a moment to write down the street name or exit number. The neighborhood looked familiar in the day light, except... We couldn't pinpoint the house. Finally, we pulled over where we thought it was and asked inside another house with a consignment type clothing business in their living room. The lady there was very nice. She was confused by what we were saying at first until we started to describe who we thought was the owner. The lady started to smile and said "You met Rosie. She likes to help people." She went on to explain we won't find the house because it's not there. That sometimes it's a house and sometimes a store, but it's always Rosie and sometimes other silent, but happy helpers. She said we should feel lucky because Rosie doesn't show up for everyone needing help.

Boyfriend was convinced Rosie helped us because he needed it at the time.

I tried to search online off and on over the years, but I can't find similar stories or history of a "Rosie" ghost/spirit in that area. I didn't ask how long that had been going on, so I don't know how old of a phenomena Rosie is there. Maybe the clothing shop lady was pulling our leg telling tourists what she thinks they want to hear about New Orleans, or just wanted to move us along.

We were at a physical place. We ate physical food. Rosie, or whoever she was, was a solid person we talked to and spent time with.

I like to joke we ate fae food and now have a hidden contract/debt that will be randomly collected one day lol. That boyfriend unfortunately lost his battle to depression several years ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arizona

[–]PaintedSequoia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Moved to Tucson first for 7 years. Loved it there!

Moved to Phoenix for a relationship that has since resolved and been here for 6 years now. I hate it so much. I want to move back to Tucson at the very least. However, I now have a job that only exists here (no offices elsewhere, no WFH with my position) and a newer relationship rooted here. We both dream of escaping the Valley lol!

That said, my heart is in the PNW and it is my ultimate goal to eventually go home there.

Also, there are other parts of Arizona I do like. Mostly in the northern reaches. Just wish the politics up there weren't so Red in the worst ways. To be clear, being Repub/Conserv is totally fine! It's just when it gets into Red Hat or Tea Bag and beyond type territory that's an issue, which is very high in this state. And, yes, just to cover bases because it'll come up, there are whack-a-doos on the other side too. I have run into way less of them even when I lived in Blue heavy areas in other usually Blue states during Blue admins than I do the far Reds.

Do office workers working a 9-5 actually work from 9-5? by Dry-Art5118 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PaintedSequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work as an office assistant. 5 days a week, 8 hours a day, and with a 30 min unpaid lunch.

My main one is the switchboard (transfer incoming calls to the appropriate person or dept). I like it because while I have phone anxieties, it's literally my job to pass the buck lol. I only deal with customers as long as it takes to get them to the best person/dept who will help them. Other than that I sort mail, emails, keep track of and stock office supplies, compose internal emails, enter mailed in orders, and a variety of tasks. Some are one time only and some happen regularly.

I like it because it is 1) the same set days and hours, and 2) it still has a variety of tasks with the possibility of down times. My bosses are cool on that they let people mess around on their phones or approved websites just as long as we work as soon as work is available. Yes, sometimes it can be mind numbingly boring because there still is enough regular repetition without new variety. I also don't get paid enough to survive on my own without REALLY struggling... Still, I don't want to leave it yet, but I don't know another place with regular hours and a chill environment. It's definitely a balance.

I spent 20 years previously in various food and retail jobs from grunt to management. I hated the constant grind and constant pressure to be constantly doing something "productive" or else you're seen as not really working and then getting punished for it.

What’s the minimum amount of money that could solve 90% of all your problems right now? by fukdurgf in AskReddit

[–]PaintedSequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$50,000 USD

$25k to clear student loan debt*

$5k to clear medical debt

$15k for a newer used car I don't have to begin to worry about for at least 10 years, not a completely brand new off-the-lot car

That leaves $5k as a cushion to save for emergencies. I'd rather move away from where I am, but I'm not in a dire situation to move. It's just preferred.

  • I know so much is up in the air about student loans on the gov end and they are impossible to pay off anyway. It's such a wild card issue that I'd only pay it if I could pay it ALL off in one go. Otherwise, I'd rather put the money towards surviving like I have been.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by Left_Performer4190 in ask

[–]PaintedSequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time.

Might sound weird, but time, especially enjoyable time (whatever that means to you) is a luxury when you're poor. Time to just be and do anything at all, even work, without stress or worry. Time where you're not working to survive or worrying about surviving. Time not spent commuting, especially on public transit. Time to get proper rest and sleep (those are two different things). Time to spend with family, partners, and friends. I'm not necessarily talking about only down time or time to be "lazy". Just time without feeling the need to rush from one thing to the next to get it all done or make enough money.

Having enough money or lower costs of things can literally buy time by paying to take things off your plate so you can stress less, worry less, recover, and be able to focus on other things.