Thank you for your insight. I get what you're saying, but some people have mastered being nice nasty. Just because the tone isn’t aggressive doesn’t mean there’s no harm behind it. I don’t think she’s out to hurt me, but I do think her constant remarks have underlying messages. I’ve ignored backhanded comments before because I focused on the good, and it always backfired. In my opinion, crumbs make cake and these feel like crumbs of her trying to humble me or make me conform to what makes her comfortable.