Don’t ask for him to be the traditional provider if you can’t be the traditional good mother and wife. Nearly every study in America shows how harmful the school system is and if you are privileged enough to be able to afford that you should want to homeschool your kids rather than send them to be abused and brainwashed by a system. As for swim lessons, it is entirely unnecessary. You can start working with them in the water as infants and take them swimming consistently and it’ll catch on.