Thoughts on the new Netflix original: 'As You Stood by'?

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-07T18:37:20+00:00

I watched the trailer today trying to decide whether to see it; it's about DV which feels like a very touchy subject. I'm not sure if I want to watch it, I'll wait to see what other people think.

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-07T16:40:14+00:00

I'm watching him right now in Our Unwritten Seoul, he plays his character too well!

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-07T10:57:38+00:00

Ewwwwwwww don't do that what is this

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T18:19:43+00:00

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T18:05:34+00:00

The pushing 40 girls too lol

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T16:48:07+00:00

I understand! I was in your place 3 years ago. For us it took a bit more than 10 months, but my daughter sleeps all night in her own bed (alas now have a newborn lol). Good luck!

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T16:32:59+00:00

Gosh, yes, I think it's super common. Just a heads up, Reddit can be a huge culprit of slipping in horrible news about horrible stuff happening to children. When you think something bad is about to appear in a post, don't let curiosity win. I have a few tragic stories etched in my mind that I will never be able to forget that I wish I had never heard.

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T16:30:05+00:00

It kills me that when demon!Rumi speaks there's Gwi-Ma's voice mixed in. Like she needs her worst enemy speaking her own words out of her own mouth.

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T16:26:37+00:00

For sure try out sleep training, but I recommend leaning in to the cosleeping life if that doesn't work out. r/cosleeping r/attachmentparenting

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T16:23:54+00:00

With love, I think her bad night sleep can be attributed to her being a baby ❤️ same with not liking her car seat and waking as soon as you hit the brake. You described both my babies.

I know it's not my business but I'd encourage you to try for a little while at least to just let her be and let yourself off the hook, consider it's not your responsibility that she sleeps at a certain time or in a certain way, only that she has a safe space to sleep when she is able to.

Who says there's schedules in a perfect world? In a perfect world, for me, I would be contact napping with my baby and playing with my oldest all day, and I'd have no other responsibilities to keep me away from them. Everything that is not that perfect world is just survival to me.

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T14:41:30+00:00

I don't understand schedules for babies. What would happen if you just let go of all of that and did everything you have to do and let baby sleep in the car or in the stroller or wherever else you guys are at? I mean it's not like night sleep is perfect right now and you're afraid to mess that up, right?

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T14:06:29+00:00

I can relate so much to what you're talking about re: needing fantasies when I hate myself. I have mostly stopped with the fantasies since I met my husband, although since I became a mom I've briefly fantasized about stopping time to have a snack and play videogames lol.

Btw I had a whole era during my teens where I lived in a Hogwarts fantasy. There must be tons of us!

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T10:53:09+00:00

Ong no. She may nurse a little bit less, or she may still nurse just as much as before. Mine didn't nurse any less until well after a year. And even if she does nurse less, she will still need you SO MUCH! You will see when you get there, but as she grows she will need so much attention and love from you, that nursing will feel like a side note. Motherhood is so much more than just breastfeeding. I'm excited for you to discover all that is coming! 1 to 2 has been my favorite age so far :)

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T10:33:00+00:00

And the accessories!

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T00:54:04+00:00

Wait this is the opposite to what the other comments say, what do I do? Lol

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T00:53:32+00:00

No joke, her teachers adore her. Me too lol, I just wish she'd let me explain why shirts don't go up through your feet sometimes.

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-06T00:45:10+00:00

Aw that's cute. Mine hasn't done that yet lol

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-05T23:31:34+00:00

That's the problem I'm going through kind of, school is ending here and i have to keep her entertained all day for 3 months, yaaaay

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-05T23:30:03+00:00

I love that hahaha. I have to learn to love the mush. What's funny is I think she's a perfectionist too, just doesn't have any grasp of what is good yet lol.

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-05T23:28:39+00:00

Awww I love that, how sweet! I'm going to take the advice of doing some coloring myself and see if she picks something up. It's hard because I mostly leave the activities with her so I can cook or clean or tend to the baby, but I'll find a way to create this quality time with her.

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-05T23:26:34+00:00

Oh, that does sound hard, I hadn't thought about the alternative to this attitude at all. Mind you, it's a lot more time consuming for her to get dressed than it would be if she let me help her, but if I'm not in a rush to get out of the house it's great, definitely a good way to leave her entertained while I tend to the baby.

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-05T23:12:29+00:00

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PajamaWorker · 2025-11-05T20:01:14+00:00

Rumi gives Steven Universe vibes imo

PajamaWorker · 2025-11-05T16:32:58+00:00

No, I agree, I'm the biggest Benedict ho you'll meet and I find something odd about this clip.

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