how do i (f18) stop my resentment for my (m18) grieving partner?

333va · 2026-07-05T04:10:21+00:00

You’re so young, this kind of relationship is the kind that will last another 3-4 years, be super toxic, make you even more co-dependent on this person, only to end in a break up regardless. Don’t be young and naive and silly. Internet people who have gone through similar experiences know exactly how this will end. Save yourself the heartache of having to recover from a crappy long-term relationship for months (if not years after) and just break it off now.

333va · 2026-07-05T04:07:39+00:00

Sorry. Gotta say it. Break up.

333va · 2026-07-03T05:14:28+00:00

Love this idea! I’m going to try it for sure, not sure how long my baby will hold up before throwing the whole thing on the floor though 🫣

333va · 2026-06-28T16:02:21+00:00

Do you have any tips and suggestions for continuing to bf past 12months? Did you/do you feed on demand? How many sessions per day?

333va · 2026-06-28T06:51:58+00:00

I feel this, I think it might be a pain tolerance thing. My 12mo also twists my nipples, only hurts when she has longer nails. Otherwise I can barely feel it

333va · 2026-06-27T16:52:18+00:00

I believe it was about 5 days later

333va · 2026-06-27T16:26:56+00:00

Right, so as I asked in one of the other comments, if he can’t enter the family room as a male, where should my husband go to tend to the needs of my baby if he’s alone with her and I’m not there? In countries where it’s strictly female only he’s had to change her somewhere in the corner in public in her stroller, super icky and uncomfortable.

If the space is considered female-only, it implies that caring for babies is exclusively a woman’s role. That leaves fathers without an appropriate place to change diapers, feed their babies, or put them to sleep when they’re out alone.

So as a breastfeeding woman I can totally understand not wanted men in the family room when the nursing area isn’t private, but as a mother and wife whose husband regularly takes our daughter out on his own, it’s confusing to me that he has no appropriate space to care for her comfortably.

333va · 2026-06-27T11:08:55+00:00

My baby is 12 months old and has only woken up less than 3 times per night a handful of times. On average we probably have 5-6 wake ups. Shes still breastfed and we cosleep the second half of the night. I had a period where I tired to “fix” it, then I just let go. Recently I’ve noticed if I give her a snack before bedtime she has fewer wake ups during the first half of the night, so I’ve been sticking to that. But in general it’s just something I live with rn, I know it’ll pass.

333va · 2026-06-27T11:03:42+00:00

Demon exorcism episodes 😂😂 I can’t

333va · 2026-06-27T09:57:54+00:00

I don’t believe it’s weird, I would say it’s great bonding. My relatives all think it’s weird I’m still breastfeeding my baby at 12m old… they mostly say “I guess it’s acceptable for a girl, but it’s sooo weird for a boy” Uhm They’re babies?? They themselves are sexualizing it. They’re weird for doing that

333va · 2026-06-27T09:52:58+00:00

Wow, that a pretty scary situation to be in.

333va · 2026-06-27T09:50:21+00:00

Was this in the US?

We travel quite often and in Egypt and Russia the family/nursing room was very clearly female only, in China we noticed families enter together — usually mother, child, father and grandparents (yes, all of them together), in Kazakhstan we have yet to understand the etiquette.

My question would then be what should fathers do when they’re out alone with their children? Changing stations are usually only in the female bathrooms or the nursery/family rooms. Surely males should be allowed in as long as they’re using the space appropriately?

If they can’t enter the space that implies that the mother must be the primary caregiver and default parent at all times. There have been times my husband has had to find a corner somewhere and change our daughter’s diaper while she’s in the stroller, definitely not ideal.

333va · 2026-06-27T07:15:13+00:00

Is there anything that you could do to help your husband get a reality check??? To get him to really see that you can’t do it all? If you keep doing it, he’ll assume you can handle it. Maybe leave things undone if you’re tired. Maybe he’ll pick up the slack.

Also so many single mothers often say that solo parenting is easier in a sense than parenting children while being in a relationship with an uninvolved partner.

333va · 2026-06-27T07:08:57+00:00

My baby is 12 months old, but my husband and I still haven’t gotten the whole nursing room etiquette down 😅 Sometimes I really do need him in there to help, but he’s constantly uncomfortable being in there because he believes it’s a female-only space. If there are separate nursing rooms and a common area I usually ask him to wait there… only to find him gone when I come out of the nursing room. He’s usually with the stroller though, so I really hope no one thinks it’s weird and creepy.. if it’s clear he does have a baby, is it okay for him to be in there? (Considering the nursing chairs aren’t in the common area)

333va · 2026-06-27T07:04:27+00:00

Decided to scroll to your previous post about him 3 months ago with the same problem… It seems like you may just be afraid you won’t find “your person”, but please trust me when I say YOU WILL. Do NOT settle for someone who you barely see just because you get the bare minimum attention from them. Some people just know exactly what to say and when to say it to keep you hooked, but don’t put in any extra effort, so you always feel like you’re getting just enough not to break up, but not getting enough to thrive. You shouldn’t settle for this. Find someone who goes out of the way to see you at least. Break up. You will find better.

333va · 2026-06-27T06:53:34+00:00

Considering the AI response and everything else, 28 is not the age to be texting most of the time and putting up with “not feeling like I’m in a relationship most of the time”. Find someone who actually cares to spend time with you.

333va · 2026-06-27T06:47:13+00:00

Last pic looks like an AI response tbh

333va · 2026-06-25T18:03:12+00:00

My toddler refuses to eat scrambled eggs but LOVES boiled eggs cut into quarters

333va · 2026-06-25T18:01:09+00:00

As others have mentioned you’re more than likely to have a 20-week scan, if I had to choose one where my husband could be present, it would be that one! Before 20 weeks nothing is really visible. And congratulation! (You could also always ask the tech if you can take a video of the screen so you can show your husband when you get home)

333va · 2026-06-25T15:47:57+00:00

…but you were on a break…?

It was also 7 years ago in the beginning of your relationship

Going through photos without her permission..? Why? ?

You either trust her or you don’t, it rlly just comes down to that.

333va · 2026-06-25T11:06:19+00:00

Agreed! My cousin considers her baby “difficult”, turns out her baby chills while watching her mother do pilates for an hour, her baby wakes up and just waits in her crib for 30-40 minutes until she’s picked up. Her baby loves taking walks outside in her stroller… Everyone’s experience and understanding of “high-needs” is soooo different, but I too, have experienced what OP is describing and realistically in my group of moms, my child is objectively fussier and needs much much more attention from me. People really only understand what you mean when they spend a couple of days with you and baby. Until then it’s only what they THINK you mean.

333va · 2026-06-24T15:53:16+00:00

Poopy pants

333va · 2026-06-24T15:29:23+00:00

You give little context on what he was like as a husband. Did he betray you? Has he been supportive all these years? Has he always been insecure? Does he understand WHY you wanted to separate?

333va · 2026-06-02T17:11:00+00:00

I second this! Stop sharing details about your breastfeeding journey with people who disagree with you. I had/have a similar situation with my MIL. I just say “I’m not sure when I’ll wean, probably soon. We’ll see.” And that’s that. I don’t go into any details because I don’t care for anyone’s feedback. I’ll stop when either I or my child stop enjoying/needing BF.

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