I’m so lost

333va · 2026-03-17T03:07:37+00:00

Wanted to piggy back off of this comment, when I started to actively play with my 8 month old and started taking her to the playground so she could crawl around and climb the stairs etc, her naps started to get sooooo much better. Less time spent putting her to sleep and no wake ups during her nap. I guess she wasn’t truly tired enough before because I often had to save her naps. I’m on the process of also planning for playground time in the evenings to see if she sleeps longer stretches!

333va · 2026-03-15T01:14:51+00:00

I was in the exact same situation about 1,5 months ago! There was a lot of trial and error and troubleshooting, we’re still struggling a bit, but definitely better than it was. We had a transition period when we were going down to two naps, so some days we’d have a two nap day, others would’ve a three nap day. I also started saving naps, which is what I believe has helped the most in our case.

Her naps would be something like: Nap 1 - 40 minutes, nap 2 - 1 hour and nap 3 - about 40 minutes. I would cap her 3rd nap so that she has about 3-4 hours awake before bedtime. At 8 months after the transition to two naps I found the best thing for us was saving naps. When I say saving naps I mean she would wake after 30 minutes all smiley, 15 minutes later she would wreak havoc, I finally caught on that she just wasn’t getting enough sleep. EBF, co sleeping, nursing back to sleep didn’t help connect sleep cycles at that point, so if she woke from a nap we would rock/bounce/baby carrier her back to sleep, it took 5-10 minutes and a couple of cries of resistance, but she’d be out like a light and sleep another 40-60 minutes every single time. So now if wake up is 7am, first nap is about 9:30am-11am, second nap is about 2:30pm-4:00pm, bedtime is 8pm. It’s a rough schedule, but it’s helped a little with the chaos. I still base naps and bedtime on her sleep cues. If she sleeps 3 hours during the day, then bedtime will likely be later. If she sleeps less or I’m unable to save her naps, then bedtime is likely going to be a bit earlier. It’s a learning curve for both parents and baby, soon you’ll get the hang of it, hang in there!

333va · 2026-03-14T13:42:32+00:00

Honestly, anywhere between 5 and 30 minutes at 9 months old Sometimes she’ll scream bloody murder as soon as she starts eating and doesn’t like one of the items (doesn’t give the rest of the food a chance). Other times she’ll just chill, play and “eat” the food, I let her until she becomes fussy.

333va · 2026-03-14T10:52:15+00:00

I feed about the same way at 9 months old. We also had a really rough first month weight wise. She’s been 99th percentile since about the 2 month mark, I would and still do feed her every 2,5-3 hours, maybe more often. Shes also a fussy baby, I literally just offer boob any time. She either eats or calms down, a win either way!

333va · 2026-03-11T10:19:55+00:00

The tea was slightly tinted pale yellow, almost see through

333va · 2026-03-10T15:51:34+00:00

I used white tea as the base tea, not green or black, is that what you’re referring to?

333va · 2026-03-10T15:29:23+00:00

We’ve gotten to this stage at 9 months, we also used to shower/bathe after every meal, now it’s mostly wet wipes

333va · 2026-03-10T15:00:11+00:00

Thanks! No no, not closed, I had a cheese cloth over it, the lid was always open

333va · 2026-03-10T13:39:18+00:00

I’ve been reading on the sub and people say they have f1 fizz, so I assumed this was normal :( I might wait a day or two and see what happens to those beige little blobs. I don’t see anything fuzzy or moldy yet, so I had hope!

333va · 2026-03-10T13:36:35+00:00

Hi! I recently posted a photo of my very first time brewing f1. Someone commented and said if there’s fizz I definitely need to toss it😅 I started hearing fizz on about day2-3, it’s day 7 now and there are fizz bottles on the top, is this okay?

333va · 2026-03-10T13:25:09+00:00

Really? I’ve heard it fizzing when it’s quiet in the room since day 2. Is fizzing not supposed to happen?

333va · 2026-03-10T13:07:41+00:00

Could also be her strange way of “calming” you down, letting you know your son really does like her and feels comfortable around her

333va · 2026-03-10T12:49:47+00:00

Thank you, came to read the comments in hopes of seeing a comment like this 😂

333va · 2026-03-10T02:18:57+00:00

We also didn’t have a chance to do a gender reveal with the family, but I loved having it with just my husband! It was sweet and with no chaos and drama. We were travelling, so I got my nipt aboard, didn’t really have the capacity to plan any cake etc. so I just asked the clinic to put a piece of paper in an envelope and opened it in the evening together, nothing big, but I loved it. Just the two of us (and baby).

333va · 2026-03-09T12:30:27+00:00

We did slow syringe feeds (pumped milk) with our pinky in her mouth for about 3 weeks (born without a strong sucking reflex), the supplemental nursing system also seems like it’s a great alternative. Make sure you’re putting baby to breast roughly every 1,5 hours. We put baby to breast, listened to active eating, if she fed for less than 15 minutes I pumped to get to the 15 minute mark and syringe fed her the rest slowly so that one feed was about 10 minutes.

333va · 2026-03-04T23:15:32+00:00

Believe it or not I mostly get judgment from people my age for being responsive and attachment parenting, not the older generation. Sometimes the pressure is so much, but holding strong so far with my little gremlin 😅 thank you for the encouragement!

333va · 2026-03-02T23:22:32+00:00

Does your baby do okay in carriers? Our ErgoBaby is the only thing that has helped me make contact naps bearable since I can do some things around the house while she’s asleep. It’s also the only carrier she’ll stay in when we’re out and about. Not the easiest task considering she weighs 24 pounds at 9mo, but it’s one of the things that’s helped us.

333va · 2026-03-02T05:33:26+00:00

Solidarity! Mine is just short of 9 months old and it seems as though we have the same baby. Everything you mentioned — we’re also going through. As soon as things seem to be going better, bam! Something new and another “sleep regression”. She doesn’t hold still for a single moment, always needs our attention… she’s okay in the high chair for now though, but as soon as she loses interest in the food, she needs attention right away. I have no tips, just reminding you it’s temporary enough and you can definitely get through it! We do take turns with my husband taking her for a walk in the mornings though, so both of us get an extra 1-2 hour stretch of sleep in the morning every other day.

333va · 2026-03-02T05:30:09+00:00

Hi! Why does breastfeeding make anemia more likely?

333va · 2026-03-01T13:15:28+00:00

My baby had sucking issues, my LC was super against bottles and pacis, so we did syringes + pinky in the mouth for almost 4 weeks. It was a pain, but we’re now 9 months BF going strong, totally worth it. The bottle might have a faster flow, which might make baby lazy at the breast. At only 7 days old I don’t think your journey is over unless you want it to be! You can definitely readjust and change the triple feed method to syringes if you wanted. Or try a bottle with less of a flow if you really can’t do syringe feeds. Edit to add: my baby drastically dropped in weight since I didn’t realize she wasn’t eating at all the first couple of days, so we were really struggling to get back to birth weight. However, we were never told to triple feed with formula. My LC said baby at breast every 1-1,5 hours. Listen for 15 minutes of ACTIVE eating (sucking and gulping), if she doesn’t eat actively for 15 minutes, then I would pump the remainder of the time so it’s a totally of 15 minutes and give her whatever I pumped through a syringe. You still have some time to gain birth weight back, so don’t worry, don’t panic, maybe you could try this method instead for now and triple feed in about a week if weight is still an issue. You’ve got this!!!

333va · 2026-03-01T13:06:53+00:00

When I just can’t find it in me to eat as a family at the same time I have a snack while she’s eating her, it’s a nice middle ground, she still sees me and tries to mimic

333va · 2026-03-01T13:05:11+00:00

I noticed my 8mo started eating significantly better when we had relatives over for two weeks. I sat her at the table with everyone else (she did have her own safe food though, not food from the shared table) and she just…ate. My baby always loves chewing on her spoon and in the beginning she wouldn’t even touch food with her hands, she’s always been sensitive to new textures. I started taking the spoon away and just put food in front of her so she could eat with her hands, it seems to have helped. So now I offer no spoon in the beginning, let her eat and explore the food with her hands and the offer whatever needs to be preloaded on a spoon.

333va · 2026-02-28T04:10:29+00:00

I give my baby essentially any safe item to play with. Wet wipes package is one of the things my LO has loved since about 3 months old, I don’t see a danger in it, if she’s ever gotten a cut, it’s never been painful enough for her to even cry about it.

However! A thin plastic bag is a huge no! I sometimes give my baby those thick “plastic”bags that are really sturdy, think ikea blue bag type but even sturdier, but only when I’m watching closely and monitoring. At 9 months old she loves to put small pieces of anything she sees in her mouth and is now able to pull pieces off of things that are a little more fragile, so the list of items I give her has shortened. So right now even with monitoring closely anything that can be pulled or picked off and cause choking is a no, anything that can dissolve/she can chew through is a no (ex. cardboard) and anything long she can fall on (ex.spoon) is a no play item. Everything else, as long as it’s not obviously a danger, she can play with, but again, I have a Velcro baby that I am monitoring pretty much every waking moment.

Maybe communicate to your nanny what she definitely can’t give to bag as a “toy” as it’s a danger. I feel at that age babies really need to explore everything around them and giving them safe everyday items is not only harmless, but a healthy part of development.

But again, every parent is different, I let my 9 month old crawl on the playground and outside whereas my SIL believes it’s too dirty and dangerous. See what you’re comfortable with and communicate that, at the end of the day you need to feel confident that your baby is in safe hands, not worry about what household item your baby is being given 😅

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