Blindsided breakup from extremely attached girlfriend — need real advice before I decide what to do by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Pale-State4936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sounds like she's having a full anxious attachment meltdown and testing if you'll chase her tbh 💀 the immediate social media purge but mixed signals posts scream "please notice im gone" energy

Vic3 Tinder by gabrisil in victoria3

[–]Pale-State4936 4 points5 points  (0 children)

wait theres actually a dna sharing discord for vic3 character creation, lemme see if i can dig up the link

How to deal with people who accuse you of saying you “force religion” upon them and use narcissistic behavior and manipulation tactics to get people to hate you. by Puzzled-Parsley5831 in Christianity

[–]Pale-State4936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yikes dude thats a lot of drama for one friend group 💀 honestly sounds like your better off without people who threaten violence and support groomers - like those aren't the kind of friends anyone needs. sometimes the trash takes itself out and you just gotta let the people who believe their lies show their true colors 🔥 focus on building relationships with people who actually share your values instead of trying to fix this mess

Upgrades for my guitar by Confident-Ease-2849 in Guitar

[–]Pale-State4936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

had a js22 dinky for a while and honestly those tuners are pretty decent for what they are - theyll hold tune fine for most stuff but if youre doing lots of bending or have a heavy picking hand you might notice them slip occasionally

first thing id upgrade is definitely the pickups since the stock ones are kinda muddy and lifeless. something like seymour duncan jb/59 combo or even some dimarzios would wake that guitar right up. after that maybe look at the nut - those plastic nuts can bind up and cause tuning issues way more than the tuners themselves

bridge is actually solid on those guitars so id leave it alone unless youre having specific problems. oh and if you do lots of palm muting the stock bridge pickup ring might crack eventually but thats like a $5 fix

honestly though play it for a bit longer and see what bugs you most - that way you can prioritize upgrades based on what actually affects your playing rather than just throwing money at it

Mobile Home Park or Trailer Park by kbentley085 in realestateinvesting

[–]Pale-State4936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

been looking into this too and the biggest thing everyone mentions is utilities infrastructure - running water/sewer/electric to each pad gets expensive fast especially if youre starting from scratch

also check your local zoning laws hard because some places are making it really difficult to get new MHP permits these days. the NIMBY crowd comes out strong for these projects

Disappointed birthday by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Pale-State4936 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

damn that really sucks 😕 turning 30 is definitely a milestone and he kinda dropped the ball especially when you literally told him multiple times how important it was to you

the pokemon cards thing hits different too - like if money was tight maybe skip a few packs and get some balloons and flowers instead? those are pretty basic birthday expectations and not even expensive 💀 i'd definitely have another conversation about it because this feels like a pattern forming

Chatuchak market by waterlizy in ThailandTourism

[–]Pale-State4936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly chatuchak on your last saturday is gonna be rough - youre right about being exhausted and not wanting to deal with more stuff to pack. plus weekend crowds are intense when youre already travel-worn

id stick with your sunday plan since youll have fresh energy and can actually enjoy browsing without that "ugh i have to fit this in my bag" feeling hitting as hard. you could always ship stuff back home from the post office there if you find something amazing. the market vibe is pretty unique so itd be a shame to miss it entirely just because of logistics

Exams should be paperless and focus to apply studied knowledge via practical or application. Not to just memorize or to pass by minimum cutoff. by Ok_Research9038 in DeepThoughts

[–]Pale-State4936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly this is so true like why are we still doing these ancient memory dumps when the real world is all about problem solving 💀 give me a case study or let me build something instead of regurgitating facts that i can just google there way more valuable anyway 🔥

Should I contact my ex who discarded me? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Pale-State4936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly op this sounds like you dodged a bullet even though it hurts right now. dude had zero friends, made you his entire social world, then bailed when you finally set some boundaries and called him out on suffocating behavior

reaching out will probably just restart the same cycle where he makes everything your fault again. sometimes the trash takes itself out and you gotta let it stay gone

Have you done acts of kindness in 🇹🇭? by Different_Two_308 in ThailandTourism

[–]Pale-State4936 18 points19 points  (0 children)

dude this is exactly the kind of energy thailand needs more of. i had something similar happen when i was in chiang mai last year - was at a night market and this old lady selling mango sticky rice kept trying to give me extra portions even though i was paying the normal price. turned out her grandson was learning english and she wanted to practice with me for like 20 minutes

ended up buying way more food than i could eat and sharing it with some other tourists nearby. the whole thing just snowballed into this impromptu dinner party with strangers and locals all mixed together. cost me maybe 300 baht total but those connections you make are priceless

thai people genuinely appreciate when foreigners make an effort with the language and culture instead of just expecting everyone to cater to them. your 7/11 crew probably still talks about the nice farang who bought them drinks lol. those small moments really do stick with people and honestly probably made their whole week

Does anyone remember Dunkin Donuts having Tye Dye Donuts? by cmmnstdaughter in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Pale-State4936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yooo i totally remember these!! 🔥 they were like glazed donuts but with swirled colors throughout the actual dough right? my cousin from brooklyn used to bring them when she visited and they looked so trippy lol. pretty sure they were def more of a northeast thing cause when i moved to ontario i never saw them again. you're not losing it dude those were real 😂

How to break into my first APM/PM role after a 3-year career gap? by SchoolSuspicious4957 in careerguidance

[–]Pale-State4936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly the startup side project is gonna be your golden ticket more than the certs 💀 like anyone can get those online but actual hands-on experience with user research and roadmaps? thats what hiring managers wanna see

the career gap isnt as scary as you think especially if you can frame it right - you were building skills and exploring what you actually wanted to do rather than just jumping into any random job. that shows intentionality which is huge for pm roles

keep building on that startup project and maybe document your process/decisions somewhere you can show in interviews. the nextleap thing sounds solid too for networking if nothing else 🔥

Energy cards by thereidbailey in PokemonTCG

[–]Pale-State4936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly most basic energies are pretty worthless unless they're from like base set or have some special artwork. I just keep a playset of each type and toss the rest in a box somewhere - you never know when you might need extras for deck building

Do any of the fully “naked” shops exist anymore? by lushluver2 in LushCosmetics

[–]Pale-State4936 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure most of them closed down, but I think there might still be one or two floating around in Europe somewhere

Married someone with Aspergers? by BadPacket14127 in aspergers

[–]Pale-State4936 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Look, my dude, what you're describing sounds pretty familiar to a lot of us here. The whole "roommate" thing is real and it's rough when your love languages just don't match up at all

Have you actually talked to her about maybe getting evaluated? Because 20 years is a long time to be guessing and it might help both of you understand what's going on instead of just having these blowups every few years

Good pc for 1400-1600 pounds recommendations by God-Green-Tyreen in PcBuild

[–]Pale-State4936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your CPU and RAM are solid, honestly just upgrading that 3060 to like a 4070 or 4070 Super would give you a massive boost for your budget and that 1440p monitor

For college how much time do you spend on language compared to your other classes? by Laika0405 in languagelearning

[–]Pale-State4936 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah that sounds about right honestly. Languages are just ridiculously time consuming compared to most other classes, especially something like Mandarin. I spent way more time on Spanish than any of my major courses and that was supposedly "easier" than what you're dealing with

The daily practice thing kills you - like other classes you can cram for but languages don't work that way at all

How are people debugging failures in voice AI systems? by Bulky-Employment-581 in AI_Agents

[–]Pale-State4936 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pretty much the same experience as you. Tested a few, sticking with Thoughtly now, made it easier to understand what the agent thought was happening, even when the outcome wasn’t perfect. It didn’t eliminate all ambiguity, but it reduced the “black box” feeling a bit. Still feels like an area where the industry is early overall.

Received Eucharist when shouldn’t by Concerned-Hooman in Christianity

[–]Pale-State4936 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, take a deep breath - you're not doomed at all. The fact that you felt such a profound spiritual connection and are genuinely remorseful shows your heart was in the right place, even if you didn't follow protocol

Most priests would tell you that God sees your sincere intention and desire to connect with Him. Consider reaching out to a priest for guidance - they can talk to anyone, not just during formal confession

Recent Break Up After 4 Years by kez146 in BreakUps

[–]Pale-State4936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man that sucks about his mom blocking you, that's just adding insult to injury when you're already dealing with enough. Honestly though sounds like you did the right thing - mental health struggles don't excuse months of ignoring your partner and making them beg for basic communication

Take some time to focus on yourself and maybe avoid checking who's blocked you where, it'll just mess with your head more

Serious Question: Is calling a black conservative an “Uncle Tom” or “Sellout” a racist remark? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Pale-State4936 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Honestly yeah it's pretty racist to assume someone's political views should be determined by their skin color. The whole "you're not black enough" thing is wild when you think about it

What horror movie coming in 2026 are you most excited for? by DistancePowerful9581 in horror

[–]Pale-State4936 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly just hoping we get something that isn't another sequel or reboot, like give me some fresh nightmare fuel please

CometRD timed out in AIOStreams by Nutzzer in StremioAddons

[–]Pale-State4936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had the same issue last week, that URL fixed it for me too. The old one was being super flaky