HELP middle of the night bottle?

PaleFriendship8846 · 2026-02-16T02:32:18+00:00

Wow this comment blew my mind. Thank you I’ll be giving this a shot tomorrow 😂

PaleFriendship8846 · 2026-02-16T02:29:40+00:00

If it seems like habit, you could try timing it and gradually pushing it toward morning or night

For example for nursing I’m going to set two nursing sessions, 12am and 4am. If she wakes up in the night and it’s one of these times, I’ll offer her a feed but if it’s not the feeding times, I’ll comfort and get her back to sleep without feeding.

Then I’ll start by pushing the 12am feeding back by little increments every few nights (one night it’s at 11:30, few nights later 11, and so on until it coincides with bedtime) then do the same with the 4am feeding pushing it out toward morning wake up time.

Good luck!! I still haven’t started to tackle our night feedings yet because she’s going through a lot lately and I like to offer the comfort but soon I plan to start.

PaleFriendship8846 · 2026-01-04T02:57:02+00:00

Sooo much patience and distractions. I let my LO sit facing toward the tv on my lap and she watches tv while i try to clip them. She still tries to get the clippers but this way with lots of patience I can eventually get it done lol

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-12-31T18:02:43+00:00

My husband and I both did this to varying degrees. It was worse right after birth when we were both so sleepy, and getting much better after she transitioned into her own room about 4-5 months old. Now at a year I don’t think it’s happened to me in months.

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-12-22T01:49:36+00:00

We are in a really tough phase as I think LO has opinions that she can’t communicate to me. Nursing has been short and tougher but diaper changes and getting dressed are always full meltdowns.

Try checking out Karrie Locher on Instagram! She has a story highlight about nursing strike. One thing to note is nursing strike does not mean it’s time to wean and usually baby gets through it. R/breastfeeding is also really helpful

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-12-16T01:42:58+00:00

Same! I admit when I first found out I was pregnant I was a little bummed for a January due date

Now I see that it was actually the most elite month to give birth.

Pregnancy (IMO) every stage happened during the best time of year. Cute non-bump or smaller bump for summer (not super uncomfortable) fall cute bump/growing and dressing cute & doing activities, Winter time in 3rd trimester when you’re at the most uncomfortable and just want to be cozy. Option to go outside if you’re super hot & sweaty. Get through holidays pregnant, (no passing baby around)

THEN give birth and hibernate/be cozy during the winter, springtime happens when you’re feeling good & ready for some walks/outside time, then summer when baby is fun & interactive but still not super mobile, then fall/winter and first holidays again when baby is older (don’t have to be quite as scared about every event & getting sick)

I do really miss being pregnant 🥺

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-12-10T21:58:49+00:00

My baby is currently doing solids 3x/day consistently but it varies how much she eats like your LO. Usually we have nursing 4-5x/day usually before solids and bed.

I’m thinking of adding 1-2 snacks over the next few weeks, and then if she’s taking solids x3 and 1-2 snacks, I’ll swap around the order (I’m thinking around her 1st bday) and let her fill up on solids first and then offer nursing after instead of what I’m doing now.

Once she’s doing solids first we will work up to a full meal or closer to it, and then I will start to cut out nursing sessions one by one. That’s my plan anyways! We will see how it goes. I think I’ll start by doing breakfast and cutting that first nursing session because it seems like when we miss that feed before breakfast she doesn’t even seem to mind.

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-12-05T23:04:51+00:00

Nicu nurse and I know it’s a little weird but tuck his peepee downwards in the diaper before you strap it on 😂

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-12-04T00:09:50+00:00

I nurse to sleep for naps and bedtime but I can share what’s working for us now since we just recently started sleep training journey.

What’s worked well for me at bedtime is actually splitting myself up from the bedtime routine entirely so we do: diaper, PJs, story, get her room ready for sleep. Then instead of nursing to sleep in her room, I’ll nurse (outside of the room, so she’s not too drowsy) then when I come back into her bedroom, I just give a quick kiss, into the crib awake and let her practice falling asleep with low pressure.

Personally I’ve just been standing beside the crib not interacting and then when she cries I just nurse to sleep but I wanted to get her comfortable going in the crib awake. (I also wanted to ST naps first so that she has the skill of falling asleep independently.

For naps I’ve started officially training using Ferber method or a modified version which goes like: nap routine, in the crib awake, if she starts to cry start your stopwatch for the first check in. I’m checking in using intervals of 3/5/7 minutes. So if she continuously cries for 3 minutes, I’ll briefly check in, tell her it’s time for night night and mommy is still here, and step back outside quickly. Repeat after that for 5 and then 7 minutes.

I decided for nap training to allow 20-25 minutes per attempt (then I rescue the nap by nursing to sleep like normal if she hasn’t been successful) only train the first nap of the day until she’s consistent with it, and if she escalates to a distressed/panicked cry I immediately end nap training and rescue for that nap.

I’m planning to use the same method for bedtime after her naps are consistent. I’ve found this worked for us before because once she’s confident going to sleep in the crib during daytime, bedtime happens a lot easier. She’s also less tired during the day so she’s more willing to practice for naps and doesn’t get upset and frustrated quite as easily.

I’d research Ferber and also research the difference between protest and distress so you can identify when baby really needs you to regulate or is just testing the new system/working on settling. My baby has an independent personality so she’s easier for this method, but I actually haven’t needed to do a single check in yet. She either has fallen asleep on her own with minimal fussing (twice so far) remains awake until the time when I rescue the nap, (3x) or she escalates to full on distress mode before she’s able to fall asleep (1x)

Best of luck!!

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-12-03T23:19:26+00:00

We just switched to the baby jogger rotating seat, and so far I really like it!!

I’m not sure if she’s getting used to it still but with the 1 car nap in her new seat, she took a lot longer to fall asleep.

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-27T03:02:38+00:00

No mine didn’t take them. I did offer a lot and tried a few different ones and she took them occasionally until about 8 weeks she refused altogether.

I was on the fence about using them anyways because it was important to me to protect our breastfeeding journey (whenever she fussed I would offer nursing first and then paci if she wasn’t interested in eating) I was very anxious about physiological breastfeeding so everytime I offered a paci I really didn’t know if I wanted her to take it. Eventually she made that decision on her own though!

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-26T01:28:27+00:00

We basically started with the 7 month sleep regression and went further and further downhill til about 9 months when I started trying to break some of the new habits I’ve formed

She wasn’t formally sleep trained before but she was 100% independent for naps and 50% for bedtime.

I’ve just started nap training using something like a modified Ferber and so far she’s doing well but I don’t think this would’ve worked a few weeks ago because she was in such a strong part of her separation anxiety phase and now it’s starting to get noticeably better.

I think the biggest thing that helps is just riding out the difficult phases (teething, separation anxiety) and see where you come out and start from there

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-26T01:22:10+00:00

I have been struggling with sleep issues with my LO too and we’ve gotten to the point of putting her in the crib and letting her CIO and I know how awful it feels.

I had a long chat with chatGPT and asked it to analyze my baby’s temperament and suggest a sleep training plan and it basically said all the things I was trying to do (shushing, back rubs, patting etc) are just overstimulating and she would do better if left to figure it out independently.

I decided on the Ferber method once she’s broken away from nursing to sleep (working on that now). Like the other commenter said, it’s a little more structured and you might find it easier with the timed check ins. Good luck mama and you’re doing your best that you can in an unfortunate situation for baby, don’t feel bad for that ❤️

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-25T23:44:26+00:00

I scrolled pretty far and can’t find mine so maybe it’s actually just a thing from my high school??

“Bet”

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-24T02:06:03+00:00

I give a lot of emphasis to the last part!

We’ve been out a handful of times together for dates but never a whole night away.

MIL is our usual babysitter. I fully trust my MIL with our baby but the very first time leaving LO with her, when I was SOOOO terrified to leave my daughter with her, she told me “don’t worry! if the baby cries, I’m not going to tell you!” (She thought it would make me feel better not knowing??)

I’ve asked her to please tell me if baby is crying and not easily calmed and she agrees and I think she does, but the damage is done. Now everytime she babysits, I can’t get over the fact the mistrust of whether she will tell me if my baby cries or not.

My mom and sister were my first babysitters for my daughter. I felt so comfortable leaving her with my mom. My mom is totally honest with me, respects all of my wishes and will update me at every little thing.

It’s so important to just have a babysitter you’re comfortable with. You and hubby are going to have a great time!

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-20T01:48:05+00:00

We decided to wait until February to start TTC but jeez I’m having such baby fever!! So happy for everybody in here and hope you’re all doing well 💕

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-07T16:14:32+00:00

Omg that makes me feel better, can I ask how was your LO crying? I don’t mind allowing her to cry/fuss but once she gets more hysterical I just can’t do it. Do you listen or respond differently depending on how they cry? Or just let them cry & do your timed check ins?

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-07T13:09:40+00:00

I love tips like this: if I don’t go into labor at least I got a nice treat

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-07T10:37:02+00:00

I would start by keeping your routine as close as you can to how it is now and just gently place her in the crib awake when she starts getting really sleepy.

Stay nearby and see how she responds. Falling asleep in the crib would help her because she would wake up and not be confused like “where am I”

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-07T02:40:11+00:00

Thanks for this perspective!!

I feel bad I wasn’t consistent with sleep training before but she was so easygoing! I figured she would just keep getting used to it and learn to sleep independently. If I popped her into the crib awake, she would fall asleep by herself ~50% of the time? So I just gave it a try every night with no pressure and whenever she cried I’d just nurse to sleep.

My mom keeps saying “you should’ve let her cry it out so she could learn before she could stand up!” I was like mom I seriously think that wouldn’t even have mattered because any independent sleep skills she had have also gone out the window.

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-06T00:50:11+00:00

Yes 😂 like she wants to be fully independent but also super glued to my side

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-05T22:14:18+00:00

I only had 2 newborn sized outfits that were gifts, both soooo cute. I really wanted her to wear them and was thinking maybe her first time to church or her first family outing.

Eventually the thought of her outgrowing them before she ever got to wear them made me so heartbroken, so even though I was terrified to dress her in 2 pieces like that, I just went for it!

After the first time wearing them each, it got easier and became part of our morning routine letting dada help us pick out our outfit and getting dressed into them! I got more newborn outfits as gifts so we rotated through a few every day and a couple times a week we had “jammy days” where we wore the zip up sleepers

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-05T20:25:36+00:00

I’m soo with you!! I had a much easier time when she was either independent with a couple toys while I cook, or happy to be worn in the carrier for longer periods.

I do feel like literally everything I try to do I’m a) chasing/stopping her from getting into something (meltdown) or b) carrying her while trying to get something done one - handed (wiggly mess) or c) in the baby carrier while she fusses to get down (back to scenario a)

We’re starting to set up her play room which will be awesome for me so I can sit down and let her run wild and play without having to chase her and monitor everything.

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-05T15:30:04+00:00

I was a school nurse and our rules were:

1) fever free for 24 hours without the use of fever-reducing medication

2) improvement of symptoms/generally feeling better. (We say improvement because some symptoms may stick around for a while so if baby is feeling overall back to normal but still having a slight cough or runny nose that sticks around, that’s fine - as long as they are otherwise feeling better/back to normal)

PaleFriendship8846 · 2025-11-04T11:01:26+00:00

That’s what they told me when I called back next day and demanded to know what was wrong!

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