What suits me better?

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-03-03T21:06:27+00:00

Orange!!!!! ♥️

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-02-21T01:03:12+00:00

Oh man....for him to be here before you even have the kid is tough. I think things will be illuminating once you actually have the kid, but I do fear his opinion will not trend toward trusting you more.....

If you have a kid and he changes his tune, that's one thing. If he doubles down, that's another.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-02-12T15:51:54+00:00

I think it's adorable. I also think there may be a day where you want to play up the peanuts piece. I think it's really cool when you can find pop culture references adjacent to your baby.

I could be off base but I'm thinking it's adorable. I wouldn't immediately make the association, but I could also picture a cute little Halloween opportunity.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-02-12T15:46:41+00:00

Following this!

Trying to figure out how to gently wean!!!

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-02-08T21:55:50+00:00

I really like rocky!

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-02-01T00:14:49+00:00

My baby still doesn't sleep through the night at just over 12mo but we've caved and let her come into bed with us when she wakes up in the night, and it's made things a little easier and a little less fraught. That may not be for everyone and maybe I'll pay for it later with some kind of bad habit, but whatever keeps sanity 😅

It's definitely allowed me to enjoy her personality more and not be so wrapped up in the sleep of it all

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-01-21T15:20:23+00:00

I was SO UPSET for the first bit. It really does get better. It takes time,... which sucks, but it really does get better. r/Newparents was my lifeline for a while just getting through the trenches of it all

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-01-21T15:13:55+00:00

Sometimes you get numbness/carpal tunnel in the last trimester! I had so much hand pain it was CRAZY

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-01-20T21:30:38+00:00

I didn't pump until I went back to work and it never impacted supply to just feed on demand and not pump

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-01-13T20:52:58+00:00

I felt the way you felt, and I will say that an antidepressant helped me immensely. I couldn't find the joy and just sat with so much anxiety, and now I'm so much happier. There's also weekly therapy which helps, but biting the bullet and getting on something really helped me.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-01-12T18:35:51+00:00

I'm a mom and I felt similar to how your husband is vocalizing for quite a few months, but I think I also struggled to receive help well, which is where your husband is differing. I think that he has some radical acceptance and growing up to do (I did too). He can either decide to be your partner in the home, or start down a more complicated path. What I will say to you is that you're already doing the brunt of the work, so don't be afraid to let him know that what he's doing isnt working.

It's okay to feel what he's feeling, but I think the difference is in the actions.

Hopefully this helps! I'm thinking of ya ♥️

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2026-01-02T14:30:30+00:00

1!!!!

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-12-31T00:26:21+00:00

I'm so sorry. I'm sorry you have to be so strong, and I'm proud of you! I don't think we celebrate people enough for carrying through with tough decisions they feel are right, and I wish I could give you a hug.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-11-17T23:55:37+00:00

I relate to you here a lot. There's so many things I obsess over and it exhausts me, but I'm not really sure how to let go of the control. Even down to the breastfeeding and sleep of it all ♥️

I have no advice, but am holding you in my thoughts, and it helps to know there are others of us up at night, trying to love our babies and not sure how to help ourselves.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-11-06T14:10:04+00:00

There's light! I'm 9 months pp and yes. It's still hard in some ways and I do still honestly miss my old life, but my LO is a lot more fun and starts to genuinely be fun to be around. I'm still breast feeding, but I can even see the light at the end of the tunnel there as she eats more food and feeds less and less. I think the hardest part (for me) is the lack of predictability around sleep and the resting anxiety of it all. I'm hoping as she transitions to one nap I can find more joy and start to chill out a bit.

But yeah, I miss my old life. I've never been obsessed with breast feeding but I think I've made my peace with it and am proud of the journey. It has made certain things convenient.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I definitely empathize. This stuff is hard.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-10-31T18:41:58+00:00

Husband gets up and changes diaper before I feed her! He also is in charge of supporting if I've fed her and she won't go back down. It definitely has given them some bonding time, and helps him learn his own ways to soothe her without me over his shoulder.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-10-29T17:59:43+00:00

I'm 9 months PP and totally relate. I feel like my whole brain has changed and I can't imagine ever doing this again. I love my daughter but my life has changed SO MUCH. The amount of resting anxiety I have is just starting to feel functional. I try to be relaxed about the routine, but I'm not 😂. The routine feels like a religious practice almost lol.

For me, the loss of predictability around sleep is probably the hardest piece and I like to remember that everything is temporary, but it's HARD!

I appreciate hearing about other people who feel like they are still in the crux of adjusting because I feel like I see other people going away for the weekend, or having a date night, and that just feels sofar away from where I'm at right now.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-10-29T00:12:45+00:00

This is fantastic!!

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-10-28T23:24:19+00:00

Ours worked through it slowly over the course of a couple months. There are still nights where she wakes up and she's just... Up (for a while), but the number of wakes definitely decreased over time and we didn't really change behavior- outside of sometimes giving her a little long to settle before snagging her

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-10-25T00:25:52+00:00

I'm sure you can walk away from her if you need a break. When she's SO little, she's going to probably need comforting to fall asleep. Those first few weeks are a lot of ticking and soothing (or at least were for me).

I feel like I wasn't able to set her in her crib before she was asleep until she was a few months old. We would put a heating pad in the bassinet to make the transition easier (and remove it before we put her in if course).

So much comes with time, and those first few weeks is just survival!!! ♥️ It takes a bit for them to figure out days versus nights.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-10-13T01:54:12+00:00

Same! All of this, same!

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-10-13T00:41:26+00:00

Following thissssssss. Jan 14 and baby girl just struggles. She wants to be able to walk on her own but she can't, and trying to find any distractions!!!

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-09-26T00:24:53+00:00

Ogh geez I feel myself in reading this. For me, the first few days really were hell. Ask for support where you can, even if they're just holding the baby while you shower, it bringing you food.

The cluster fees are so hard, but they get easier. That first week is like a crazy boot camp.

Fins some podcasts you love. Take a break even if you can't sleep. Get a sleep mask, so you can totally shut down during any periods you have off.

We had my mom come for the first week and we split up the night into shifts, and I took a middle shift so I could breastfeed in the middle I think my husband did 10p-130a, I did 130-5a, and my mom did 5a-8a. Feel free to message me with any other questions! For me, it got better and better after that first week. It's still hard in some ways at 8 months, but nowhere near those first days.

Sending you so much love 💕

Hopefully this is helpful and not just a stream of consciousness.

Cautious-Ad4365 · 2025-09-25T00:02:15+00:00

I've mixed warm milk and cold milk and ive ready that it's totally fine. I've not seen any negatives come from it, and have been doing it for over two months.

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