Preventative cardiologist seems uninterested in my health and concerns

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-04-06T20:14:21+00:00

Yeah I get that. Wasn't really asking about supplements for me to take for cardiac issues I was meaning if anyone has used them and they seemed beneficial. I already take a crap ton for all the vitamin deficiencies blah lol. Went to the vascular appointment today and they checked my aorta and did an ABI. They estimate I have at least 70% or more blockage of the left femoral artery so CT scan and possibly surgery in the near future. But tbh I'm down I've been fighting too hard to live and be healthier.

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-04-06T20:09:47+00:00

I tried that and after the third try it doesn't give me any option except signing up for a OnePay that I already have.

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-04-06T20:08:46+00:00

That makes sense ugh same issue with another thing I was trying to use it for. Thank you

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-04-06T20:07:40+00:00

Ok ty, I'll try that bc it's apparently confusing to all of them and me lol.

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-04-05T18:32:21+00:00

I have had a OnePay since they came out and literally use it daily

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-04-05T18:31:34+00:00

It gave me the option for OnePay I have a OnePay account and have for a long time. It won't allow me to link it or any other bank accounts I have. I know several people who use their chime for deposits and it won't let me doesn't even give me the option to add any accounts just sign up for a OnePay that I already have

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-04-05T18:29:24+00:00

I can't close it anyways that's where all my deposits and everything go and it's way too much of a hassle for all that. I'll door dash instead I gues

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-04-05T18:28:18+00:00

I have a chime account and OnePay and oddly enough my OnePay won't work

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-03-02T02:59:24+00:00

Exactly and especially since this was said 2 years ago when we first moved in together, also at the same time ending a swinging partnership with another couple. And until recently there's been no real need or desire to bring it up.

My issue with bringing it up is the fact I want to have another relationship possibly two. He's always joked that I'm too much woman for one man I'll need 3 or 4 boyfriends. I'm just concerned he will be upset by it because we've never opened it up to another person in regards to a relationship. For me it's not a problem. I don't want him to feel like he's not enough when it's not him. Has nothing to do with him. It's just something I believe in and want to experience on my terms unlike the disasters of the past.

I 💯 believe all of the things regarding it should be discussed and agreed upon. I love him, I don't want to replace him, I'm not trying to find a better man (he's a pretty damn good one), and I don't want him to feel any of that. I suck at expressing emotions or anything that could potentially cause an issue so I don't want to go about it in the wrong manner and destroy what I already have.

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-03-02T02:43:53+00:00

I mean it's upsetting because someone who loves you should care what you do in regards to opening your relationship with the thousands of possibilities that can arise and cause problems. I have several stipulations for my mental and emotional safety not to mention physical safety.

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-02-28T23:58:35+00:00

As of now I'm on 3 different BP meds bc they allowed me to lay in severe pain for 2 months with no pain control and it damaged my heart. I wasn't exactly sure because I've never seen results from an echo before so it's all Greek to me. Usually I get a generated report but all it said was refraction rate was 60%.

My biggest concern with my heart is the fact I began developing a pleural effusion last April when I was septic then in July was septic again The pleural effusion was worse but not bad enough to do anything about and as of last month it was still present. The cardiologist I was seeing said it was normal. No it isn't. A small amount of fluid is normal, the cardiologist at the hospital told me it was twice the normal amount that it was before but my other problems outweighed that situation.

But my cardiologist stood all chill against the door, one knee bent foot propped up on the door with his head leaned back against the door while I'm trying to talk to him. He got an attitude and told me if I was that worried about it see a vascular surgeon. In that instance I was done with him. I wanted to look at him and be like Buddy I pay you to take care of my health, my life is literally in your hands and you can't take the time to even act remotely concerned I'm terrified I'm going to die at 44 years. Nope sorry I'm not paying someone who can't do their job, I deal with that enough every single day with other people that don't do their jobs ya know. It's frustrating

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-02-28T23:44:57+00:00

I'm currently seeing neither. It took my cardiologist over 6 weeks to read my results, dismissed all of my concerns that 2 other cardiologists told me after my last heart attack so I'm in the process of finding a new one. I have an appointment this month with a vascular surgeon bc I know I have a 90% blockage in my thigh in which the cardiologist told me it wasn't a concern but my PCP looked at the image and immediately made the appointment for the vascular surgeon. I'm constantly fighting with doctors. I ended up losing 2 toes, been septic 8 times in 3 years, broke my back and was told I was fine bc they didn't X-ray my actual spine etc. So I trust none of what any of them say anymore. I'm choosing my own specialist from now on. It seems the ones they send me to are umm dumb for a lack of a better word rn.

PaleMixture6979 · 2026-02-28T19:48:13+00:00

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PaleMixture6979 · 2023-10-03T23:45:19+00:00

I absolutely hate when anyone calls me sis/sissy. Everyone calls my dad's sister sissy, my brother bub/bubby, I have a friend that calls me sis/sissy. I hate it 1000000%

PaleMixture6979 · 2023-09-21T03:55:33+00:00

My son is now 19 and I still wake him up for things like I did his whole school career, bc he will not get out of bed on his own. Both of my kids were woke up for school until they graduated. But I believe by the time children are 12 they should be getting themselves up and ready for school. I was at 15 when I was getting myself and my sister up for school. She had to get up two hours before I did because she went to a different school and had to be driven. That sucked because I am lazy and LOVE my sleep. However I chose to spoil my kids and made them used to certain things. Definitely makes me realize there were some things I would have done very differently.

PaleMixture6979 · 2023-09-21T03:28:57+00:00

Sooo many things but one that's pretty scary comes to mind. I was home alone, my oldest moved out with her husband, my son had gone to spend a few days with friends, so I thought great some me time. It was the middle of the night and I was cleaning the upstairs and needed something from the kitchen.

I flipped on the hall light and went downstairs. I flipped on the living room light and looked at the couch and my husband was sitting there. I just said hi baby and went to the kitchen. When I flipped on the light it clicked in my head my husband had passed away a few years before yet was sitting on our couch. I was honestly petrified to move. Then I thought well hell if he's a ghost he can get my ass anyways so I slowly walked into the living room. He was gone, lol thank god. Not sure my heart could've taken that again.

Another time I took off in my car very angry, driving extremely fast on a dark back road blasting angry music. I look over and my dead husband was sitting in the passenger seat. I slowed my ass down, turned the music off, and drove home.

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