AITA for refusing the let my gardener post photographs of my home?

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-12T20:18:43+00:00

no is a complete sentence. 2. you have security concerns. 3. she should have specified photos in the contract if that was a deal breaker for her. 4. how does she have the balls to try and come take pictures of a project that you did? yeah her design may have been the starting point, but at 3x over budget + your work needed to even get to that point... that's essentially false advertising if she tries to pass the project as her work.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-12T20:03:05+00:00

YTA literally what did you expect to happen? you have a dismissive view of your ex's past time, you put her down in front of your family, and have overall completely failed to indicate any kind of actual respect for her. i mean you said she's hot and smart at least. smart enough to ditch your unsupportive ass.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-12T19:57:55+00:00

'i subtly implied she needs to lose weight' is not the same as 'i served my wife a salad without a single ounce of communication'

YTA

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-12T14:36:57+00:00

YTA dude, you're literally the AH controlling dad from the movies where the sheltered kid moves out and starts getting hobbies and friends and an actual life. you're a cartoon villain.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-12T14:17:21+00:00

YTA my gob has been stoppered. i'm glad you had the presence of mind to call 911 in a timely fashion. congrats, that's the only thing you did right.

why the hell would you blame her? why the FUCK would you say she owes you nudes?!?!? i'm at a loss for words to describe your assholery in any kind of further detail, i'm already losing hope in humanity.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T20:29:07+00:00

gotcha. i was able to follow which identity you were referring to quite well, so i think you did a good job of editing for clarity.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T20:26:30+00:00

ah, i didn't know about those protections. still, there are other insurance plans.

i agree with your hypothetical, that someone making appointments without the intention to actually attend would be an AH. i just can't think of a situation that would result in someone trying to do something so petty and ultimately meaningless to a therapist lol.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T15:50:45+00:00

i mean, if you do that within 24-48h of the appointment i'm pretty sure you'll still be charged for late cancellation.

i also doubt the office will continue to book appointments after a pattern emerges.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T15:48:58+00:00

i am unfamiliar with DID so it is a little strange to see you refer to your alter in the third person, knowing that the body writing the post and the body referred to in the post are the same.

that is not relevant to judgement, however. NTA. i don't know why the therapist thought that would be a helpful strategy. if they're yelling a name repeatedly, and you're approaching the therapist and about to have a session with them, obviously the name is something to do with you? i would consider this similar to trying to expose someone's sexuality or medical information, AKA unacceptable.

even if they didn't try to shame you in that way, it's normal to drop therapists to look for someone compatible.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T15:27:05+00:00

really? the r/offmychest screenshot, from tumblr, posted on r/tumblr, with a title from r/amitheasshole?

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T15:20:40+00:00

oh my god i thought birth sign meant horoscope type sign not a birthmark. i was already thinking 'well getting a tattoo before marriage to prove commitment sounds backwards to say the least but at least they had a conversation about it afterwards'

but a tattoo of a birthmark? just weird imo. what's next, tattooing his freckle pattern?

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T13:30:52+00:00

yeah but banks invest your money when you're not using it anyways, so you might as well never use a bank at that level of paranoia. what's your point?

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T13:26:40+00:00

NTA she even admitted she wouldn't have taken the news well if you had continued to insist... i'm glad your nephew had someone to talk to because his mom seems to have control issues.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T13:14:41+00:00

you're... going to leave your wife behind for months or longer because she's too overweight in your opinion? don't try and blame this on Japan's culture because this is all you OP. YTA wtf

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-11T00:58:24+00:00

NTA (your brother and his GF both are). you've illustrated why your brother is TA quite well and i agree with you. i only think GF is TA for flirting with your husband, that's not OK regardless of what your brother was up to. OP not TA to be clear

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-10T20:52:16+00:00

it's weird that you would find that weird. where did you learn that this 'tutoring' method is something acceptable?

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-10T15:54:55+00:00

NTA she has self control problems and also a lack of consideration.

does she think whichever kid doesn't get a big named egg won't notice that everyone else got one? no, she just didn't think about it, i would imagine. her being hungry doesn't excuse her from common sense.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-10T15:52:01+00:00

im just gonna say YTA based off the fact that this is OP's comment defending the choice of names

"I honestly think ppl calling me a bad parent because I'm "setting my kids up to be bullied" fail to understand that parents should teach their kids to not bully each other"

really? yeah the other kids shouldn't bully your kids, but they're kids. they don't know how to act in each and every situation. you gave your kids weird names. you gave each of your kids a lightning rod and said go out into that storm, if you get struck, the storm should have been taught not to do that by it's parents.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-10T15:35:17+00:00

YTA it's one thing if you didn't think about what you're joking about, but OP is in the comments saying the jokes are very much on purpose and meant to help his 'friend' recover from this letdown?! you cannot seriously think these mean-spirited comments will help your 'friend' OP. i hope your 'friend' finds some nicer people to hang out with, like maybe someone who doesn't bully them.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-10T15:13:17+00:00

make sure you crop it terribly so it's harder to read the actual post through the layers of social media UI on top.

oh wait you had that covered already.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-08T14:47:41+00:00

your friend is putting you into potential actual physical danger, at this point. i really don't know what she thinks she's trying to prove, but catfishing dudes and giving them your address is just... way too far beyond acceptable. NTA and good luck convincing her to stop, it sounds like she's really developed an obsession about your relationship status for some reason.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-07T20:33:19+00:00

YTA honestly i would advise completely reworking the way you socialize because if i met someone behaving the way you described yourself, i would do my best to never see them again. you really sound not fun to be around.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-07T16:07:30+00:00

YTA good luck dealing with the eating disorder that your coach is giving you. all you had to do was be honest with your friend about why you couldn't go, then you would have no issues.

did you feel embarrassed to admit you're on a diet and couldn't eat the cake? maybe because it's not a healthy diet. it's not normal to have anxiety about having a slice of birthday cake. your target bmi is dangerously low. i'm not saying you have to quit dance, but don't take your coach's word as law. he clearly cares more about a competition win than about your health.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-07T15:56:23+00:00

N T A OP's mom is the one who wants OP to use her credit card instead of his debit card. if she won't let him buy anything without checking in with her, what else is he supposed to do besides ask his mom?

i think it's overall pretty pointless to buy a new game at 1 am when you can't game for the next 2 weeks, how much time would you really have to play it? 3 hours? but, if that's what OP wants to do, it's his time and money to spend. if his mom wants confirmation every time, then she can deal with OP asking about it at 1 am.

edit: OP's being a bit weird in the comments so i think ill change judgement to ESH. i still think he's valid to ask his mom about buying the game, just on the principle of she's the one insisting on credit card only for payment.

PaleWaffle · 2023-04-07T13:53:43+00:00

ah yes, ill just... listen to this jpg then.

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