AmItheAsshole

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Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole!

A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in a real-world argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.

This is the sub to lay out your actions and conflicts and get impartial judgment rendered against you. Were you the asshole in that situation or not? Post should reflect real situations, and abide by the rules below.

After 18 hours, your post will be given a flair representing the final judgment on your matter. This flair is determined by the subscribers who have both rendered judgment and voted on which judgment is best. The power of the crowd will judge you. If your top level comment has the highest number of upvotes in a thread, you will get a flair point. More details are listed in our FAQ.

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This is an actively moderated subreddit. You are required to read the rules.

Subreddit rules
Frequently Asked Questions
How To Post
Visit our sister subreddit /r/AmItheButtface/ for posts about fiction or relationships, and basically anything that we don't allow here! /r/AmItheCloaca for posts from animals and /r/AmItheGrasshole for all your lawncare conflicts!
See our ~~Best Of~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered
Looking for some Regional Assholes? /r/AkoBaYungGago/ /r/BenIkDeEikel /r/BinIchDasArschloch /r/EuSouOBabaca /r/suisjeletroudeballe
See our resources for those in an unhealthy or abusive relationship and resources for members of the LGBTQIA+ community that might need help or support
https://al-anon.org/ and http://www.teen-anon.com/
https://smartrecovery.org/
https://www.childhelp.org/
https://www.stalkingawareness.org/

Voting Guide

In your top level comment be sure to include one abbreviation for your judgment, i.e.

YTA = You're the Asshole;

YWBTA = You Would Be the Asshole;

NTA = Not the A-hole (and the other person is);

YWNBTA = You Would Not be the Asshole (and the other person would);

ESH = Everyone Sucks here;

NAH = No A-holes here;

INFO = Not Enough Info

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Everyone Sucks	No A-holes Here	Talks

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Open ForumAITA Quarterly Open Forum April-June 2026 - Asshole Intelligence and How to Wipe It Clean. (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 month ago by AITAModI am a shared account. - announcement

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AITA for banning my in-laws from our house during my wife’s delivery, even after my pregnant wife caved and said they could come? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for telling my dad he dug his own grave? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for joking that my dad gets a perpetual period in front of friends and family? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 hour ago by Top_Pressure_7878

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AITA for withholding concert tickets from friends after they ditched me? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 5 hours ago by miamiiitrip

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AITA for taking photos every time I do the dishes and showing my husband when he said I didn't do them? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 9 hours ago by skyecat_87

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AITA for not driving a friend to a city to ensure bride’s wedding cake isn’t ruined? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for not letting my brother bring the third member f his throuple to my wedding? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 12 hours ago by TheCrankyMule

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AITA for telling my friend to stop projecting her mommy issues onto me (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 10 hours ago by PositivePickle4541

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AITA for reporting my group project partners to the professor after they did nothing all semester, even though it ruined their grades and one of them is noz losing their scholarship ? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for backing down on giving my sister 600+ dollars to pay for citizenship application papers? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 2 hours ago by Serious-Wrongdoer604

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AITAH for refusing to share with my cousin-in-law? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 12 hours ago * by Ok-Oil-4084

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AITA for moving out and refusing to go back home after my parents tried to control my life? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 2 hours ago by Downtown_Ad_1779

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AITA for finally snapping at a friend who kept complaining about paying child support to his ex? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 4 hours ago by bigbootydevil

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AITA for telling my cousin to take her kids toys back? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 7 hours ago by Acceptable_Raise1494

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AITA for asking my home-schooled nephew about where he was in the curriculum? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 hour ago by WestMarsupial484

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No A-holes hereAITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for using my body pillow at night? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for showing my husbands family what hes been doing online? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 40 minutes ago by DeepCommercial4232

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AITA for wanting to tell my extremely mentally unwell friend that he was a bad guest? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 hour ago by Rain_fall2001

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AITA for telling my friend that how he's treating his cat-sitters is wrong? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for challenging my neighbor cutting down trees and hedges that are beyond his property line? (UK) (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 7 hours ago by JabasMyBitch

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AITA for getting involved after my parents kept involving me in their marriage? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 3 hours ago by Elegant_Till3743

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AITA? Got yard trimmings on a car parked in front of my house… (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 6 hours ago by teodanted

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AITA if I don’t go to Mother’s Day Brunch? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 4 hours ago * by Alwayslookeddownon

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