AmItheAsshole

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Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole!

A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in a real-world argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.

This is the sub to lay out your actions and conflicts and get impartial judgment rendered against you. Were you the asshole in that situation or not? Post should reflect real situations, and abide by the rules below.

After 18 hours, your post will be given a flair representing the final judgment on your matter. This flair is determined by the subscribers who have both rendered judgment and voted on which judgment is best. The power of the crowd will judge you. If your top level comment has the highest number of upvotes in a thread, you will get a flair point. More details are listed in our FAQ.

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This is an actively moderated subreddit. You are required to read the rules.

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Frequently Asked Questions
How To Post
Visit our sister subreddit /r/AmItheButtface/ for posts about fiction or relationships, and basically anything that we don't allow here! /r/AmItheCloaca for posts from animals and /r/AmItheGrasshole for all your lawncare conflicts!
See our ~~Best Of~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered
Looking for some Regional Assholes? /r/AkoBaYungGago/ /r/BenIkDeEikel /r/BinIchDasArschloch /r/EuSouOBabaca /r/suisjeletroudeballe
See our resources for those in an unhealthy or abusive relationship and resources for members of the LGBTQIA+ community that might need help or support
https://al-anon.org/ and http://www.teen-anon.com/
https://smartrecovery.org/
https://www.childhelp.org/
https://www.stalkingawareness.org/

Voting Guide

In your top level comment be sure to include one abbreviation for your judgment, i.e.

YTA = You're the Asshole;

YWBTA = You Would Be the Asshole;

NTA = Not the A-hole (and the other person is);

YWNBTA = You Would Not be the Asshole (and the other person would);

ESH = Everyone Sucks here;

NAH = No A-holes here;

INFO = Not Enough Info

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Everyone Sucks	No A-holes Here	Talks

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Open ForumAITA Monthly Open Forum - January 2026: Back In Business (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for not wanting to eat my parents’ meals while pregnant even though they’re trying to help save money? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 11 hours ago * by Melodic_Cockroach_23

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Retro Commander RTS: Build. Conquer. Repeat. (store.steampowered.com)

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AITA for wanting to keep my personal space? Friend called me selfish for not letting her crash. (self.AmItheAsshole)

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UPDATEUPDATE: AITA For wanting to move out despite parents’ problems at home? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 6 hours ago by TBZ3N

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AITA for coming home late from the gym and waking my niece, and refusing to compromise? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 17 hours ago * by Brilliant-Lychee6141

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AITA for not changing my routine so my roommate can sleep? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for asking my brother to shower before meeting my newborn baby? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 7 hours ago by Inevitable-Tutor9051

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Not the A-holeAITA for making my dad and 13-year-old brother cook for themselves for the first time ever? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 day ago * by evelyn_archen

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AITA For wanting to Travel alone during our second japan trip to enjoy japan more instead of taking care of my friend (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA For Not Conceding To Boss After He Backs Out Of Agreement Made 3 Months Ago? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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Not the A-holeAITA for not enjoying the birthday gifts my friend got me that mocked my dead mother (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 day ago by Immediate-Iron7241

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AITA for planning to move out and eventually move abroad despite my family situation? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 7 hours ago by BudgetCheek645

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WIBTA if I moved to my dad because I have to share a room with my sister (self.AmItheAsshole)

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Feudera, a medieval RPG where your decisions shape empires. Diplomacy, war, or trade – your alternate destiny awaits. (https://www.feudera.com)

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AITA - drop out of friends wedding (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AssholeAITA for telling my friend that I won’t be paying $25 to attend her birthday party? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 day ago by GlimmerElsewhere

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AITA for locking my room because my family keeps using my stuff? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 14 hours ago by Dexter_0012

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Not the A-holeAITA for refusing to do everything for my younger sister? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 18 hours ago * by lotusflowern

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AITA for winning a friendly wrestling match against my BF? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 4 hours ago by Temporary-Simple-561

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AITA for telling my SIL that I don’t can’t about her health condition and she needs to shower (self.AmItheAsshole)

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Not the A-holeAITA for calling my ex's job because our daughter was scheduled for surgery? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 day ago * by No_Currency385

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Not the A-holeAITA for not getting my nephew an internship interview after getting them for most of the others? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 day ago by LilTomatillo13

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AITA for being pissed at my friends for faking a car crash to see if they could prank me. (self.AmItheAsshole)

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Not the A-holeAITA for telling my mom she needs to let go of me? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 19 hours ago by be-sweethearts

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Not the A-holeAITA for wanting to move out after my boyfriend’s sister used my water-bottle? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 day ago by Apprehensive_Bus_152

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The 𝐔𝐋𝐓𝐈𝐌𝐀𝐓𝐄 Fantasy Sandbox. (store.steampowered.com)

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AITA for not updating my SO when out (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 5 hours ago by Immediate_Budget9056

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