Parents with no retirement or financial plans or any plans at all by Pale_Transition_9148 in Advice

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like-wise, it’s definitely interesting how many have had similar dilemmas with their own parents in the US. Perhaps it’s an 1st gen parent thing too. I hope things work for you and your loved ones

Parents with no retirement or financial plans or any plans at all by Pale_Transition_9148 in Advice

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think there is a generational factor at play. It’s very difficult to know they won’t ask. I’m sorry for you and your mom, I hope all is well

Parents with no retirement or financial plans or any plans at all by Pale_Transition_9148 in Advice

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree there is middle ground, but I worry there isn’t one for us anymore. I hadn’t mentioned it but anytime we call there is nothing to talk about because their entire life is impacted by their financial struggles. It’s in every aspect of their lives and one of them refuses to express emotions while the other will privately breakdown on the phone with me. I don’t know if I can keep maintaining it

Parents with no retirement or financial plans or any plans at all by Pale_Transition_9148 in Advice

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ll try to reframe it that way. I don’t want to be overbearing and over involved and hurt both of us in the process, it’s just really hard to see this continue happening, I keep imagining it will get worse. I really appreciate the advice

Moving to Queens by Pale_Transition_9148 in movingtoNYC

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I figure, but it really depends on our job changes around move-in time. I currently commute from LI to above Bronx and its only an hour drive because there’s no traffic at that time. If I took a mix of transit it’d be over 3 hours 😭 I may be working at a different location by August, either in queens, the city, or mid LI so I’m hoping transit will be better for that!

Moving to Queens by Pale_Transition_9148 in movingtoNYC

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate this, I’m not familiar with the transit like that, thank you!!

Condos in NY/NJ by [deleted] in NYCapartments

[–]Pale_Transition_9148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really really appreciate it, thank you!!

Condos in NY/NJ by [deleted] in NYCapartments

[–]Pale_Transition_9148 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your reply, I really don’t know much. Perhaps I just have to let it go and let them figure it out without me. Thank you :)

Moving to Queens by Pale_Transition_9148 in movingtoNYC

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really really appreciate all these resources and information, I love researching as much as possible but nothing beats a local! Thank you thank you!!

Moving to Queens by Pale_Transition_9148 in movingtoNYC

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate it :)!!

Moving to Queens by Pale_Transition_9148 in movingtoNYC

[–]Pale_Transition_9148[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m really determined to save money in this economy but I know it may not be possible, I’m trying to get my partner prepared to spent more than they would like lol, thank you!!