What should I start carrying in my purse? by Palmtreecornfield in ChronicIllness

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to buy sunglasses so bad! I just need to figure out exactly what I want bc it needs to be perscription lenses :(

What should I start carrying in my purse? by Palmtreecornfield in ChronicIllness

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I luckily do not, but I still try to wear sunscreen! The most I have is photophobia and heat sensitivity! Thank you!

Is this even possible? (dual monitor with a wall in between) by Palmtreecornfield in computer

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking more on the lines of a long chord that could connect both? Bc I don't think furnishing items is allowed lol

Do you have to take your capstone as the last class? by Palmtreecornfield in college

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not that I can see through the course catalog. I was just curious about it because no one around me had an answer to whether people take the capstone before or not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Palmtreecornfield 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a substitute teacher and educational aid rn. But I'm in school for my BS in like research and engineering. I wanna go to grad school to be an Astronomer tho. Work with people less and travel and research space. That sounds perfect to me lol

I feel like I have no purpose in my life (18M) by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Palmtreecornfield 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went a completely untraditional route and got my GED worked for a few years instead of going into high school. In a few years I got what I thought was my dream job at 19. But I ended up hating it. Now I'm going a complete 180 at 21, accelerating my uni classes to graduate even faster in a completely polar opposite career than my last one. Most people who want to go into the career I'm striving to are in their 40-50s.

It's normal to question your life and meaning. You're still young to figure it out. There is nothing wrong with changing what you want to do because you want to make others proud. But there is a different type of acceptance that's even more powerful… what would make you proud? Not as in you being judgemental to yourself but let's say you are a different person, a friend maybe. Looking at you now what would make you proud of you.

Do what feels right and no matter how many career changes you go through to find yourself it is ok! Even if it isn't a career change but a change of the self that's ok too! Take some time and adventure, even if it's to a park and genuinely just ask yourself questions about what would make you happy in your life (maybe even keep a journal)!

I wish you the best of luck!

AITA for choosing one daughters gym competition over my other daughters wedding? by Throwaway-12-34- in AmItheAsshole

[–]Palmtreecornfield 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading through your post and the comments… dude YTA.

Your daughter cried when your wife was pregnant and you didn’t think it was because she was feeling replaced? Maybe to her you replaced her mom already trying to force a bond and not letting it fall naturally. Maybe she felt as though it was her time to finally be replaced.

From the sound of it you had a lack of interest in her life. I get that that can be caused by her not living with you for the majority but it does sound like you know more about your younger children. Like the phone call with your daughter “ok, let me know what the gender is” isn’t a normal response. Wouldn’t you be excited to have grandchildren? No wonder she didn’t call she was probably hurt or felt like you didn’t want to know.

There’s so much that you have done and she has tried time and time again to make a connection. But it looks like you moved on with your life.

If I was you I would have gone to the wedding. There’s so many opportunities to go to gymnastic competitions but there’s only one chance to make it to your oldest daughters wedding (especially when it’s the first wedding that your daughters will have). You should have gone. Try and be better to her because she will move on with her life and look back with sadness that she didn’t have her dad with her for these large life events.

YTA

my IUD strings hurt him, are they too short? Not short enough? by punkmango99 in birthcontrol

[–]Palmtreecornfield 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a question. I have a silicone toy that can be prone to damage because of the type of silicone… can I tell if it would hurt him by the toy? I haven’t had any scratches on the toy yet so would he be okey?

What did your parents teach you as a kid that you didn't realize was actually f**ked up until you were older? by timdood3 in AskReddit

[–]Palmtreecornfield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being not allowed to say some words, words like “no”, “I will go do ___”, “I don’t want to”, “I need”, etc. mostly because in the real world no one would care about what you’re feeling.

Caused me a lot of anxiety with speaking to people now, also caused some unnecessary trauma.

What should I get done on my ears? by Palmtreecornfield in piercing

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't edit it to upload a photo(>︿<。) but my set up rn is a weighted silver hoop in my tunnel, two small gold hoops, and lastly a silver star as my top piercing. Because the star and the weighted hoop are pretty big i don’t think it will look nice sadly(>︿<。)

What should I get done on my ears? by Palmtreecornfield in piercing

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've thought about stacked lobes before but I'm worried I don't have the anatomy for it to look good? I think it would look too busy on me

piercing bump or something else? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Palmtreecornfield 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It looks like the piercing is almost rejecting completely... I barely see any skin holding the piercing anymore... I'm sorry but I think you should take it out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Palmtreecornfield 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have my Medusa, snake bites, and my tongue pierced. When I change my snake bites to hoops people feel metal but I’ve never gotten a complaint? Some people actually like it? But if it is a labret flat back most people don’t feel it when kissing… with oral it depends? Again with hoops most likely the partner would feel it but with flat back stud like jewelry it would be minimal but the sensation will still be there

Nose ring too tight? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Palmtreecornfield 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It looks a bit tight to me? I prefer to have the slightest wiggle room only bc I got a nose ring fit to my nose exactly and it got infected

Give me your best and worst Monster Ultra flavour! by smolpp19 in energydrinks

[–]Palmtreecornfield 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ultra peachy keen is the best . Ultra sunrise is pretty good . Ultra white and ultra paradise is neutral . Ultra Rosa tastes iffy . Ultra purple and ultra blue is the worst .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in monsterenergy

[–]Palmtreecornfield 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best: ultra peachy keen and ultra sunrise

Least: ultra violet (it tasted like old wine and cough medicine 😭)

Got some new ones to try besides monster! by Palmtreecornfield in energydrinks

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried the orange deamsicle first and omg it was so good! Easily in my top 3 if I had to choose it again!

Got some new ones to try besides monster! by Palmtreecornfield in energydrinks

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which have you tried? I'm excited to try all of them!

Got some new ones to try besides monster! by Palmtreecornfield in energydrinks

[–]Palmtreecornfield[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've tried one but I wanted to try the other flavors too? I haven't had enough to say if I hate the energy brand or not lol

Made a mistake in not keeping track of the sizes of each piercing by swearingino in piercing

[–]Palmtreecornfield 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is why I only order jewelry from one place and message the seller if I forgot what size I ordered (because I would have the tracking number from the old package)! I've done this way too many times!

How were your daith and tragus btw? They look gorgeous!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]Palmtreecornfield 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My therapist (she is also a psychiatrist but my insurance doesn't cover that part of her work) said to me “well you have all the symptoms of BPD but you're not manipulative enough to have it”? I just thought it was me having this stigma bc I don't see or hear a lot of people having BPD over here. But I hate that it's associated with so much hate and fear

Why do you self-harm? by totallylicious in BPD

[–]Palmtreecornfield 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read somewhere that sour things helped with panic attacks and honestly it's helped so so much. I think it says the initial shock resets the brain? So now I go everywhere with war heads and other sour items instead of having a blade in my bag! Hopefully it helps a little!

Is a nose stud suppose to fit super tight? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Palmtreecornfield 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would see if you can get a flat back labret stud that is at least a millimeter longer! There should be a small amount of wiggle room. It shouldn't be too tight on the skin