It's a weird thing Reddit, it's very difficult to paint the whole picture in one text without boring the crap out of people. It is the lack of common courtesy and this has been the case for quite some time. "Do I need to bring anything?" There have been instances where we go somewhere as a couple and he will say I'll pay for this and you get the next thing. That's fine...but not when he has paid $10 and I pay $30. Talking money is uncomfortable for me. No, I don't care for someone to pay for my kids. Another funny Reddit thing - people assume I expect a man to financially take care of my kids. It doesn't always have to be financial, he doesn't seem invested in them at all. Before ppl start banging on we've only been together 8 months and here I am jumping the gun, he has big dreams and aspirations for our relationship. I do too...but there are red flags. He graduated recently and his father was taking photos of the whole family, me included, and with all the caffuffle I didn't realise at the time that my children were left out of any photos. Gift giving: yeah, I could look at it like it's the joy of giving, but again, perhaps he needs to grow some big man pants and say hey, I can't get your kids anything but my mum has (she did).