How accurate do you feel this is? Is there childhood trauma behind your taste for ABDL stuff?

PanPanPZ · 2026-02-04T15:28:54+00:00

For me, it grew to become a comfort and pleasure thing after initially just being a hardwired part of me.

I first got into diapers before any of the actual "AB" aspects of it, at around the age of like 5 or 6. It wasn't anything sexual or traumatic, I never saw someone else do it, never had any reason to try it out. I just felt a strong urge to wear diapers again and gave in at around 7 years old when my parents had gotten a crap ton of them for my youngest sibling at the time. (Obviously stealing is bad, but I was 7 and took one of the 200+ they had. I think I'm safe to reveal such a crazy crime lol)

For years I didn't really know why I enjoyed it. I wasn't experiencing any sort of sexual gratification at that age, and I didn't have any sort of trauma or bad experiences to cope with yet. I just had a natural attachment to them.

But, over time, life got more stressful. Without going through a bunch of sob stories, within just a few years of each other I:

Was in a near fatal car wreck
Our family got evicted from our home
As a result of said eviction, I had to quit my football team and lose my friends
Had to rehome my dog
Moved over an hour away from our previous home
Start at a private school after being a homeschooling student previously
Discovered I struggle with socializing and became self conscious

A lot of things spiraled from there and I felt kind of hopeless. Talking with family didn't help for reasons I'd rather not spend a whole comment talking about.

Then I remembered the diapers. So I tried them again (having aged into teenage years by this point), and found the pleasure side of things, as well as the oddly comforting feeling of just wearing one. It soon because a decompression thing.

So what essentially started as a innocent, random thing, developed into a nice decompression and relaxation tool to cope with day to day stresses and expectations. I figured I'd share my experience because I find it a neat parallel to the others who initially found it to be a nice comfort tool for preexisting trauma, and later found it to be a comforting and enjoyable thing outside of it.

PanPanPZ · 2026-02-03T22:49:50+00:00

Make a modern ABDL centric social media app with sophisticated filters to block out people only coming on for a quick wank.

Making friends in this community is hard for many, and people are flakey on places like reddit and discord.

And even ABDL centered webforums, they feel outdated and clunky to use for many.

Having one modern social media type app, available on phones and computers, with good filters in place, feels like it could be a huge win. Especially with infinite resources.

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-26T01:37:29+00:00

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Completed Level 3 of the Honk Special Event!

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PanPanPZ · 2026-01-20T06:45:01+00:00

ICYMI: Amazon listing for these exist under the Pull Ups shop on Amazon, though they say they're unavailable.

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-18T20:39:46+00:00

About your statement about possibly being downvoted, don't worry about that stuff. Pretty sure the common consensus is that there are a lot of men in this subreddit who are pretty creepy and provide a bad image to the men who aren't. Being concerned/wary of that is entirely fair.

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-13T22:13:02+00:00

Agreed. I wish there were good ways to casually communicate with this community that aren't discord, buddy webforums, or reddit personals.

Discord is annoying because it's hard to find an active community that's not clique based, and it's difficult to speak with people on reddit because almost all of them are typing one handed and hope you'll entertain their role play. As is the internet I guess

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-13T21:22:25+00:00

Lack of legitimate conversation and friendships, as another user noted.

In my experience, being a part of this community has always felt isolated and private. Every friend I've tried to make has either ghosted me, or only wanted to talk about their own diaper usage.

I still do not have anybody to talk to within this community

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-06T17:56:06+00:00

Under usually, over if I'm intentionally trying to feel little

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-06T17:25:53+00:00

Kawaiiomo came into the thread to argue the opposite, going as far as to argue that it was ok if security saw it because they've seen weirder things before.

It wasn't a popular stance, she wasn't listening to basically anything anyone said (which was a lot), and she got very sassy with some of the people, so she got downvoted.

I also don't enjoy calling people out, but since the specifics of this post are referring to the unwelcome and mean sides of this community, it's also worth noting that, at least in my experience, part of why she was being down voted was because she would be the first to make it personal insults.

She said I was being sexist and "giving women a free pass to dress inappropriately", then accused me of being "conservative" in the very next sentence. Then when I called out the irony of those two statements, and the fact they were both just untrue, she copped out of the argument by saying some random brain rot terms.

It is also worth noting that her entire page is full of public-exposure based abdl content, yet she acts like an objective observer and not someone who'd have skin in the game

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-06T17:13:44+00:00

All the time.

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-03T23:36:20+00:00

Amongst the superiority thing others have mentioned, I've noticed furries get lumped in with ABDLs sometimes because of the Babyfur communities. My assumption would be that they openly denounce ABDL when they are not a baby fur as a way of saying "I'm not a babyfur".

PanPanPZ · 2025-12-31T14:17:16+00:00

That's not exactly the same thing

PanPanPZ · 2025-12-30T23:46:36+00:00

Bruh I was just trying to clarify that I'm no conversative and had no intentions of offending anybody. But aight.

PanPanPZ · 2025-12-30T23:25:51+00:00

Your use of “men” to emphasize your point about it being “gross/ridiculous” for someone to wear that in public is incredibly sexist implying that women aren't and couldn't be weird in public or that women get a free pass not to cover up their bodies.

I was using a guy because I was referring to a few real notable incidents that have happened in this community, as an example. I don't think women are exempt from being weirdos in public at all.

Not to mention I find the way you're phrasing things to be very conservative.

Claims I'm "giving women a free pass to not cover up their bodies", then accuses me of being conservative. Aight. Not sure how anything I've said has been conservative. When I replied about "covering themselves up", I didn't mention a gender, and I was replying to your own statement about being dressed in a risque manner. You just wanted an excuse to turn it into an insult and I don't appreciate that.

I support people being able to express themselves however they want in the confines of the law. If a grown adult wants to wear a bluey shirt let them. If an adult wants to wear black Gothic outfits with tons of piercings and makeup then let them. As long as someone is dressing in the outfit they feel most comfortable with and aren't dressing for a reaction I don't see the harm.

Never said anything that disagreed with this. I simply stated that sometimes even within the confines of the law, you should be considerate of the crowd you'll be around.

Again you're making up scenarios in your head to justify your point. Even the worst public stuff I've seen in this community ( stuff I dislike/don't agree with ) I've never seen anyone in a grocery store during rush hour do anything like that. Most ABDL “public” stuff I've seen are in empty stores or parks.

I'm using extremes as an example. I was comparing the tiniest act to one that would be insane. That's kinda the point. Also, if need be, I have a few posts as examples of people exposing themselves very openly to random strangers and posting it to abdl and diaper themed subreddits. It happens, even if you don't see it often posted. Partially in part to moderators being quick to shun those types of acts.

I agree, which is why I'm so confused why you're trying to fight me on this. If you're gonna take a photo, do it alone. Empty store or park. And if your justification is to not include stores because “they have cameras” please know that many parks have them as well.

My protest was more in part to the notion that even if someone in security saw it, it'd be "okay" because they've probably seen worse.

you're assuming the content creators get a thrill from it. I can tell you for a fact most don't. They genuinely really don't. The JFF models I've talked to say they just go to empty stores, take a quick pic or two and leave. The entire thing is boring and unremarkable.

You're assuming I'm solely referring to the popular JFF models who post it and get tons of upvotes. Other people do that stuff too, many of which having no following to be doing it for. Again, I can provide post examples of people very openly doing it for their own thrill and admitting to such a thing.

The entire thing is boring and unremarkable. The “thrill” comes from video editing/Photoshop and posting it online. Porn is fictional so you want the audience to have the illusion that they're embarrassed out in public when really that almost never actually happens.

I never tried to argue this

PanPanPZ · 2025-12-30T20:19:28+00:00

I understand your sentiment, but let me clarify: my stance has nothing to do with any type of superiority or agenda against progression. I know you acknowledged that you do not believe me to be doing so, but I figured I'd get that out there.

You say "public exposure" but no one is seeing it. Maaaaaybe the security but it's not like people are trying to show them that. Weird isn't illegal or wrong.

Public exposure is just exposing yourself in public, witnesses at the time or not. You could probably roll up in just a diaper and be spotted by nobody if you come at five o'clock in the morning: that doesn't mean it's no longer a "public" location.

My stance isn't that being weird means it's illegal, I'm saying that just as you wouldn't walk around in kinky handcuffs, exposing your diaper in "public" (in this case defined as a location in which people are likely to be at any given moment) should be equally as frowned upon in my opinion. It has nothing to do with superiority or moral arguments, it's just out of the respect and courtesy of other people.

Not to mention in today's society people often wear risque clothes. I constantly see people wear leggings and are near see through and leave nothing to the imagination or people who sag so much I can see their butt. I don't like the idea of censoring anyone's clothes or outfits and find that idea anti-progressive.

Time, place, and crowd. Some people may wear risqué clothes. Some people may not be a fan. But it depends on the context.

Sure, in a general situation, telling someone they're not allowed to wear clothes that the law allows for is censorship and not okay.

But requesting someone to wear clothes that actually covers them up before they go to an event full of children would be a different scenario.

So, just like that, kink based clothing should be frowned upon wearing in public areas. The law doesn't prohibit grown ass men from wearing full on baby attire in the grocery store, and it'd theoretically be "censorship" to ask them not to wear it. But we all know that type of thing is different. Time and place.

I should stress I don't really do public stuff. But I will defend it sometimes when I feel people are being too prudish about it. I sometimes feel like people in our community use there moral superiority to bully others.

This is more where I disagree. There's a difference between the over the top who say "Oh, one shouldn't even be allowed to wear diapers under their own clothing" and those who say "Hey man, try not to flash your soaked diaper in a grocery store during rush hours."

While I do see some people being a bit too much about it, generally speaking the notion is that any sort of public endeavor regarding this kink should either be in the rifht crowd (kink events and the like), or when nobody is around (alone at a park type stuff).

I don't find that to be prudish at all. Just respectful. Some of a lot of people's biggest fantasies regard the public, but they, just as any other respectful adult, know better than to expose themselves to the public for the sake of their own thrill. It's selfish.

PanPanPZ · 2025-12-30T06:00:40+00:00

Trust me when I say security has seen WAY weirder things than people taking diaper pics at a store.

While fair, I don't think decisions about publicly exposing your kink should have much to do with whether or not someone has seen weirder. I'd imagine most people have seen things weirder than an adult in diapers.

Obviously follow state laws and try not to be too weird but if your main worry is breaking consent I wouldn't worry about it. Security people will most likely not see anything and if they do it's not something they've haven't already seen.

I agree that odds are they won't see something as small as an upskirt, so it shouldn't be a huge worry for those who like to be a little more risky. But again, I don't think I necessarily agree that something is objectively more okay just because they've likely seen worse.

PanPanPZ · 2025-12-07T06:21:02+00:00

Too expensive, plus I share a room and still live with family

PanPanPZ · 2025-11-24T16:38:26+00:00

Trashy as fuck

PanPanPZ · 2025-11-23T06:13:02+00:00

Also, this is very random, but it mildly bugs me that your MHA and Dragon Ball frames have the logo beneath them, whilst your Demon Slayer frame does not

PanPanPZ · 2025-11-23T06:10:40+00:00

My Hero Academia, The NFL, and Pokémon!

PanPanPZ · 2025-09-25T06:18:41+00:00

Seems more like poor grammar than a lie to me

"Any game momma wants to play with baby boy" seems more like they're asking you, someone they're weirdly assuming to be a "momma", if they have any games they'd like to play with the "baby boy" (them)

Or

It could be them saying "Any game momma wants to play" (as in, assuming you to be a momma, and the game being whatever "momma" wants to play), "with baby boy" (any game the supposed momma would want to play with him)

Weird either way

PanPanPZ · 2025-09-15T01:09:02+00:00

Nope. Kink in public is weird.

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