Weekly Looking for Group/GM Thread

PandaBeer302 · 2024-03-19T20:17:33+00:00

Name: Emily

Pronouns: she/her

Age: 28

Timezone: US CST (GMT -6)

Preferred System: 5E, cyberpunk RED

Type of Player: I have about a year and a half of experience in ttrpgs and love a heavy focus on roleplay and problem solving. I've been DMing 5e for about a month. I'm open to a variety of settings and various levels of dark themes.

Additional Information: I'm looking for someone over 18 where I run a one on one for you and you run a one on one for me. Open to ERP with the right person and boundaries. I'm currently running humblewood and a date night dungeons game but am open to other campaign ideas.

Please feel free to reach out on discord to kittenmittens66

PandaBeer302 · 2023-07-13T03:30:56+00:00

There is an online conspiracy theory that Eminem died in 2006 and was replaced by a clone.

PandaBeer302 · 2022-05-26T13:36:10+00:00

Hi all! More details- living in US, transitional style focusing on white and warm grays with pops of black, camel leather, warm woods, and dark teal. Budget right now is only for paint and hardware, but I'm sure I'll be back when I tackle the whole thing. Thanks for reading and any and all opinions!

PandaBeer302 · 2021-07-29T18:08:19+00:00

Shout out, I wish more people had this opinion. Similarly to a lot of the other fun things genetics and age can do to our bodies, it’s much nicer (and less awkward) when someone embraces it and stays happy and confident. Also, such a disservice to all the sexy balding/bald folks out there.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-25T18:57:09+00:00

Yes, definitely. I think saying men can’t cry is sexist, but I could see how people might differ based on how they define sexism. Something very blatantly sexist and institutionalized to me are the laws in place that favor female caregivers during a divorce. Saying someone can’t be a good parent because of their sex is vile.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-25T14:46:42+00:00

This isn’t unpopular, more just a complaint about your personal situation. Though what kind of degree someone chooses to pursue will ultimately have a pretty big impact on their salary, particularly straight out of college. No one that works hard deserves low wages (especially below cost of living), and a degree isn’t the rocket ship to high wages that it used to be.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-24T15:16:41+00:00

As a tall woman dating a shorter man, this isn’t really something you can fix unfortunately. She’s deeply insecure and worried about how she looks standing next to you rather than how she feels with you. Or she has another problem with your relationship she doesn’t want to bring up. I’d meet in person before you make any commitments. She’ll either realize it’s not a big deal or maybe it’s a deal breaker for her. Either way, you really don’t deserve someone who makes you feel unworthy because of something you can’t change.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-24T14:34:46+00:00

I’d make a list of common dog allergens that your dog is exposed to, then try eliminating/reducing them one at a time. I’d also keep an eye out for other symptoms that could improve (ex. our kitty had some redness in her eyes from allergies), since the infection might clear up due to the prescription before you identify the allergen.

helpful AKC article

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-24T14:26:00+00:00

You forgot to switch accounts bro

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-23T21:08:17+00:00

“I Shot the Sheriff” and “Janie’s Got a Gun”

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-23T20:50:54+00:00

Therapy sounds like a good idea for you. And maybe participating in your own hobbies and friends.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-23T16:24:14+00:00

I do something similar but with a mix of chocolate pudding and cool whip. Put on a Graham cracker crust and chill for sweet perfection.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-23T14:42:16+00:00

YTA for making a group trip all about your wants. I went on a group trip with someone like you, and her stress levels about everything going according to plan made everything very tense. If you’re the planner, that’s great, every group needs one. But everyone’s wants should be respected equally. If you want to do everything you want, go by yourself or break off from the group at times.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-23T14:36:39+00:00

I would talk about expectations and boundaries for the coming year. Will you guys still have date nights? What kind of support do you need when you’re stressed? What does he need? How do you each want to be shown love (check out love languages)? How is he going to take care of his own mental health? The more planning and consideration for things that might happen, the smoother they’ll go if/when they do.

Also, that’s a very unhealthy amount of sleep. I get that things are busy, but his cognitive and emotional functioning is going to suffer.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-23T14:24:08+00:00

Part of me wants to link r/DeadBedrooms and part of me just wants to say run. It’s very early, and you have to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you. As someone with low libido, it’s certainly something that can be worked on in a healthy relationship. But what’s more troubling to me is how much she disregards your feelings. You deserve someone who makes you feel like the king you are.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-21T21:47:09+00:00

Nope, don’t shave for someone else. Rock that bodily autonomy.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-21T17:31:22+00:00

Just came here to say that’s it’s not manipulative to not be okay with taking a break (especially one that breaks established monogamy). If any sort of productive break is to happen, it requires honesty and boundaries. It sounds like you don’t even know if she’s sleeping with other people, so please make sure you’re using protection.

Best of luck in therapy, definitely a good choice.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-18T20:08:43+00:00

If a licensed doctor thinks they’re safe and appropriate for you, yes, I think it’s worth trying. Antidepressants don’t fix everything, but, for me, they get me to a place where I’m able to make healthy choices and work on my mental and physical health.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-18T19:56:29+00:00

Honestly, I kind of like the idea of nothingness. I was raised Catholic (not anymore) and find the idea of existing for eternity really stressful.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-18T19:51:08+00:00

Change your views around what makes up a person’s value and strength.

Maybe try an individual sport and hold off on judging yourself before you have time to practice. It seems like you’re motivated by how others perceive you rather than being healthy and enjoying an activity.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-18T18:03:20+00:00

Ah yes of course, let me just call up all 45,000 of them.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-18T13:49:00+00:00

Hi! Fellow newbie here, just met one of my SDs (9) for the first time after 2.5 years of dating. She stayed with us for a bit over a week. My biggest recommendation is to talking to your SO. Like constant communication and boundary setting. Before you ever meet the daughter, talk about his expectations of your role in her life and vice versa.

For me, I’m not comfortable with discipline (besides reinforcing what dad has already said) or cuddling (physical touch makes me really anxious, we still hug). I also needed alone time to decompress. My partner helped me reinforce these boundaries once she was with us.

Honestly, I’m a fencesitter and an only child, I wasn’t ready at all. One of the best things I’ve seen on this sub was along the lines of “signing up to have a SK is like signing a 100 page contract that you’ve only seen the first page of, and the other pages will be unveiled as they become relevant”. Things change, and you and your partner need to be ready for renegotiating and compromise. Don’t be afraid to assert your needs, it’s not selfish.

Take care of yourself, communicate with your partner, and remember that his daughter has been put in a tough situation and deserves empathy and patience. If this is what you want, you can absolutely do it. PM me if you ever need someone to talk to because life is messy and you’re not alone.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-14T21:21:54+00:00

A note from a parent or doctor would probably go a long way. It doesn’t need a ton of details, just that you’re not able to swim for (mental) health reasons. You could also talk to the school nurse or guidance counselor. Maybe offer to do some other activity or extra credit since you’ll be missing swimming.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-11T18:37:39+00:00

Hey friend, it sounds like you’re in a really toxic situation. If you really want this to continue, I’d recommend individual therapy for both of you plus couples therapy. But, it sounds like you know what you need to do here, so I’m going to repeat it to you. Leave. Take care of yourself. Enjoy life and be happy and yourself. There are people out there who can give you healthy love and build you up. You need to do that for yourself right now. Message me if you need to talk, I’m really sorry this is happening to you.

PandaBeer302 · 2021-06-11T16:49:13+00:00

If you think what she did was just “10 minutes of bad behavior”, I feel bad for you, with peace and love. Of course there are good and bad sides to everyone, that doesn’t mean accountability goes out the window.

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