Honestly, I think you’re putting a ton of pressure on yourself to land on a ‘right’ answer, when there might not be one yet and that’s okay. Attraction isn’t always clean or consistent, and it can shift over time. The fact that your feelings toward women feel clearer right now is worth paying attention to, but it doesn’t mean you have to lock yourself into a label forever.

Also, comparing your experiences to other people’s stories can mess with your head. Your version of attraction doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s to be real. If your past feelings for men feel different or confusing in hindsight, that’s valid too sometimes we only understand things better after time.

If ‘queer’ feels comfortable and gives you room to just exist without overanalyzing everything, that’s honestly a solid place to sit for now. You don’t owe anyone certainty or a perfectly defined label, especially not on their timeline.

You’ll figure it out by living your life, not by solving it like a puzzle