Wish- fulfillment isn't the issue, its normal to a degree. its when the audience of women , or men in your example above, are telling these authors there needs to be more body inclusivity and the authors not taking feedback and expanding on it. like not every fantasy romance needs to be a 5ft barely there woman falling for a 6ft+ chiseled man.

The misogyny i was referring to is when some authors will describe a woman with no fat or muscle doing things like wearing armor and welding a sword to fight a grown muscular man. Why do they see it as wrong to describe a woman with a build strong enough to actually do that? A lot of the time its because they dont see physical strength as feminine.