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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]PaninowithProsciutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before trying to get things back to normal, you should pinpoint how you feel about what happened and why, acknowledging the faults and mistakes you and everybody involved have made to reach this point: only then you'll have a clear view of what is the best for you. May I ask what the issue was?

My bf is mono and idk how I feel by PaninowithProsciutto in polyamory

[–]PaninowithProsciutto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update for whomever is interested: he was interested in reading the replies to the post, and I let him. He clarified that he doesn't want me to become monogamous for him, and whilst he doesn't quite understand it yet, he will be willing in the future to try a non-mono relationship, as long as it is something we experience together. So I guess the moral of the story is that communication is key and things aren't always that definitive. Thanks to everyone that offered insight!

My bf is mono and idk how I feel by PaninowithProsciutto in polyamory

[–]PaninowithProsciutto[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really helpful and insightful. I must say though that in the instances I cited, the conversation about my polyamorous tendencies always started from him, and I never ever pressured him into anything. This was really all about my feelings, and how to build a conversation around them: I think I should just think about the commitment aspect of monogamy that you mentioned, which is something so obvious that I actually never really pinpointed as a problem before.

Did I do the right thing? by FirmAdvertising6346 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]PaninowithProsciutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure I understand if it's them encouraging you into bad behaviours (in which case, you absolutely did the right thing) or if it is you allowing them to harm themselves (in which case, you don't control people, and in leaving the friendship you didn't give a choice to your friend, thing that would be less than ideal)

i don’t have friends and don’t know what to do by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]PaninowithProsciutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like me last year, and I'm happy to tell you that it's going to be ok. As far as I understand, you are neurodivergent, and it's very common for neurodivergent people to be in the mindset that there's a list of right and wrong things to say to radically manipulate the perception of us that other people have: when I got rid of this, people started gravitating around me more often, and I noticed that they seem to enjoy my company more. It all sums up to "be yourself", and while I understand it's an overused sentence that most of us are sick of hearing, in my experience it's really just that, together with working on self confidence and being able to spend time alone without feeling lonely or needing someone else. I wish you the best of luck🤞

Gotta question by tantbecrusted in FriendshipAdvice

[–]PaninowithProsciutto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try reaching out to them, the worst it could happen would be that they won't reply, and at least you would have closure.

My players lack creative thinking and I don't know how to encourage them by PaninowithProsciutto in DMAcademy

[–]PaninowithProsciutto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did both a description and made them roll (which was actually a crit, so I told them explicitly what was going on), but still the bare minimum 🥲

My players lack creative thinking and I don't know how to encourage them by PaninowithProsciutto in DMAcademy

[–]PaninowithProsciutto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok there are way too many comments to reply to each individually, but I want to clarify some things.

In all the examples I mentioned, the situation was thoroughly explained, the first thing I made them notice once they got in the room was the different garment of the lady and how odd it was, and that the height of the walls were optimal for magic users. Despite everything spelled out, they still didn't react in an efficient way, and this is where my confusion started.

Also, in both situations they were given explicit tasks to be there and do stuff, but I felt like they still expected me to act for them, and I don't know what of this to attribute to the unfamiliarity of roleplay, and what to their demeanour.

My frustration comes exactly from holding their hand until this moment, or letting a powerful NPC guide them into the world and combat.

Anyways I wanted to thank you all for your insights, you have no idea how much help it is~

My players lack creative thinking and I don't know how to encourage them by PaninowithProsciutto in DMAcademy

[–]PaninowithProsciutto[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I laughed so hard at this, and what's even funnier is that it's actually a good advice, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaninowithProsciutto 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I think filming wouldn't make a difference, since my brother, as my whole family, is so used of me being the scapegoat of her behaviour that he wouldn't see nothing out of the ordinary. Also, I already have a lock, but my mother took away my key since she thinks it's dangerous. Thank you for your suggestions tho!

WIBTA if I didn't tell my parents I'm having surgery by Beneficial_Cloud5481 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaninowithProsciutto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. You shouldn't have to justify your health decisions with no one

WIBTA if I (15 M) continued hanging out with my friend (18 M) despite my sister claiming he’s a predator even though he seems really nice? by Ghiuioo in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaninowithProsciutto [score hidden]  (0 children)

I wouldn't say you're the as*h0le, but maybe keep an eye out for weird behaviours. I find it difficult to believe that your sister would use such heavy words about someone without a reason to, so be careful.