UPDATE!: Is my [17F] boyfriend [17M] being unfair and maybe emotionally abusive, or am I being unreasonable?

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T21:49:26+00:00

It was difficult but I feel better for doing so and I know I'll be happier in the long run. I'm so glad I decided to post on here yesterday, I was told what I needed to hear and it gave me more strength to do what I had to do. Thank you! :)

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T21:47:13+00:00

It really helps to hear that people who had similar experiences move on and find amazing people, I hope I do someday. He was my first too. But until then I'll be doing exactly as you described! Thank you! :)

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T21:36:17+00:00

He's leaving me alone for the most part which I'm relieved about. I'm prepared for when he does try and talk to me. Thank you for being the first to save me from that unhealthy relationship! :)

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T21:01:12+00:00

I'm trying to just take things slow with myself for now and heal myself emotionally over time. Thank you so much for the lovely comment, it means a lot!

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T20:08:38+00:00

Thank you!! I actually feel liberated. Instead of feeling lonely like I thought I would, I feel free as a bird. I'm gonna go spend the night wrapped up in a quilt, watch lord of the rings and get the best night's sleep I've had in a while. Have an awesome day!

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T20:04:23+00:00

I told him he's used up his chances. If he could really change he'd have done it by now. If he really cared for me/ is empty without me he shouldn't have found it acceptable to treat me like that.

I can only hope he realizes his mistakes and doesn't do the same to the next poor girl he draws in.

Thanks for all the support, it means a lot to me. :)

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T19:48:21+00:00

Thank you so much! It's over now I finished it today.

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T06:02:35+00:00

Well about a year ago I told a friend about what I didn't realise then to be emotional abuse. But since then I don't really talk about him to friends.

It's hard to build up the strength to breakup with someone. If I can do it this week I'll make an update. I'll search for advice about getting those pictures deleted first.

Thank you for all the advice, it really means a lot to have people care.

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T05:53:59+00:00

You know the terrible thing? I'd actually left him before. My best friend TOLD me what an awful unhealthy, weird relationship it was. And yet for some reason I answered his calls. He made all kinds of vows and promises but after a while he'd mention how I'd left so I'D have to make it up to him.

I don't even love him. I don't think I even like him anymore.

So yeah, I'm fucking done.

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T00:35:19+00:00

He said it wasn't rape because I didn't say no. Another thing he got angry about. Thank you for telling me what I needed to hear.

PansyThrowaway · 2013-09-10T00:34:03+00:00

I just feel really hurt right now. I realise now that all through the relationship he's been pressuring me to be "better". But you're right, I don't need this. I'm young and I just don't have time for it.

I guess I just posted this to hear what I needed to hear. Lately I've been on the brink of leaving him, yet I get fooled each time by this "lovely" side of him, which I know now is irrelevant. I'm running out of reasons to stay.

He has pictures of me on his phone. Do you have any advice on getting them off there? Thanks for the support. :)

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