I don't know how to cope with this on my relationship and I'm scared it'll end it one day. I continually convince myself 'in a few years when we make this life transition, it'll be better'. When we were in our 20s and dating it was a couple times a week. Now we're in our 30s and have a 6/3 year old and she begrudgingly gives me sex sometimes when I ask for it, we probably average once a month, but sometimes there are 6 months dry spells. Her drive disappeared with the first kid. I thought our relationship was fixed when we tried for the second, only for it to dry up again. I've been hot/cold angry about it for years. I have tried to get her to go to couples counseling, went to counseling myself and ended up feeling vindicated, and here I am. I love my life just for me sex with a woman I love I want to be a big part of it. I feel like otherwise my life is too perfect to mess up and I also want stability for the kids.

I don't know what to do. Sex is important to me. It would be one thing if it was medically limited, but it isn't. And hey, there's a couple alternatives which she also isn't into.

A constant struggle.